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A bit of a moan

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Jane

Jane Report 16 Apr 2011 16:08

Does anyone else feel a bit agrieved when you do all you can for someone and don't get any thanks for your efforts? I don't know how many times I've seen what looks like 'a match' on GR only to have it not be. Yet I've gone on to help the person, given information they might find useful and wished them well in their search. You'd think a 'thanks' would be in order, wouldn't you? Or is it just me?
Apoligiesd if this is the wrong board for rants like this!!

Janet

Janet Report 16 Apr 2011 17:24

know what you are saying....I sent quite a few details to someone a few weeks ago as I didn't want to share my tree as they had too many mistakes on theirs. Didn't get a reply.
A couple of months later I asked if they would like a copy of a marriage cert to confirm all my findings. At that point they were really enthusiastic but prior to that not so much as a thank you or acknowledgement. I have a similar one pending at the moment and an explanation has been given by a.n.other how to get back to the boards but the messages sent have been opened but not acted upon.......guess we are all different. -j

Researching:
Mellors of Fulstone- Haighs of Fulstone- Haighs of Horbury -Fowlers of Sheffield -Ashton/Acomb of Keighley-Broadheads of Mearhouse-Nixons of Bradfield- Hopwood of Dewsbury and Elland-Procter/Proctors of Malham

JustDinosaurJill

JustDinosaurJill Report 16 Apr 2011 20:27

Saying 'Thank you' costs nothing but a couple of seconds of a person's time but even that seems too much for some.

There will always be those who want, want, want. Thankfully we are not all that way inclined.

Not on GR but I used to say thanks or make an appreciative comment when corresponding with other people. I felt truly kicked when I was accused of 'always wanting the last word' by someone I had thanked.

I still say thanks but I still wonder if I will get accused of the same.

Jill

Researching:
Birmingham: Wood,Benson,Eadie,Wassall. Barnsley: Eadie. Whalsay,Sheltland: Polson,Poleson. Chipping Norton: Busby. Winchcombe: Goodall/Goodhall. Kate MM (Eadie) Meteyard. Sidney Herbert Meteyard - English Pre-Raphaelite Painter and member of the Birmingham Group. Meteyard/Meatyard family.

Liz 47

Liz 47 Report 16 Apr 2011 23:50

We have sent copies of photos and "family trees" several times,
and received no acknowledgement.
Perhaps we belong to the generation when manners were taught.
Liz

Researching:
Dad and Aunty Dolly with Grandad WW1

SpanishEyes

SpanishEyes Report 17 Apr 2011 08:16

I simply do not understand why anyone who has the time to ask for help does not have the time to say "Thank You". Whilst I may not be able to reply immediately, generally because the comp has gone down again because of our location, I add the reason why I could not respond earlier.
So please continue assisting people, this is such a delightful way of finding our relatives and ancestors most of us are very greatful.

09.17 hrs Spain

Researching:
Wrenn, Ford, and many others!