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What would you do ??????????????

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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 9 Jul 2008 04:18

CD I thought you were speaking from the father's point of view.
Not sure how I would advise on this one, maybe there will be some people on later who have had similar experience.
Good luck helping this man contact his father, hope it goes well. I suppose a lot depends on whether the father knew he might have a child, and if he has mentioned it to his family.
Lizx

tweedledee

tweedledee Report 9 Jul 2008 03:23

Not particularly the other family members, just the father. How would I approach the father (if I found him) to tell him he had a son ? I may have found the father now have to be concerned about the next step. I am just a third party in this.

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 9 Jul 2008 02:56

I think it would be lovely if the father did acknowledge the son, but wonder if you mean, would you confess to other family members?
That would have to be carefully considered so as not to upset close family, i.e. wife and other children, but they are related to that son and hopefully would be kind enough to welcome him into the family.
Good luck to whoever is in this quandry!
Lizx

tweedledee

tweedledee Report 9 Jul 2008 02:47

If an illigitimate son contacted you after 40 years.??

If a son finally found you after 40 years would you fess up to being his father ?
After all, there is no legal claim for support. Just a matter of knowing that your son wants to know just who his father is.

What do you think ??????