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Soothing the Grief.

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Malcolm Report 14 Nov 2012 15:35

Did a Eulogy yesterday for a friend who died suddenly last week. I've been doing these in our community for some years as A: Nobody else wants to and B: I seem to be good at it. The first one was a relation and I was trembling, almost fainted.

From the second one I started to introduce some sort of poem, which makes me weep as I read it. Like most men I am actually a major softie. Now all my eulogies contain poems but I read them through, in advance weeping, until i'm immune which makes the delivery easier.

I take some modest..yes I mean modest...pride in seeking out the character of the deceased and wrapping it in the best possible coating while not concealing the occasional serious defect. I know it's been worth the effort when the only dry eye in the house is mine.

Hope this helps anyone faced with the prospect of speaking for the dear departed.


AnninGlos Report 14 Nov 2012 16:19

I also hope that your 'ordeal' has helped you over the sudden loss of your friend Malcolm.


PricklyHolly Report 14 Nov 2012 16:40

I think it is absolutely wonderful that you found the strength to do that.

If you believe your friend was listening...........he must have been so proud of you Malcolm.

Well done!!

My sincere condolences.........Prickles. x


AnninGlos Report 14 Nov 2012 17:38

Oh and yes I agree with PH. Wonderful to be able to do it.


ButtercupFields Report 14 Nov 2012 18:47

My condolences on your loss, Malcolm. I did it for my younger brother who died suddenly. It was very important to me, somehow, to do it. To this day I am not sure how I kept my composure but I shall always be glad that I got through it without breaking down.