General Chat

So glad you have had some positive things happening to you, and that you can see light at the end of the tunnel, tinkers. Stay on that track and life will keep giving you little boosts to keep you going.


Lizxxx

Dear Tinkers

Hello

So pleased you have got shower and lift works completed.

Nice to see you posting.


Take gentle care of yourself
With many good wishes
Elizabeth,
xx

i havent been on hear for a long time sending my love and support to everyone <3

carolina x x

Hope you are doing ok Carolina, so nice to hear from you again

Lizxx

im very well thank you liz

carolina x x

very pleasing to see this thread is still on the go since 2008 <3

Carolina how nice to see you and to see that you are well

thank you Ann

carolina x x

Hello from me as well. Still living in chaos, though much less than when the family were living with me. Grandson now 13, has become aggressive and one never knows when one may receive a blow. I worry about his future. Mainstream people only see the blows and have no idea why this happens. Unfortunately he tends to use smaller children and his one sister Sarah as targets. I will only look after him now when he has been well sedated!
Not particularly enjoying retirement, miss the routine and the peer interaction.
Normally mid-August it's blazing hot here but it's more like October, can't remember such a summer. Much wetter and windier as well than the norm. Unfortunately 2 of my granddaughters are now being treated for anxiety/depression, wish I could have passed on something less challenging!!
best wishes to all on the board, think of you all fondly.
Mary <3

Hi Mary,

O.h.'s nephew who is 32 and has had problems for years, is getting worse and his mother is trying to get him some help. He can't hold down a job and is getting aggressive which is worrying her no end. He has his own flat but is in debt with rent etc and was letting someone store things there and then selling them so the man is angry with him. Now he has a broken arm, supposedly when he fell off his bike but I wonder if the man with the lost goods did it. His Mum has never really acknowledged that he has Aspergers or Autism in any form altho he was always struggling at school. She hasn't been that supportive of him in the past but now he is causing her trouble by hounding her for money and such, and phoning at all hours, she is doing what she can. He should have had a lot more support when he was young, she was a single parent who met a really good chap who was good with the lad but she messed things up and they split when the boy was in his late teens so he ended up homeless and then got a flat. Now she is married to someone else who has no kids so doesn't understand the responsibilities of parenthood, it doesn't stop when children become adults and have problems.

I am sorry G. is becoming so hard to manage, he is a big lad so I can understand you are fearful and it must get everyone down. It's sad that two of the girls have anxiety and depression, let's hope they can cope with medication and make good lives for themselves. They are so pretty, all of the girls.

How is your Megan now? I hope she is doing ok and your son too, you have had a lot to cope with and I hope your health is such that you can get out sometimes, maybe you will get an Indian summer before winter kicks in.

Lots of love
Lizxxx

Thanks Liz. Yes the parental responsibility does not end when they age!! Today Colleen came over here for a few minutes and left G with his sisters, by the time she got home he had broken the glass in their back storm/screen door and cut his belly. The glass had only been replaced 3 weeks ago, thanks to a kind friend from her church who owns a window company, replaced 3 of her 6 broken windows including the door. I saw him this morning and thought he was gearing up so I'm not surprised, he was probably angry that his Mum had left briefly. Oh to hear him express his thoughts. I saw a photo of Claire's son yesterday and was stunned at how like our G he is. So remarkable, I truly wonder if there is some family connection!! As G's father was born in Belfast and adopted, who knows who the kids could be blood-related to!! Wouldn't that be something after all our years on this thread if we found out two of us have a connection!!
I'm having a "day off" no child care today.
Hugs all round,
Mary

Maybe Colleen's friend needs to use safety glass if this continues to happen, as G could have cut more than his belly and lost too much blood. Or he could push someone through the glass and injure them badly. At least if it's safety glass of some sort there would be less risk. I think there is some kind of safety film you can stick on glass, perhaps that would be a better bet.

Hope you enjoyed your day off

love and hugs

Lizxxxx

hi all im so sorry I haven't been around much as ive been trying to get on with things

past couple of weeks I have been poorly with me asthma and over the weekend things got worse where I ended up in hospital and I was allowed to come home this morning to recover

tho im suffering a lot from breathless ness I am suffering a lot with me breathing too say I get up to go to the little girls room me panicy feelin will start and im having to fight with myself to calm down tho it is a struggle. nothing has upset me to cause this lot of panicy feeling tho I have an appointment to c me gp in a couple of weeks and have to c the asthma nurse tomorrow to get that sorted out

thank you so much for listening

I needed to do a food shop from the supermarket and my sidekick said im not allowed and have to take things easy lol

Hi Michelle, why don't you do an on line shop, or send sidekick?

Sorry you have had a problem with th asthma, I wonder if worrying about that starts off the panic attacks. Hope you start to improve soo. Keep in touch. <3 <3

thanx ann I didn't think about online shopping to b honest but sidekick offered to go anyway good thing I suppose cos I managed to grab half hours sleep lol

thinking bout the panicy feeling I wonder if its cos ive been taking on to much if that makes sense cos last time it happened I was badly hurt by someone close to me but this time im just getting on with life and enjoying it best way I can nah that sounds daft lol

I am not an expert Michelle but I wonder if the first panic attack is caused by maybe stress and subsequent ones are because you worry you are going to have one.

maybe ann maybe but they are horrible to have

Hi Tinkers,

just keep doing what you are doing, taking each day as it comes and trying to quell your panicky feelings, it sounds as tho you have some good support around you. Have you tried to do deep breathing exercises so that you can let go of the panic by concentrating on the breathing. I know it's difficult but maybe if you can distract yourself by doing something that needs a lot of concentration it will make the panic attacks ease off.

Good Luck, hope you have a better day today

Lizxx

morning liz
thanx very much, I had a little more comfortable night and I thinkthe steroids r kicking in for the asthma and I am just concentrating on the breathing exercise,

I am signed off for a month at the moment.

Having a bit of a wobbly I think it was well overdue but I didn't have time for it before.

Thought I was all through it a couple of days ago, had a day out, only went to work with OH but it was in the New Forest, then yesterday it felt like day one again.

Think I will feel altogether better when I am through it.