General Chat

As the search for my father is closing in my thoughts are turning to the final approach. I may be getting a relatives information very soon and feel I should go and talk to them first in person(an uncle of my father).

If he has an address for my father is the best way to gain contact with him through a letter ? Iam not the sort of person who would just go barging in on a family but I do want to gain contact with him.

Am I going about this in the right manner ? as I dont want anyone getting hurt or upset.

If your great uncle will act as a go between that would be the best approach however you need to tread carefully. I would say it would be better to write a letter which your great uncle could hand to him on your behalf or be sent if he doesn't wish to act on your behalf. That way you will have a chance to gather your thoughts and also your father can read it as many times as he wishes. You will also need to give your father time to come to terms with being found.

Be aware though that not all contacts are successful and be prepared for the worst outcome.

Thanks very much ZZzzz and TootyFruity wise words from you both.

I do understand that things may not turn out as I hope they will but I have to try for my own peace of mind ie. knowing I did all I could.

Thanks again and I will make a start on that letter which if feel is going to be quite a rollercoaster of emotions to write.

Good luck