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Suggest you change locks on the doors if he still has a key or you might get home one day and find he's mafe himself at home again.

Dont 4get to notify local authy re Council Tax as singles get a cheaper rate.

Well done, Jean. It's not his role in life to hold you to ransom, and it's not your role to be held to ransom!!
He's gone - his choice.
As Sharron says - go and do something YOU want to do.
Evening/weekend classes are a brilliant way to meet people - and achieve something, which makes you feel good.

First thing I did when he 'walked' was to paint every room in the house pink!!!
I don't particularly like pink, but I knew HE hated it, and my young girls loved it :-D

all the lovely reassuring comments are giving me the strength i need. i have made my decision and will stick with it. he wont be getting the chance to walk away for the 5th time.

Jean, good luck, only you can make the decision but I guess you have, 12 years is a long time to be taken for granted, maybe now he will know what he is missing. Stay strong and enjoy the rest of your life. :-)

I can wholeheartedly empathise with you.
We´ve only been married 4 years but every time I express an opinion that isn´t the same as his, he throws a tantrum & threatens to leave.
In reality he has nowhere to go because he is unemployed & we live on my pension & my savings.,
I wish you lots of happiness in your new life, once things have settled down a bit.

Atta girl. He has used you for long enough. Your new life begins now - enjoy :-D <3

Good Luck to you. It will be hard at first but look to a better future for yourself.Get out there and enjoy. <3 <3

He can't think that much of you if he's done it FOUR TIMES. He thinks he has you on a bit of string, and just needs to wind you back in, when he feels like it. CUT THE STRING !!! and go fot it. GOOD LUCK

I know someone who says.......I wish my Oh would leave, I would pack his bags for him, but she wishes to remain anonymous and joins in with wishes for a brighter future :-D

Go for it Jean and let the Selfish B cope on his own.Enjoy the rest of your life.**M**.

(((HUG))) for you, keep your nerve and enjoy the remainder of your life :-D

Sue x

thanks everyone for your encouraging comments. no going back now, the only way is forward from now on. spring is on its ways so i will get out and about. have got over the first week...things can only get better x

Good Luck Jean. You have taken the hardest step, now just go forward and enjoy your life <3

I did it once, twenty-five years ago and have been toying with the idea for some time again.

Now you've got me thinking!

I wish you every happiness in your future life Jean,
I made a similar decision about 2 years ago, the difference was he didn't pack his things, I told him to go. The first couple of months were not easy but I have never regretted it.
I am sure once you get the first few weeks over you will find life is much better, you will be free to do the things you like to do.
Enjoy your life from now on.
Love to you. Jean xx :-) :-) :-)

Jean I wish you all the best in your future, you will have hard times but if you know yourself you are doing the right thing then onwards and upwards.....

You may feel dazed and unhappy at the moment but please know your future will be brighter as you walk forwards into a new life....trust me <3

Go and learn something,anything

. If you don't have any qualifications,go and get some,even if it is one GCSE.

It will make you the woman with the qualification instead of the woman who looks after him and his problems.

I IMAGINE AT TIMES HARD BUT AT THE MOST GREAT,
GOOD LUCK

good luck Jean xx :-D

Jean <3 The next few months won't be easy, because you have to find out who YOU are <3

Be gentle with yourself! And spoil yourself a little bit too <3

Don't let anyone give you a guilt trip.

Make sure you change the locks! ;-) <3