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Never expected family research to be easy.....but

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Dea

Dea Report 6 Dec 2005 14:38

Oh Fiona, I am SO happy for you AND your mum, AND your new family members - I followed the thread at the beginning and thought you handled things very well and very sensitively - I wondered if you had told your mum and if you had got any further forward. Again, even though this is a very exciting find and very emotional for you - It is obvious that you are still considering the feelings of the other people involved, especially your elderly grandmother. I am sure you will handle things just as thoughtfully from here forward and feel confident that ALL your family will be happily reunited in the near future - thanks to you.! They should all be very proud to have you as a family member. Please let us know how things evolve. Very best wishes, Dea x

Merry

Merry Report 6 Dec 2005 14:41

Oh ****** Fiona!! What a frightening thing for you to have to deal with.......are your grandmother's other children talking about telling her??? Where do they all live? In the UK (I know you're not!) I have a fluttering tum just thinking about this........... Very best of luck! Merry

Merry

Merry Report 6 Dec 2005 14:42

Shall we have a collection for a ticket back for you?? Merry

Tillot

Tillot Report 6 Dec 2005 14:50

Fiona, I've only just read this thread (obviously missed it before) Oh my gosh!!!! I have goose bumps all over! What a great story! I really hope it has a happy ending. How terrible for your Mum to have believed her mother was dead for all these years, it must be a real shock for her to say the least. I really hope you and Mum get to meet your Grandmother/Mother in the future. I think this story should be on the Jeremy Kyle show! All the best and let us know what happens next and well done for all your 'digging' efforts! Helen x

Jackie

Jackie Report 6 Dec 2005 14:56

What a lovely story Fiona. I am so very pleased for you. Thank you for sharing it and good luck to you all. Jackie x

Helen in Berkshire

Helen in Berkshire Report 6 Dec 2005 15:06

Congratulations, Fiona! I too have only just seen this thread, but well done for how you've handled this delicate subject, and I hope you and your mother reap your just reward for it! Good luck and best wishes for the meeting with your grandmother when it happens. Helen

Margaret

Margaret Report 6 Dec 2005 15:07

Fiona Have you told your mother that her mother is still alive? If so, how has she taken it? I too missed this thread originally. I have just told my daughter about it, we are amazed. Wishing you all the luck in the world. Margaret

Fiona

Fiona Report 6 Dec 2005 15:10

Hi Nell, Yes Fiona Colgan is FC........or FC is Fiona Colgan. I know getting to 87 she has to be fairly tough but it still worries me, I think we'll leave if and when to tell her to her other children after all they know her and if she'll be able to cope with it. I will be keeping my fingers crossed though!! Hi, Merry, Dea and Helen, Thank you for your kind words and support. I am just so happy today and wanted to share my news with you all as this is where I am almost every day and I just knew you'd all be just as happy for us. Yes I'm in America but my mum lives Shropshire, as it turns out not too far away from where her mother ended up settling. I am visiting my family in June but my lovely wonderful husband has told me not to worry if I end up needing to go home sooner the ticket will be there for me. I'm so lucky to have married such a wonderful man, I've been on the computer so much over the last year and a half and he even made it easier for me by getting me a lap top so I could take it anywhere in the house with me. He's not even complained about all the money I've spent on searching indexes and getting certificates. I just wanted to give him a mention as he has been so great and I don't think I would have been able to get through it without his support too!! Fiona.

Merry

Merry Report 6 Dec 2005 15:16

Three cheers for hubby!! Hip hip!! Hooray! (etc) Merry! - (PS - This is Soooo exciting, but also so nerve-wracking for you...I keep imagining you facing opening that email......)

