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A depressive morning..

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Leslie

Leslie Report 13 Feb 2019 08:34

65 years we had together..
Now what is there??
Empty house..
Empty rooms..
Empty arms..
I feel like a car stuck in a desert..
No fuel left..
Nights longer than days..
Loneliness prevails..
Emptiness comes..
Comfort and security have gone..
Depression comes..
I lay awake at night
Waiting for answers to appear..
Is life really this cruel??
Emptiness comes..
Depression comes..

Is this a typical feeling after 2 years of departure?? Does it ever go away??
The tears are coming again..I must go before I embarrass myself in front of everybody...
Thank you all for listening to me...CHRIST!!!!! Am I really this sad a person??
LES...








Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 13 Feb 2019 08:53

Bless you Les

They will always be with you


I do know how you feel . I lost my darling in oct 2015 we had been married for 58 years

Met when I was 18 and he was 21 and married two years later

He was the other part of me . We were best friends as well as hubby and wife

I often feel very lonely with just me and the cat . I speak to his photo and tell him I love and miss him and the eyes well up

I can hear him say " don't be daft!" but with a smile on his face

Does it ever go away . At this point I think no ,but it does ease a bit as time goes by

I have accepted he has gone and think really it was the kindest thing for him to go as he was so very poorly at the end and did suffer .


We have our memories and they are the precious things to hang on to

<3

AnninGlos

AnninGlos Report 13 Feb 2019 09:29

Thinking of you Les and sorry you are feeling so sad. We miss seeing you on here. come on and chat to us sometimes <3 <3

LondonBelle

LondonBelle Report 13 Feb 2019 09:50

Aww Les.....there is no right way to deal with grief, we all deal with it differently <3 <3. Have you thought about speaking with your GP about getting some counseling, you would not be first nor the last <3 <3

Sharron

Sharron Report 13 Feb 2019 10:42

You cry, Les. There is a reason you have the ability to do so.

Sixty-five lovely years to remember. How sad it would be if you had had all those years and they had left you with no reason to cry.

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 13 Feb 2019 11:03

That's so very true Sharron

Very lovely put

Tenerife Sun

Tenerife Sun Report 13 Feb 2019 11:19

It took me 3 years to just come to terms with my husband passing. When I mentioned this to some friends who were also widowed they agreed it also took them about three years. keep trying to look forward. My thoughts are with you. x

Barbra

Barbra Report 13 Feb 2019 12:06

Les hold your memories in your Heart remember the good times laugh & cry no one will bother.come on here for a chat always be someone there for you Take Care (Hug) for you xx Barbara <3

Elizabethofseasons

Elizabethofseasons Report 13 Feb 2019 12:12

Dear Leslie and All <3
Take gentle care
Love Elizabeth, EOS
xx

SheilaSomerset

SheilaSomerset Report 13 Feb 2019 12:36

You're human.
It never goes away but it does get easier to 'cope' with.
Everyone has their own journey.

<3

David

David Report 14 Feb 2019 04:09

You're never alone Leslie.
So many of us sympathise, knowing what your'e experiencing.
It never entirely goes away, it subsides.

It's good to talk. <3 <3

RolloTheRed

RolloTheRed Report 14 Feb 2019 13:26

Old friends
Sat on their park bench like bookends
A newspaper blowin' through the grass
Falls on the round toes
Of the high shoes
Of the old friends
Old friends
Winter companions, the old men
Lost in their overcoats, waiting for the sunset
The sounds of the city sifting through trees
Settle like dust
On the shoulders of the old friends
Can you imagine us years from today
Sharing a park bench quietly?
How terribly strange to be seventy
Old friends
Memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fear
A time it was, and what a time it was, it was
A time of innocence
A time of confidences
Long ago it must be
I have a photograph
Preserve your memories
They're all that's left you

Paul Simon

**Ann**

**Ann** Report 14 Feb 2019 19:04

Sending you hugs Leslie <3 <3 <3

Haribo

Haribo Report 14 Feb 2019 21:37

So Sorry

Caroline

Caroline Report 14 Feb 2019 21:50

Les you're not a sad person you're a human being with feelings. Don't bottle it up it's much better to just cry if you need to, as others have said you had so many happy years together of course you're sad. Take care of yourself.

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 15 Feb 2019 23:11


So sorry I didn't see this yesterday, Les.

Hope you are feeling a bit less emotional today and can get a good night's sleep. I think your frozen shoulder is making you miserable too, hopefully it will mend soon and as the days lengthen you can get outside more. I will try to give you a ring again soon.

Thanks for the forgotten page you sent, I will look through my Merry details and try to follow the links.

Take care, Les x Chin up

Picture Audrey meeting up with our cousin Monty, who left us on Jan 22. The family chain is being linked together again.

Mersey

Mersey Report 15 Feb 2019 23:25

Hi Leslie as always sending you <3 <3 and thinking of you
at this sad time but sending you special :-D :-D :-D for all
the happy memories you have that can never be taken from you
as they are held in both your hearts for safe keeping under lock
and key a chain that can never be broken held with strength and
love always

<3 <3

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 17 Feb 2019 01:25


Les has been keeping busy sorting out the way mine and Audrey's family fit together so three times this week he's posted me pages of beautifully handwritten information along with printed info. The thing that shows up is the way my late Dad's name is changed round so much, I always knew him to be A. E. but it's shown on a census as E.A. and he told me that the army got it the wrong way round too. All his family knew him as A. and he married my mum as A. E. On one census my Grandfather's name was down as E. instead of A.E.(same initials but different names). I will send more info back to Les, that will keep him out of mischief.

I know his family and local friends keep a good eye on him too

Thanks for the latest letter, Les p.s. it's no 18 but the postie knows where to bring it now

Lizxx