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**Linda Report 30 Jun 2008 16:02

Hi Puss

If thats the case then what a boring time they are having

I have a wonderful life but we argue sometimes but I wouldnt swop him for all the money in the world

I have lovely grandchildren each are different one is good but one is a monkey but I love them both the same.

We very rarely go out to eat as I can cook anything and we like traditional food

But it hasnt always been this easy my hubby worked every hour he could for little money
but I dont believe that folks lives are perfect all the time

Linda xx


JoyBoroAngel Report 30 Jun 2008 15:20

the smile on my grandchildren s faces

when we meet each day

makes my life the perfect life

the rest i count my blessings as they come xxx

Cumbrian Caz~**~

Cumbrian Caz~**~ Report 30 Jun 2008 13:33

Hello Puss,

I do question why ive had so many stresses in the past ten years and have to be careful that I count my blessings. Like you I have problems in the house, my problem with my daughter is different from yours with David I know.

If there is one thing I really want that I havent got, its a garden where i could shut the world out and have my own little bit of earth, to grow and nurture. The side of our house is by an old peoples home, I have pots and baskets but there is no privacy and some of the old people bang on windows if you so much as breathe too heavily!!

My love to you, I know how it feels when so much seems against you,

Caz xxx


°o.O(¯`·._.·Frankie·._.·´¯)O.o° Report 30 Jun 2008 13:18

I really enjoy my life & talk about it to my friends, about the family and things. I don't know if it comes across as gloating but isnt it better to be happy and proud of the good things in your life & concentrate on them than moan about the bad things? We all have things we can complain about but I'm another optimist & would hate to be one of those who keep telling others my troubles so maybe I come across as someone who thinks they have a perfect life
Don't we all think our kids our the best in the world?!


ginqueen Report 30 Jun 2008 13:18

I think happiness is waking up every morning and counting your blessings.

My sister and I both married at the same time - I was 19 and she was 24.

My husband was a cruel bully who made my life hell (including a shotgun at my head regularly) I finally gave him the house and everything in it so that I could walk away and survive (at the time, I really thought he would kill me). I realised I was pregnant and miscarried at 5 months and had complications which meant I can't have children.

In the meantime, my sister has a wonderfull husband who loves her to bits, two lovely children, her husband works hard and she wants for nothing, she doesn't have to work and he pays all the bills without even looking at what she's spent on her credit card...

and she is the unhappies person I know.

All I've been through has made me stronger and who I am, I'm now with a partner who loves the meat off my bones and I thank God every day for such a wonderful life - I am happy and if anyones asks, I always say without hesitation that I've had a good life.

I'd do it all again to be where I am now.

Sorry - I've just given you my life story complete with tragedies over my tomato sandwich :)


Kay???? Report 30 Jun 2008 13:08

Anyone living on the street,,looking in a house window seeing a warm fire would say look they seem to have a perfect life, each to their own what they see as a perfect life,

If you feel that someone seems to gloat over what they have or do then it might not always have been this way for them,?but people who have had a so called charmed life would never gloat/brag anyway as it would just be part of how they have always been used to living and not known any other so no need to broadcast it,

Deb Vancouver (18665)

Deb Vancouver (18665) Report 30 Jun 2008 12:36

This thread is still on my mind.

I was just thinking about when we emigrated from Liverpool in 1972.
My parents came to Canada with 2 children, me 14 and my sister 7 with $200 (100 pounds) to their name.

My Dad had a job to come to, but left job after job for other ones because they paid 25cents (10p) more an hour than the other ones. We went without a lot of the time. We never had a family holiday away because quite simply it wasn't possible.

We did however spend every Sunday at Alouette lake not too far from us. I can still remember the great times that we had even though we had no money. My parents did the best they could, and I would not trade those times and memories for anything in the world. This proves that you don't need money to enjoy yourself.

I saw how hard it was for my parents and thanked my Mum not so long ago for the sacrifices they made to enable my sister and I to have a better life.


Deb Vancouver (18665)

Deb Vancouver (18665) Report 30 Jun 2008 11:59

Daff it sounds like we have similar lives, except for the Grandkids. We can't wait for them to come along, but I think we have a long wait!



Deanna Report 30 Jun 2008 11:45

Pus, would you swap your life and family for someone else's?

I KNOW the answer is a resounding NOOOOOOO!

So there you are love.... you have Your
perfect life!
Be content with it, as we all have to be.

I have a man in a million whom I would cheerfully 'slaughter' on a regular basis!

I have a son who has had one problem after the other for years now and he still laughs... I love him, I like him, and ....I could slaughter him on a regular basis!

I have a nice little warm home... which badly needs a cleaner fitter that we are.
If I counted my blessings one by one.... I would be here all day.
AND so would you Pus.
You have it all love... the troubles and worries as well.

NO ONE has a perfect life.... ALL their life.
Things change from good to bad and back again.

Pinks had it in one.... perfectly chaotic .

live love and be happy... it is all we have.

Deanna X


MrDaff Report 30 Jun 2008 11:44

Morning Puss..... morning everyone!

Me... I love my life, and enjoy everything about it... lol!

