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Hello Crystalcat

My first reaction was that he is still very yoiung hence 'I won't be able to have a car or holiday'. Perhaps a start would be getting him used to contributing into the household so when you do go he has some idea of the cost of running a home.

It's a difficult one and is expect there will never be a right time but may be he needs a bit more preparation before being parted from his mum and dad.

Regards

Vera

My son moved into a shared house when he was about 18, then got a rented flat from a Housing Association. He is 28 now and still struggles to pay his bills because for a short time he got into gambling to try and get enough money to help his then girlfriend and her son out. He gets vere depressed as he has several colleagues who have cars, nice holidays etc etc because they live at home with their parents. When he did live at home I charged him for his board and he only moved out because I complained that he didn't lift a finger to help me in the house, even tho I was working part time and unwell with fm and depression.
It upsets me when he can't do what he wants, and he is trying to find a better job with no luck, but he has to sort it out for himself. I do what I can and we get on well. It's hard when he sees his cousin, a month older than him, having nice cars, buying his own house etc etc but that's only cos my nephew works for his Dad, my brother, and they are really well off, and helped him buy the house and bought his first car for him.
If he didn't work for my bro he probably wouldn't have a job as a friend of mine works at the company and tells me my brother is always shouting at him that he costs him more than the lad earns for him, if you get me. He spends most of his time playing games on his computer or going on fb, takes his dogs to the office and tells people on fb that he takes the workers phones off them if they don't work enough. Arrogant little sod lol!

I am sure your son will be fine - go follow your dream.

Lizx