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Lavender don't worry about it, go again. I bet no one will say anything or remember.
I would have felt like you years ago cos thats the way my mum made me feel. I was so tense all the time incase I let someone down, was late, spilt something, dropped something, made a mistake ...........But I've learnt to be more relaxed and found everyone doesn't expect me to be perfect.

Next weekend I will have a house full. My daughter and her partner are coming to stay and my daughters friend. Daughter met this lad when she worked with him in Japan. He went home to Australia and later his parents allowed my daughter to house sti for three months with him and her then boyfriend in a lovely appartment in Perth. This friend was coming here a couple of years ago but found he had cancer. He has now finished his chemo and is having time in England. He's only 26 bless him. Plans to show him as much as posbible in a short weekend! Hope the weather stays like this.

Thank you, Carole. Am still smarting a bit. I think that it is because mental health people are always full of promises that never come to anything and over the years am always let down. It feels a bit conflicting since if I don't go then others get more time (not that I have received any treatments yet in the three weeks I have attended). The shrink thought that it would be good for me to have some pampering instead of always looking after others.

So sorry to hear of this young man. You can always hear of others far worse than oneself. How terrible for him to have endured this and at such a young age. I have a young man staying with us who has suffered a breakdown but he is slowly getting himself back together, fortunately.

Thank you for your kind reply, I'll see how I feel when Friday comes! x :-)

Hello everyone,

Have not been on for ages, hardly dared posting after all that time.
There has been so much going on, still is, which is very traumatisinig, it is still going on, and probably be worse before it gets better.Not really to do with my health, but my loved ones happiness, which is a million times worse for me.
My eldest, the badly handicapped one, is coming here in a few hours with her husband, this time from Ireland, where they moved to last year, because his mother is seriously ill in hospital, actually, in the last stages of cancer, as they say here. She was diagnosed with thryoid cancer (her mother died of this at a fairly young age) about 12 years ago. Since then, it has spread, in spite of the great care by specialiasts over the years.It is now in many organs. There is now talk about euthanasia-she wants it. Terrible descision to for her to make. The idea of knowing exactly the day & time you are going to leave this earth.....phew. For my s.i.l and his sister, it is almost as bad. So, not a happy visit at all. As for the other 'stuff' going on, that is dreaful too, but not so life-threatening.. Have to see about my eyesight, have to see if I have age-related macular degeneration, which is VERY scary....but,having said that, I wish I could make a deal with whoever is in charge-wherever, to let my loved ones be pain & illness free and be VERY happy...no way can this happen.

Must get moving, have a lot to do before my daugher & her husband arrive, want to make them at least comfortable whilst they are here....I cannot ease their pain... I have really admired my s.i.l's mum, she is what you would call eccentric, a great, courageous woman, we have had many laughs together and were able to exchange our concerns over the many years....haven't bothered her with any probs for years now, knowing how diffiucul her life has become with this terrible disease.Bless her. I only hope I get the chance to say goodbye to such a decent, funny, courageous before she dies. I am not sure, but think the descision for her to end her life will be sometime this coming week. Soooo sad.

Have tried to read some of the postings on this thread, but, to be honest, I can't seem to concentrate, so just wish you all a lot of happiness and peace of mind, which is the most anyone can wish to have.

God bess you all. Eileen

nudge up

Eileen, good to see you back on here. In case you look back in, I will drop in again tomorrow and answer the posts properly, must go to bed now. <3 <3

Hi all

I havent been on here for awhile.

Lavenden hope you go back.Sounds as you enjoy your self there.

I havent read all post.

I am waiting in for housing repairs to come and get my heating working again. Thing is i know how to do it as its just the presser gone down yet again.But hand cant turn the knob.So have to wait until bloke gets here.Havent heard yet when they coming

.I cant get any hot water so had to have cold wash.,i was going to boil kettle,but cant carry it to bath room.But it woke me up more.

{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}to you all

Hazelx

Eileen hello!! So sorry to hear such sadness in you're families lives at the moment. Lovely to see you here xxx

Lavender you need to go back to get it out of the way. Don't sit at home worrying about it cos really it's not worth the worry. xxx

Caz good to see your nudge! At least that lets us know you are still reading us xxx

Hazel hope you got your heating and hot water sorted out. How are the twins? xx

It took ages to get on here, ket getting a message saying 'error'etc. GRRRR.This happens all the time.

Am waiting for my daughter and husband to get back from hospital, quite dreading the news....

Thank you Carole & Anne for your 'welcome back' message. I am afraid I have been very lax in posting.a lot to do with BIG probs with this pc,even though it has been at the pc doctor twice ion a couple of months, nearly 4 weeks altogether, but also because of very sad, traumatic probs of a private and family reason. Sooooo sad and difficult.

Wish it wasn't my birthday tomorrow, I honestly don't want to distract anyone from the enormous probs going on, and because I know my daughter (s) want to make it something special, in spite of me telling them I HONESTLY don't want to celebrate it, as I did in previous years. No big deal as far as I am concerned.My g.son Douglas came along to pick up some things so he could give my old banger a small 'service'...this means more ot me than presents!!!!!! Her ex-husband came from France to be with her, he never stopped loving her. It is all so extremely sad.

