General Chat

Bob there may have been a 'trigger' to me writing the OP, but it stands by itself I think without being at all 'cryptic' ? That when one is communicating with 'strangers' it is better to err on the side of caution when discussing anything that might be distressing or 'personal'.

However if you would like to know what the 'trigger' was I am more than happy to PM you so you can put my post in a specific context. :-)

Oh, I DO like these cryptic threads, where one is supposed/expected to be "in The loop" and can read behind the hidden meanings............/insinuations........

I hate rr'ing anyone and never did it for my first 4 months.

No one should get rr'd for disagreeing with another poster - that would be ridiculous.

I have never rr'd anyone who has sworn, blasphemed or told a risque joke. Perhaps I should have, but I feel it is better just to ignore something if it upsets me.

But what I do rr (and they almost always get upheld) is somebody who insults me personally. I think that is abusive and unnecessarily hurtful and insensitive. Quite a few have said that I am always polite to other posters. Well, I try hard to be but have failed a couple of times and 1. have apologised 2. been reported 3. been told off by Genes. I have accepted I have done wrong. Many of us lose our rag sometimes - but we have no right to make somebody else feel little.

but you don't RR them for disagreeing with you ....................... do you?? :-)

SylviaInCanada - I agree. I'm amazed that anyone should disagree with my often warped opinions. But I can sometimes understand their misunderstanding.

I also have a problem with people who RR because the other person has an opposing view


or declare that "this discussion is an an end. No-one else will post on here" ................ when the discussion has gone against them


That's no way to "discuss"!

Totally agree with you

But my problem is when we use the wrong words and we are RRd and its put back why do people RR it again !!

I,m lost

I seem to miss everything these days its my age I guess it had to happen I need more naps than I used to.
I see your point Cynthia as a mother of two on the spectrum its certainly worth others considering.
For my part I have used my circumstances and every other reason or excuse to say what I think. I have learnt the hard way which cost me dearly that its not ok just to speak out that others have to be considered. I hope my time on genes these days people have seen me being more considerate towards others rather than jumping in with both feet.

Quite simply, I think that people on these sort of sites hide behind anonimity. Nobody really knows who they are, so they speak more freely and feel that they can wind up other people while hiding behind a cybername and an avatar.
Anonimity is not always a bad thing, as people can unburdon their feelings without fear of comeback, and get good impartial advice in return.

very well put, Rose


and Cyn's comments are also something to bear in mind.

I have no objection to the content of my postings being wafted in eulogistic strains. Or visa versa - which is more likely!

Thank you RRose...So nicely written & much appreciated :-)

Thank you Rose, understand now :-D

Lynda I have sent you a PM, just to put this in context :-)

We used to have a young member who was autistic, Rose, back in the day. It was pretty obvious to those of us with experience of autism and a parent later added an explanation.

That's a very good point Cynthia, I only have a little personal experience of autism, and unless you have personal experience it may be hard to recognise, especially when one is confined to reading rather than knowing the person.

It's certainly worth bearing in mind :-)

Am now wondering what i missed :-S

Very good point, Rose.

We none of us know the circumstances of others but, I would hope, most of us realise that there are topics that can cause deep distress to others. This because we may have personal experience of the subject or we are close to someone who does.

The upset is compounded when these deep feelings of distress are dismissed by insensitive posters. It's nothing to do with being PC, although some may like to pretend it is in order to excuse their gross ignorance and lack of compassion.

This behaviour goes way beyond the spats they break out on the boards from time to time and points to some kind of personality disorder or a deliberate attempt to cause distress.

It also appears, on a not unrealted topic, that some people are only too keen to dish it out but turn into sensitive flowers when they get it back.

Gwynne

I agree, also with what Cynthia says,but in the cases/reasons she states there are reasons for it ,in others its just to get a "Kick" out of upsetting others and generally causing mayhem for fun. :-( By the way, As you say you go green, Does that mean you are related to those "Litte Green Men" we so often hear about.? From Mars. :-D :-D :-D

Be afraid Merlin, be very afraid :-D

I go green, you wouldn't like me when I go green ;-)

Joking apart when someone is down, unwell and worried
why be horrible to them and make it worse.