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Supportive husbands (make sure you read it all)

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SallyF

SallyF Report 4 Jul 2008 19:47

News paper article.....

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes
harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they
were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them. Some are
over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman.

My name is Ron. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
Julie. When I took early retirement last year, it became necessary for Julie
to get a full-time job for the extra income that we need.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her
age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time she gets home
from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly always says she
has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't shout
at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets
dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the pub so eating out again
is out of the question; I'm ready for some home cooked food when I get in.

She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's usual
for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can
by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't
clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to
motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will say that it
is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour. But we take
them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell
her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have
to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and
then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She
has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the lawn and
several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It does annoy
me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch 'Match of the Day', but I try not to
make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a nice cup of tea
and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one for herself, she
may as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Julie. I'm not
saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it
difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how
frustrating women get as they get older. However, even if you just use a
little more tact and less criticism of your ageing wife because of this
article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we
are put on this earth to help each other.

EDITOR'S NOTE:

Ron died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch Stanley screwdriver
rammed up his a***e with only 2 inches showing.


His wife Julie was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted her defense
that he accidentally sat on it.

Jean (Monmouth)

Jean (Monmouth) Report 4 Jul 2008 19:52

That is good! I do like the ending. I had a brother-in-law like that, Used to go to his mothers to visit on Sunday mornings and often came home having had his dinner there, when my sister had been working hard to feed his animals and get dinner for when he came home. Food was rationed at the time, too! Jean

SallyF

SallyF Report 4 Jul 2008 19:56

My Brother in law is like that! Can't stand him. Not that my sister knows. ;)

Stephanie

Stephanie Report 7 Jul 2008 13:33

Sally - absolutely love it!!!

Steph x

AnnCardiff

AnnCardiff Report 7 Jul 2008 13:34

brill!!

angie

angie Report 7 Jul 2008 13:57

That is great,i love it :)

***joybell♥♥♡♥♡

***joybell♥♥♡♥♡ Report 7 Jul 2008 14:05

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