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One day at a time Sharron, enjoy the good ones and ride out the bad. You will get there when your body has recovered from the past few years. And you are right, you just didn't have time before and you have time for you now. I can tell from your posts that you still have your quirky sense of humour. Hang in there <3

Sharron, just do as I said with Tinkers, one day at a time, deal with any difficult bits like forms, phonecalls etc as soon as you feel up to them, bribe yourself even, but otherwise don't put too much pressure on yourself and if you feel angry or sad go with it, slam a door, thump the wall or have a good howl, don't try to hold the feelings in as that just makes things worse in the end.

Will be thinking about you and tinkers and anyone feeling low.

I am feeling stressed at the mo as we are going away on Sunday for two weeks (back to Derbyshire) but o.h. leaves everything to me and I am so tired. Had to go and have more blood tests today as my leg is still swelling each day despite being put on to new blood pressure meds. Am also waiting to hear date of scan to see what is causing pressure on my eye, possibly 'just' low pressure glaucoma but the doc wants to check there is nothing nasty hiding there. Just what I want to worry about during my holiday! I will try to forget the thoughts when I am away, have reading material and my new Galaxy Note to play with when I can access wifi so will try and keep in touch with what's happening here. Tideswell is very relaxing so will enjoy chilling out altho we do hope to visit more places this time and I will be meeting up with Sheila and Glyn, Sallie and Alan, if poss, and I plan to visit Flying Doctor if she isn't back in hospital - if that happens will have to invade the hospital instead.

Take care everyone

Lizxxx

liz thank you for ur reply it meens a lot

last night I didn't get much sleep and today im feeling abit stressed but am trying soo hard to control the breathing

sounds totley stupid but the only place I can get some sleep is if im in the car (my oh driving of course )

Tinkers, I had to smile when you say you sleep well in the car. My o.h. used to have to take his baby son for a drive to get him off to sleep lol so you carry on dozing in the passenger seat and get what rest you can when you can. If you feel tired, get o.h.to take you for a little drive.

I never doze off in the car when o.h. is driving as he needs constant reminding of which way to go, he is hopeless even round our city where he has lived all his life.

Now when I drive he nods off very quickly, I tell him it's like having a nodding dog in the front instead of the back lol cos suddenly I will notice his head lol forward or sidewards and he will jerk awake several times till he goes right off. Good job I know my way around better than he does lol

Lizxx

I sleep in the bath.

It was my salvation all the time Fred was alive, the place I unwound a bit.

Hot water, lavender oil and we have a nice big bath, I supplied my own when the housing association did the bathrooms because theirs was narrow and had no traction to get out.

I can get into a kind of foetal position in there and do two or three hours sometimes by just topping up the hot occasionally.

I have glass fibre packed around the bath as insulation so it stays hot longer. I was organized alright!

it sounds daft but that's the only place where I can close my eyes and drop of to sleep but cant b doing that every time I wanna go to sleep can I lol

I am starting to control my breathing again tho it is hard

I spent last Monday in hospital with asthma attack and since coming home again I am trying to start living life as normal as can be if that make sense

My daughter 15 yrs old suffers with very high anxiety,pcs and binge eating disorder, drs are talking about mildly medicating her to try and help.Does anyone have any experience of this and if so will it help.
Sorry everyone I just don't know what to do for the best.
Been struggling for over 2 yrs with this so far.

hi all just a little update

I think im getting this bout of panicky feelings out of the way as they are starting to get easier
well for now anyway

evening all

ive had this nasty cough fir just over a week now and its started my panicky attack of again and im struggling to control my breathing that im having to either sit in garden or sit next to an open window #
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imm soo having problems cpntroling my breathing

I don't really know if I have ever had depression. I was on tranquilisers for some years as a teenager but, looking back, it was probably despair at what I had been dealt.

My problem now is that I am just so overwhelmed by what I have to organize. I seem to be beset by the disorganized methods of outside bodies.

I am not particularly unhappy, just overwhelmed.

Luckily I have a doctor who had visited Fred on several occasions and probably saw that I was showing the effects of listening out every night for seven years.

He looks willing to not make me go through all the motions of looking for that job I am very unlikely to get at 61, having been out of the job market for eight years and owning no decent working clothes.

I just have to carry out a lot of unnecessary admin and try to live on nothing while the DWP decide I might be entitled to a few pence. Actually they have, after five weeks, awarded me a goodly sum,hm!

Now I just have to pay the rent arrears, go to the bank to see why my cash card won't let me in on line, get the power company to take back the cheque they sent Fred after I told them he was dead, pay the credit card that I have been forced to live on, clear the overdraught. The I can buy the TV licence, pay the next electricity bill, get some more pills for the cat and pay his vet's bill. That will bring us to Christmas. What would you like me to buy you?

nudge

morning all I thought id give a wee update on my progress

well my panic attacks are few and far between now

in September I joined my local slimming world and lost 2 stone 11 pounds which I am proud with myself as ive already lost 10 per cent of my weight yippee

ive even made plans for Christmas which I didn't think I would lol

I still have my down days where I get depressed and cane be bothered with anything but are more copeable with

Well done Michelle, keep going. the weight loss is fantastic. I hope you have a lovely Christmas. <3

I have had a little eye opener recently that I hope I will be able to work on.

As you know, I didn't have an idyllic childhood and I am currently signed off by the doctor for stress having been a carer for seven years.

All my life I have procrastinated and had mental blocks about doing ridiculously simple things that I actually want done. It has always annoyed me but I have lived around it, assuming it really was one of the flaws in my character that my parents had lost no opportunity to berate and humiliate me for.

I was looking up something about stress on the internet because I am interested in how cortisol affects the body particularly.

Something popped up that listed the symptoms of depression and there it was, procrastination, along with several other things I grew up being soundly berated for.

you are doing so well Michelle <3

so pleased to see this thread still going since 2008 and hopefully helping people cope - my clinical depression is well under control as long as I keep taking the tablets :-D :-D

From something I have been looking into, I think Michelle may well have lost more weight by working on her stress than she might otherwise have done.

Have a look at cortisol, the stress hormone, on the internet.

It lays down fat on the body and replicates the symptoms of Cushings Disease.

Well done Michelle - I admire your strength of character. Losing weight can be a huge boost to one's self-esteem and state of mind, as I know from past experience. Good on you - keep it up :-)

Hi Tinkers...I think you are doing so so well, infact you should be so proud of yourself......you do whatever makes you happy within yourself, and you will shine...

If you are feeling better doing what you are doing, then carry on, and be the person you want to be.........

We all suffer in different ways, and though you may not feel it you have more strength than you know.......

Everyone deserves to be happy...feel proud of how far you have come already <3

nudge up for a member

hi everyone

hope everyone is doing ok

just a wee update on my progress

well I still have my down days were I am in tears all the time but my good days are pretty good

I have lost 3 and 1/2 stone in weight still got loads to lose but im determine to lose heaps more

once again I would just like to thank every one of u that supported me when I was really suffering

xx