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Infidelity - is the innocent party

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ChrisofWessex Report 20 Mar 2013 12:40

really to blame? On this Morning today there was a discussion whereby one lady said that Anthea ......was right - it was her fault her husband went astray. Other lady arguing - it was not.

Viewers said not her fault - 88%, yes - 12%. Again, it is not always the male who commits this but females are guilty as well as my brother found out. His problem was he put wife on a pedestal


AnninGlos Report 20 Mar 2013 12:58

I sometimes think that maybe there are faults on both sides. One party is willing to let the faults ride, or doesn't realise there is a problem and the other thinks the grass is greener.


RolloTheRed Report 20 Mar 2013 13:08

"For richer or poorer, for better or for worse ..."
There is no obligation to get married.
There is an obligation to respect the vows.

If somebody wants to bail out of a relationship then they should just get on with it. Anything else is deceitful and makes a lot of hurt.

As it is today the innocent party tends to be the one who gets burned which surely cannot be right.


Guinevere Report 20 Mar 2013 13:25

Why should she be surprised?

He was married to somebody else when they first started sleeping together and he eventually left his wife for her. If he's done it once he's likely to do it again only this time she's the weeping wife.

No one to blame but the man who couldn't keep his trousers on but Anthea has learned a bit about karma.

They deserve each other.


ChrisofWessex Report 20 Mar 2013 13:49

Guinevere - I agree - she was 'the other woman' and if I recall correctly there were young children involved.

However OH's reasons for staying faithful are as follows -

a) Frequently had to work 7 days/week - no free time and too

b) Bad liar and bad memory - need good ones in order to

c) Always been wary of the butcher's knife with the 16" blade
I have!!!!!

d) Oh and he loves me <3


RolloTheRed Report 20 Mar 2013 13:55


Dermot Report 20 Mar 2013 15:05

Legalise bigamy & enjoy more than one mother-in-law.


AnnCardiff Report 20 Mar 2013 20:44

dear God no!!! one mother in law was one too many for me :-(


JoyBoroAngel Report 20 Mar 2013 20:45

and to many for me to Ann


Dermot Report 21 Mar 2013 09:47

Bigamy means having one wife too many. Monogyny is sometimes much the same.