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Honest, outspoken or just plain rude........
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SueMaid | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:18 |
................................is there a difference? |
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Stevie | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:31 |
It depends on what you want to say & how tactful you are about it. |
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Rambling | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:36 |
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Fiona aka Ruby | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:36 |
Yes, there is a difference. Honesty doesn't mean rudeness. |
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Annx | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:36 |
How something is received depends a lot on how you communicate it, your body language, manner and the words you use. Also whether the recipient really listens to you or whether they assume what you mean rather than listen to what you say. |
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SueMaid | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:38 |
Well, it would appear that some people can be rude and get away with it and then some people are just honest and are apparently in the wrong. So I'm feeling a little confused at the moment. |
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SueMaid | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:49 |
That sounds about right, Lynda. |
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ButtercupFields | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:54 |
For example.... |
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SueMaid | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:56 |
Actually that's honest, outspoken and rather rude of you BC - but I like it:-)) |
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Annx | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:58 |
Again, its all about how you put it....... |
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ButtercupFields | Report | 6 Jan 2010 10:58 |
I DO hope you realise that I was not referring to your good self, Sue? It was merely hypothetical:-))) lol BXX |
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SueMaid | Report | 6 Jan 2010 11:08 |
So do I Ann - need to lose weight that is:-)) |
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*~~*Posh*~~* | Report | 6 Jan 2010 12:04 |
I love B.C.'s examples... :-)))) |
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AnninGlos | Report | 6 Jan 2010 12:10 |
Love BC's examples even if tongue in cheek. However Posh is right something said in real life may be taken as being honest while on here minus body language it is either blunt or rude. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 6 Jan 2010 12:35 |
If someone has asked for your opinion Lynda that is different and saying it kindly like it is is no problem. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 6 Jan 2010 12:36 |
Strangely, I don't like confrontation and tend to pussy foot around a bit, however, when at work one of my reports had that I was too brusque with my junior colleague which she found upsetting, I had not realised I was like it, just thought I was putting her right about things! |
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Annx | Report | 6 Jan 2010 13:52 |
I think there is a point in 'dressing up' the truth as you put it at times Lynda, to get your point over in a way that is respectful of people's feelings. People respond to that in a better way. |
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~~~Secret Red ^^ Squirrel~~~ **007 1/2** | Report | 6 Jan 2010 14:26 |
To answer the original question, sometimes no. People can be honest & still get their point of cross with tact which in my opinion is less hurtful and often is more effective. However, sometimes people are rude using the excuse that they are being honest/outspoken. |
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Merlin | Report | 6 Jan 2010 15:24 |
Wife to Husband, " Does my Bum look big in this?" husband to Wife," No dear it looks just as big as it usually does" Question, Is that a complement? or grounds for divorce?.**M**.pmsl. |
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SueMaid | Report | 6 Jan 2010 20:27 |
Merlin - that was a thread killer if ever there was one:-)) |