I have great kids.... I wouldn't change a thing about them, warts an' all, lol... and their warts have caused a few anxious moments over the years, I can tell you!!!.

I have two beautiful granddaughters... apple of our eyes, both of them, terrible two's not withstanding

My hubby is wonderful... he rarely pays me a verbal compliment which can be a bit of a b , but he never ever criticises me.. and there is a look in his eyes and a little smile that is just for me, and is worth a million trillion little compliments!

I can just about to afford to have little treats... and the visits to my granddaughters are the main ones. But that is because my husband literally put his life on the line for 34 years, and I worked hard for those luxuries, too.

But I have quite a lot of health problems that mean that I am unable to work at the moment. There are days when I am in so much pain and discomfort, and even more ditzy than usual!

I have also been at the stage where it is only a day past pay day and there is no money left in the coffers, with two toddlers to feed! We always managed somehow!

I still think that my life is perfect, though.... I enjoy so much the good days, as they are what makes the bad days bearable. And of course, it's the bad days that make you appreciate the good days so much more!!

I wouldn't want mega riches... just enough to continue enjoying what I have right this minute.... and even if all the material things went, I still have people who love me and care about me... warts and all!

That, for me, is perfection!


Daff xxxx

Sally Moonchild

Sally Moonchild Report 30 Jun 2008 11:44

I think Ann in Glos has it just about right for I have always said, I think I have led a charmed life...... not always good, but have the attitude that what has happened and how I have dealt with it, has made me stronger, and I am pleased for that.......also am happy and positive in my outlook, this I was born with......and yes, I do get down sometimes.......and sometimes wonder why some people get all the cr*p in life, and it can pass me by........or it could also be that whatever crops up that is bad in my life......I deal with it, and don't blame the world for my is not 'why me'......but rather 'why not me'.......

we are all different.....

♥ Kitty the Rubbish Cook ♥

♥ Kitty the Rubbish Cook ♥ Report 30 Jun 2008 11:32

I am an optimist by nature, so tend to see the good things in most situations and people.

I don't believe anyone lives the perfect life, but I count my blessings and know, through experiences in my life to date, that some good always comes out of a bad situation.

I am not a materialistic person always wanting new things around me......................just as well really as or finances dictate otherwise:))


Kay???? Report 30 Jun 2008 11:23

If you have enjoyed today then you have been satisfied with life,
your todays life for someone else could envy you for it,and think their hasnt been perfect,


Sue Report 30 Jun 2008 11:20

It's a bit early for a profound post but here goes:

I don't think I will ever have the perfect life, why? because I love my family and friends.

That means:
When they are hurt I am hurt.
When they worry I worry.
When they are unwell I worry.
When they are having problems in work I am concerned.
I could go on and on but you will get my drift.

All the above in addition to my health problems I don't think I am going to be living the perect life anytime soon.

Sue x


Roxanne Report 30 Jun 2008 11:17

I Agree,Jacs:-))
However I do get to sit In the sunshine,Or Shade In my case,because I complain about it being too hot these next few months:-)lol
everyone has problems,big or small,its how you deal with it the counts;-))

I do have a good life(in my eyes) to someone else it would probably be very boring:-)lol


Julia Report 30 Jun 2008 11:14

Puss, as the saying goes, there's no such thing as a free lunch. All this 'perfect life' has to be paid for. Just think of the size of the mortgages,credit card balances etc of these people who seem to have everything and have a perfect life. What about the husbands that have to work to maintain this life style. Surely it can't go on for ever. There must be a 'melt down' time. And what happens to the ideal life style then.
In my household, in a working class financial environment, we have experienced the highs and the lows, as I am sure many of us has. I much prefer an even keel, and never envy anyone for their lifestyle. I personally cannot understand the high wages of so called footballers. All that money doesn't buy them taste,style, and class. Some of their homes look as if they have come off a Hollywood film set.
Me,I take comfort in one thing. Today,I am taking a solution supplied by the hospital, to clear the bowels, ready for a barium enema tomorrow. This will,hopefully give answers to a problem I have suffered with for four or five years, and which my doctors, prefered to ignore. Those living the perfect life with all their dosh, would still have to have the same treatment even if they went 'private'. Now there is satisfaction
Julia in Derbyshire


PinkDiana Report 30 Jun 2008 10:56

My life is PERFECT

perfectly chaotic!



Kay???? Report 30 Jun 2008 10:54

A satisfied life is a perfect one to you,,,,,,,, but is anyones so perfect I dont think so,,and I dont contend with eating at a *posh* place (is there any out reach to all No dont think so)or material things is a perfect life,


Jac Report 30 Jun 2008 10:40

I dont know anyone who has a life described by you Puss - it certainly aint me, or any of my friends.

There is an element of strife in everyone's life at some stage, and some poor souls have more to contend with than others.

It's really a question of counting your blessings at the end of the day, and getting on with your life.

I do find personally, that when the sun shines then I can cope with most things - and guess what? it's shining today so off to hunt slugs and lily beetles - a little murder first thing does wonders for me! )))



Claddagh Report 30 Jun 2008 10:31

No-one knows what goes on behind closed doors.It may seem that some lead 'perfect lives' sometimes, but at what price?