Thank you for the support Anne & Carole. Must go see to a meal for daughter & her husband.

Eileen x

My s.i's mum is still the same as yesterday. none of us know when the terrible descision will be made.

Hello again Eileen, What a sad time in your family for you all and what a decision to be made.

Computers are great until they go wrong aren't they? then they are sooo frustrating.

Your SiL's Mother is obviously a very courageous lady and it is good that she has at least had 12 years of life after diagnosis. She is now facing the inevitable with even more courage and it will be her family who will suffer more than she does when she eventually decided it is time. I shall be thinking of her family and you at this sad time.

whether we like it or not be can't stop birthdays arriving so try and enjoy your birthday tomorrow for your daughters' sakes. many Happy returns. <3 <3

Eileen what ever is happening anywhere life goes on we can't stop that. So let your family try to make a little fuss for your birthday. It will most likely be a little light relief for them with
the terrible choices that await them. What country is sil's mum in? My she pass peacefully.
Eileen pleased you got your computer back. Mine is slow I wonder if it's all the stuff I have on the memory? On here the error's with posting are a nusance.

Ann like you say computers are great when they are running okay!

Thank you once again for your kind words Carole.

I have never really liked being in the limelight, fbut this year, it seems quite wrong somehow to be clebrating it, when my s.i.l's mum will be put on a special drip on friday, the beginning of a longish journey,It could take days before she dies.Horrific for them all to sit there watching her slipping away.My s.i.l went straight up to bed at 17.30 when they got home from hospital.He is very upset, needless to say.
His mum lives here in Holland.Daughter & her husband moved fromFrance last year to Ireland, as did their two eldest & their kids, and now their son moved there a couple of months ago with hs girfriend.I suspect their last child will move there soon with her husband too.

We all just want a peaceful, painless passing for s.i.l's mum.

Since I came up here to use the pc, the mobile of s.i.l has been ringing on and off.Probably their children calling.

Will try keep in touch more often.

Good night and sleep well everyone.

Eileen

Thank you, Carole. I'll see how I feel on Friday. I did write a little email on Sunday but haven't heard anything back. It always irritates me that in society generally one normally gets a response back from an email within a day or two but not so with anything connected to mental health. We are obviously not considered worthy of a line acknowledging receipt of our letter :-(

Hi all

Got heating back. The bloke found out what was happig each time i havent had it on for few days. But he soted it out within an hour.

Carole
Twins are doing find. picture is of them a week ago. I will be seing them at weekend as i am looking after they brother Arron on Saturday. other nan is having the twins.

Eileen hope your s.i.l's mum is not in pain and past peacefully

I have been putting togeather a flat pack bookshelf tonight. But need help doing the rest of it you need two people to do the rest. So i am waiting for someone to come help me later.Bit upset that couldnt do rest by myself.never mind. I have over done it doing to much over the last few days away. So going to pay for it over next few days. And i have a cold coming out as well.

{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}for everyone

Hazelx

hazel the twins are gorgeous, they are getting big now. Bless them. Hope you get somebody to help with the flat pack.

Lavender, hope you can get that sorted soon.

Eileen I hope you enjoyed your birthday in the end. Still thinking of your SiL's mother.

Thanks Ann for thinking of me.

Hazel, the twins have grown so much I could hardly believe it! They look absolutely gorgeous. Just received a pretty pic of ours today in their coordinating coats, they are talking now and such fun. For the first time one of them asked where their Grandpa was - a memorable moment! Hope yours stay well over the winter months, I shall say one for them this evening. x

Hi all

I may have found the baptism of my ancestor George Coombs after 7 years.

My George was a London coachman. He died in 1831 in Pancras aged 41. So born about 1790.

His first son was called Matthew George Coombs. His first daughter and only known daughter was called Margaret Coombs.

A George Coombs was baptised in Bincombe, Dorset in January 1790 son of Matthew and Margaret Coombs.

Ben

Hi Ben, Did he have a connection to Dorset? What makes you think this is your George. I am not saying it isn't but I am interested as to how you made the leap from London to Dorset. My Gt Gt Grandfather was a coachman in London, he was born in Hampshire then moved to London, he died about 1832 but can I find his death??? No I can't. I do hope you have found your man. Good luck with it Ben.

Coombs is a notable West Country name. And the names of this Georges parents and my George's children and the date of baptism fits well.

I have extensively researched London registers and ruled out any George Coombs born 1780-1795 there. In 1841 his widow Sarah living in Marylebone said she was not born in county. I dont think my George came from London.

You dont have to have a reason to make a leap from one county back in many cases as London was a magnet for people from other parts of England. And the surname is mainly found in the west of England.

Well done Ben, it sounds good.

I was talking to a friend this morning who has been on Citalopram fro 2 weeks. Obviously it hasn't started to work yet and she doesn't expect it to for a few weeks. But she is getting a burning sensation all over her skin, under the skin which then makes her overheat. Has anyone else experienced anything similar. Her doctor doesn't seem to know what causes it.