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Hi Tinkers so clan were talking to you all day and im pleses you will get there and i know its hard were you nearly take your one live ,my daughter did three years ago age 47 she would have been 50 30 november and i only had one daughter,
so im here for you every step of the way even thou i leave in Holland i will be here for you ,all of us ladys on here will get you on abetter way i hope you did,nt mind me wring to you about my daughter but i had only one and 4 sons
Love Joyce/Dutchxxx

Thank you ladies it means a lot

Had a bad night last night been up since Half 4 with a splitting headache

Carole I did buy some kalms

Dutch I'm sorry to hear about ur daughter

I'm still in a pretty dark place right now tho I'm not in tears much now

I am still thinking bout taking one day at a time

I woke up with a flipping water infection so will have to call in the doctors this afternoon for the walk in surgery

I've finished the scarf I was making so will have to think of something else to keep me busy

I started digging my tree stuff out but give up cos I couldn't concentrate so maybe after the new year if I'm feeling stronger ill go and get lost into my history as I've not done out in ages

I still feel pretty numb and feel so lost

I've been having internet problems so haven't been online very much but I've been thinking about you and willing you on. Sorry to hear you have another infection - all these things do pull you down, but hang on in there and you will get better, even if it takes a little while.

I've never been in as bad a place as you but others on here have and really understand what you are going through. So try out all their suggestions, you're sure to find one or two techniques that help you along the way. And just keep reminding yourself that you have lots of cyber friends on here and lean on their support when you need it.

Thank u so much Vera it means alot

Today has been a difficult day. The person who caused all this grief for e wanted to meet up either I'm daft or plain stupid I agreed to meet and it ended up with more pain and heartache and I'm in tears again

I just guess I need to get a backbone

Emotional blackmail Michelle as I have said before. Stay strong and thank you for my card <3

I'm glad u got it ok Ann

That's wat my hubby said emotional blackmail but my problem is I'm too soft and I don't like fighting

One thing for sure tho my depression is starting to ease a wee bit and not so many tears now I no I will get threw this

But

I have to learn to stand up for myself and gain some confidence cos at the minute I'm a nervous wreck

I no it's going to b difficult over Xmas but no doubt ill get threw it

And in may I'm going to c Barry manilow I can't wait its sumthing to look forward too

Today hasn't been too bad a day there's been no tears and I've stayed calm and piece full all day

Dutch I think I owe you a thank you ( I'm not sure if it were you That sent me a Xmas card) if it was thank you very much

Joyce was going to send one (Dutch) so it probably was her Michelle. Pleased that you have had a better day and you certainly will get through this. And I envy you going to see Barry Manilow. :-)

I thought it was but wasn't 100 per cent sure

As for Barry manilow he isn't on until may and I can't wait seems ages away and its not too far from home either so that's a bonus

Well today it has been calm and peacefully I haven't had no tears since Tuesday morning I think it was

Tho I still have along way to go I am taking things one day at a time

My husband is still giving me my medication as I still don't trust myself with them as yet

Onwards and upwards as they say

Hi Tinkers I'm pleased to read your post that things are getting a little better for you. I don't know the story of the person you say started this.
Is it someone close? A family member who you don't want to cut off altogether?
Do you think the calms are helping you?
How are the relaxation techniques? Do you find they are helping you? I have been having trouble getting to sleep so the last three nights used one or another and found myself to drop off to sleep.
Do you like doing crosswords, word search or similar? If you find it too hard to concentrate for long these are something you can easily put down, and start again later.
Walks are good too, even a short walk, give yourself a goal and do it every day. Then as you get used to it make your goal bigger. Have a set time to do it and make it your routine. Even if its just to the end of your garden where you feel safe :-)
How's your Christmas planning going? Do you have all your cards wrote out yet?

Hi carol thank u for ur reply yes it s someone close to me that started this

I am starting to co e to terms with what's happened tho I'm not in tears so much now tho haven't had any for almost a week now so I guess that must b a good sign

Christmas is going to b difficult so decided its just going to b a normal day for me

I feel as if kalms is doing something to calm me down abit

Tho only thing I'm finin difficult ne is my eating disorder I can't seem to hav any control over it and when I last saw the doctr he just told me to go back o slimming world tho slimming world are good I feel it's my doctor that should me supporting me with that

I do hav mobility issues so ion for a walk is not a option but do have a mobility scooter so I could take of in that and maybe go down the woods near where we live as its lovely and piece full down there

I would just like to say a huge thank you to you guys on here as u ave been my rock whilst going threw this difficult time

You are doing very well Michelle and it will be easier for you once Christmas is over. But why not make Christmas day special for you and your other half. No need to go over the top but enjoy each others company, watch something nice on TV and think of something special you would like to eat for your Christmas meal, sometimes little nibbles might be the answer, but all nice tasty things. If you let what happened spoil your and your OH's Christmas the other person has won really. Go on, think of something special. If it is nice Christmas day could you drive down to the coast (Lee maybe) and take your mobility scooter. Or doesn't it go in the car? I would love to be able to go down to Lee on Christmas day. That would be special to me if the weather was good. :-)

Been to lee today I love it down there and to meon shore love it there too

Yes the scooter dose go in car I'd b house bound if i didn't

Tinkers,
There are a number of good websites that can help with eating disorders.
My daughter found this one really helpful as it covers a wide range of problems including anorexia, bulimia and over-eating

http://www.b-eat.co.uk/

Thank you Glasgow lass ill go and have a look

Hi all

It's been a while since I've bawled my eyes out tho I am still feeling low and taking one step at a time I am starting to looking into the future tho I'm dreading Christmas but will try and make it special

Well done Michelle for being positive