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anyone else have trouble toileting children

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Dawnieher3headaches Report 1 Aug 2008 19:51

Tiddler will not get rid of her potty, she will wee on toilet but everything else is in the potty.

We have tried taking it away and she just wont go and ends up in pain and crying which isnt good for her.

Anyone else had trouble with their littleuns and how did you solve it


Amanda2003 Report 1 Aug 2008 19:54

Dawnie..........have you tryed putting a foot stool in the toilet room ?.....that way Tiddlers legs wouldn't dangle when she is trying to might help.


Dawnieher3headaches Report 1 Aug 2008 19:57


she will go for wee on toilet then straight to potty for the rest.

She has had a step in past but is so tall didnt want it as in her words im a big girl


♥**♥Straykitten♥**♥ Report 1 Aug 2008 19:59

a lot of children have this problem hun they wil go wewee but the other is different

baby satan is 2 and just done it himself he decided he was too big for the potty

we used to take the top of his potty as it fits ont he tiolet one day he decided he was too big

like the sleeping hun its when there ready how does she get on at school?

few tips
stool and tiolet seat to remove the fear of falling in
a star chart on the back of the toilet door for everytime she does no2 reward her with a sticker
eventualy she will go but dnt make a big deal of hun if she dont she wil eventually



Amanda2003 Report 1 Aug 2008 19:59

Does she use her potty in the toilet room ?


Dawnieher3headaches Report 1 Aug 2008 20:18

Potty goes wherever she wants can be in loo either the upstairs or downstairs one, on the landing, in bedrooms, lounge you name it she decides where it is.

Star chart have that but no still wont oblige even tried that for sleeping and didnt work. will try again though.


Gigi Report 1 Aug 2008 20:43

Hi Dawnie,

How old is your little one?

My son is three and a half and he will only do a poo in his nappy which happens just before bedtime! Does a wee in the toilet but will not entertain the potty or toilet for the other!

Doctor says quite normal and to be patient.



InspectorGreenPen Report 1 Aug 2008 20:44

How old is she?


Penny Report 1 Aug 2008 20:50

What would happen, say you went on holiday and forgot to take potty?

what does she do if you are out, say visiting?


Tallulah Report 1 Aug 2008 20:51

my little 'un, 3 at the time, wouldn't use the toilet at all, one day she came in from playing in the garden needing her shoe to be put back on, I happened to be cleaning the bath and seen she was desperate to go to the loo, told her unless she used the toilet she wouldn't be allowed back out to play, she hopped on, did the business and hey presto! used the toilet from then on!

Sue in Somerset

Sue in Somerset Report 1 Aug 2008 20:58

I wouldn't worry too much about it. All kids are different but they can quickly pick up any anxieties parents may have.

It was a long time ago but I gradually moved the potty from wherever my kids were to closer and closer to the actual loo. When they were happy with that we used what the kids called the "small hole" which fitted over the toilet, They had shortish legs so had a little footstool.

My second daughter suddenly decided she didn't need a nappy at night but the older one was still in them for bedtimes. Younger daughter and I had a little chat (she was only about 2) and she said she was happy to pretend to wear them for a bit so her sister wouldn't be upset!

My next door neighbour (godmother to one of daughters) was much more uptight about the whole thing and was convinced I ought to have been sitting the kids on potties from as soon as they could sit up but I was happy just waiting until the girls were old enough to understand what was expected of them.

I can remember one young mother I knew who was worried about toilet training and went to see our then nice old family doc. He simply said he'd never known a bride to go down the aisle in a nappy so eventually they'd all get it!

Good luck



sealyham Report 1 Aug 2008 21:02

when my daughter was at play group many moons ago she reverted to the potty and would not sit on the toilet at all
when on holiday forgot to take potty out with us she was crying and wanted a wee I took her in public loos new ones with silver stainless steel pans
I told her they must be expecting the queen to come on her holidays and eventually she sat on the loo and went and every thing was ok after that
has your little one had an upset mine was upset at the play group they made her sit on the loo when she didnt want to go


Dawnieher3headaches Report 1 Aug 2008 21:06

She is 5 will be 6 in December.

Minnie she just wont go until we are home, doesnt go at school but almost as soon as we get through the door she finds the potty.

I know oldest did the same but only til about 4

°o.OOº°‘¨Claire in Wales¨‘°ºOO.o°

°o.OOº°‘¨Claire in Wales¨‘°ºOO.o° Report 1 Aug 2008 21:08

Not tried this one but how about telling her that she's too big for the pot & would she like to plants in it?

It might work with a few crocus or baby daffs


Dawnieher3headaches Report 1 Aug 2008 21:10


lol its bright yellow so make a good planter


Penny Report 2 Aug 2008 07:45

I'd certainly start by insisting it stays in the loo - tie it to the basin if needs be, I guess its very convenient to be able to go fetch the po and plonk it in front of CBBC, daily ablutions hardly affect your enjoyment then, do they?

She then either does it in the loo, or screams - let her scream, at almost 6 she is big enough to understand that poo = loo - its not a two year old we are talking about here.

Who empties it? make that her job, and if she doesnt, could you bear to leave it ?( or does she do real stinkers? ;-)

basically, insist the loo is the place to be , do it what ever receptical you like , but you sort it yourself.

Could you bear to take it to school - the pot not the poo- by prior arrangement- embarrass her a bit ?

(Sorry Buddie, this little soul is perfecting the art of being a little monkey)


Guinevere Report 2 Aug 2008 07:58

She may not like the splash created when she uses the loo. My friend's daughter wouldn't use the loo for that reason so my friend used to put some loo paper floating on the surface which stopped the splash.

I think her daughter still does it to this day.



MarionfromScotland Report 2 Aug 2008 09:42

Let her choose a new toilet seat,the kids ones that fit over.Woolies had a ladybird one.