Janet in Yorkshire

Janet in Yorkshire Report 6 Dec 2005 15:29

Fiona, I am sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks, having been moved by your thread. Well done to you - I am so thrilled for you. I hope and pray that your story will have a truly happy ending. Your loving and supportive husband sounds wonderful too. All the best for the future. Jay

Fiona

Fiona Report 6 Dec 2005 16:02

Thank you! Jackie, Helen in Berkshire and Jay. Margaret........Yes I told my mum her mother was still alive, I called her as soon as I had read the e-mail.........well after I'd read it the forth time. Hard to tell how she really took the news over the phone, she was a bit quiet, shocked I think. i had talk to her in the past about her possibly still being alive........glad i did now because at least the thought was there in her head. I'm going to give her a bit of time to let it all sink in then I'll call and see how she is. Merry.........It did take me a while to open the e-mail. My husband asked as soon as I went on my mail if I'd got any thing, I said yes and he asked what they said. I told him I didn't know as i hadn't opened it yet, I just sat here looking at the name. He told me i'd never know if I didn't open it, I clicked on it and we read it together. Only got through two lines and i was in tears. I don't remember being that nervous in my life! Feels wonderful now though!! Fiona.

Zoe

Zoe Report 6 Dec 2005 16:10

Fiona What an amazing outcome to your story. I'm genuinely happy for you - bought a tear to my eye reading it. Of course it's going to be a shock for both your mother and your grandmother to find out that the other is still alive - butr hopefully given a little time to get used to it they'll hav ethe opportunity to meet and spend as much time as they can getting to know each other. Do keep us posted on how they're getting on with everything (and you of course - you've had the shock of finding a new grandmother as well). Zoe

Unknown

Unknown Report 6 Dec 2005 16:29

Fiona, What a wonderful Christmas pressie for you and your mum! I too am sitting here crying (and I'm at work!!!!) I hope everything works out for you and your mum, God bless your lovely husband! Julie xxx

Liberty64

Liberty64 Report 6 Dec 2005 16:47

Hi Fiona, Just read the thread, well what a roller coaster of emotions you and your Mum have experienced recently,(not sure how I would have dealt with a situation like this). Im really happy that things are working out for you all. You have with out doubt handled the situation very sensitively, Im pleased You and your Mum have been fortunate enough to gain some knowledge about the past and she deffinately deserves to know the truth about what 'really' happened to her Mother and of course your nan! Well done Fiona on your findings! Very best wishes to you all. Lib :)) xxxx

Rose

Rose Report 6 Dec 2005 17:02

Hi Fiona, Just came across this thread and wanted to add to it so I can find it again. What an amazing story. I do hope it has an even happier ending. Your grandmother will have lived with this throughout her life. She may have been hoping all these years that she would find her daughter again. Is she is in good health? She might be able to cope if it is broken to her bit by bit. Hope everything goes well. Rose

McAlp

McAlp Report 6 Dec 2005 17:08

Fiona, just want to say that you made me cry reading your message about finding your grandmother,hope you do get to meet her. Thinking of you and your mother God Bless Ann

mac2

mac2 Report 6 Dec 2005 17:15

What a wonderful story, nice things can happen through research . I cried reading this. I wish you , your mum and grandma all the best and hope you meet soon. Please keep us up to date .

Joan

Joan Report 6 Dec 2005 17:15

Hi Fiona I am sat here crying too and wishing you all the best wishes ever ! I don't want to be a fly on the wall but could I have the job of passing the hankies around when you all meet - this is a fantastic tale unfolding.Your new found family as well as your mum must be very proud of you and excited about a possible meet up. Keep us all informed please. My thoughts go out to you all x Joan

Suein10b

Suein10b Report 6 Dec 2005 17:17

Fiona This is the first time Ive seen your thread. Ive sat here and read it through awash with tears. What a wonderful moving story. May I wish You and your Hubby, your Mum and Grandma and indeed all your Family My Very Best Wishes. Sue

Aileen

Aileen Report 6 Dec 2005 18:31

Hi Fiona, Have just read this whole thread and can't imagine how you are all feeling right at the moment, I'm sure there are many mixed emotions. You must keep us informed on the outcome- I'm so looking forward to the next instalment and wish you all the best as you tackle what's ahead. It's so sad that you and your mum have been deprived of a nan and a mum but at least you have now found her. I'm sure you will deal with the way forward as sensibly as you have done so far -what an amazing story! Love, Aileenxx