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TheBlackKnight Report 3 Apr 2013 10:30

Thank you ChAoTicTheory that was just my point I could not have put it better myself.

If you see a car park in a disabled bay without a blue badge you inform customer services in the supermarket & they deal with it.


JustJohn Report 3 Apr 2013 09:22

CAT. I think I had a reasonable amount of information. Of course, it could be that they had one of the illnesses listed by BK and their blue badge had fallen from windscreen. But did not have a chance to question them (nor is it my job) as they ran (or waddled quickly as he was rather heavy) into the supermarket.

What would you have done differently? Would you have asked him why he had parked there? Or would you have told people on a relevant genes thread that yoiu had been thinking of what was being discusseed that day and seen something that annoyed you and might be of interest.

At least nobody judges any posters without the full facts. ;-)


ChAoTicintheNewYear Report 3 Apr 2013 09:06

The point is John you judged someone without knowing anything about their situation.


JustJohn Report 3 Apr 2013 09:03

With respect, TheBlackKnight, my posts and OP had nothing to do with a disability thread - except to discuss sefishness and laziness of people in supermarkets and the inconvenience it gave older people and those with disabilities.

Nobody can tell most of those conditions, but they are issued with a blue badge, I presume. We used to be for ever turfing people out of disabled bays who had no right to be there when I was in supermarkets, and we would always ask if they had a reason to park there. Usual answer was "no disabled person was using bay when I arrived, sorry, I will move"

And simply have written what I saw and what my opinion was of what I saw. Sometimes my opinion of somebody is wrong, very often it was wrong when I was younger. But (not to sound too pompous) I am not that often wrong these days. Age does bring wisdom and discretion. And I truthfully do not upset anybody off this thread like I clearly irritate some people on here.


Paula+ Report 3 Apr 2013 08:08

With respect to you both Supercrutch and Eeyore, If the word Cripple does not offend you then that is of course fine for you. It is the derogatory way it is used that I consider to be unacccepable.

My Mother had numerous severe medical conditions se veral of which are mentioned on BKs list. For the last years of her life she was in constant pain and was confined to a wheelchair. She was intelligent kind and funny and loved her family . In respect of her memory I objected to the term cripple,, which she hated.


TheBlackKnight Report 3 Apr 2013 02:04

Hi John knowbody has forced you to add to this thread & many people have tryed correcting you but as always you think you know better than everybody on here. Here is a little info for you to think about next time you look at another person & feel you need to judge them, though you probably wont even know half of what I am trying to inform you of. Remember you are not a judge or jury.

Many people living with a hidden physical disability or mental challenge are still able to be active in their hobbies, work and be active in sports. On the other hand, some struggle just to get through their day at work and some cannot work at all. Some can get through the fine some days & on other days can not do the most simple things like get out of bed, make coffee, use a phone, pick up a pen or do anything without help.

List of SOME disabilities considered invisible disabilities:

Anxiety disorders
Asperger Syndrome
Bipolar disorder
Brain injuries
Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease
Chronic fatigue syndrome
Chronic pain
Circadian rhythm sleep disorders
Coeliac Disease
Crohn's disease
Food allergies
Fructose malabsorption
Hereditary Fructose Intolerance
Inflammatory bowel disease
Interstitial cystitis
Irritable Bowel Syndrome
Lactose Intolerance
Lyme Disease
Major depression
Metabolic syndrome
Multiple Sclerosis
Multiple Chemical Sensitivity
Personality disorders
Primary immunodeficiency
Psychiatric disabilities
Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy
Repetitive stress injuries
Rheumatoid arthritis
Sjögren's syndrome
Temporomandibular joint disorder
Transverse Myelitis
Ulcerative Colitis.

to name but a few I am sure others on here could add to the list.


JustJohn Report 2 Apr 2013 21:42

Lolly was right. Didn't say anything about a blue badge. I am not good at spotting these things, but my fellow passengers say he did not have a blue badge.

To be honest, wish I hadn't contribued to this thread. Tried to say things I have seen which I thought had some relevance to this irritation which Michael expressed in OP.

Was not expecting to be reported twice or three times, and get criticism for using a word that had already been used on same thread. :-(


ChAoTicintheNewYear Report 2 Apr 2013 21:02

Trouble sounds about right to me ;-)

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> runs


supercrutch Report 2 Apr 2013 20:46

Hang on I am having a think!

errrrrrr.........tripable? trouble? triffic? talented?

Yep, talented that's us ;-)

or maybe twisted lololol


MR_MAGOO Report 2 Apr 2013 19:54

And what does the T stand for Sis ?.............. :-)


supercrutch Report 2 Apr 2013 19:45

MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE I am cripple, so is my mate Eeyore and we have special crip clubs :-D

Even my email has the word crip in it ;-)

There really is no other word that we would use!

It's short and to the point :-D and describes us to a T


LollyWithSprinklez Report 2 Apr 2013 16:06

Det. I don't believe John mentioned anywhere in his post whether the driver in the car park did or did not have a blue badge on display!!

I will stand to be corrected if he did but as he is no stranger to the edit button wouldn't be surprised to see it appear :-(


Eeyore13 Report 2 Apr 2013 16:04

Paula+ it was a fellow "cripplie" & me that started it...

I know a lot of people find this "coping mechanism" unacceptable, however some of us survive with it.


Paula+ Report 2 Apr 2013 13:39

BC. I have only just caught up with the thread, so apologies to John, but it still does not make those sort of comments acceptable in my opinion.


ButtercupFields Report 2 Apr 2013 13:10

If you will read back a bit, Paula, I think you may find that the offending term was used by other posters before John..


+++DetEcTive+++ Report 2 Apr 2013 10:44

Normally I'd be outraged at privately employed car clampers, except for the one occassion at a shopping mall.

A large 4 x 4 was parked in a disabled bay.
It wasn't >>>displaying a blue badge.<<<<
Serves them right to come back to a clamped vehicle

The bays in this particular mall are larger than the average, the size of the vehicle v the normal bay width was not an excuse.

Surely the point of John's observation were that there didn't appear to be a Blue Badge on display?

As for wayward trolley -
Of the 3 supermarkets we use, 2 have coin operated trolleys.
The third one tends to have their trollies returned to the correct place, although I must admit to doing a quick sort out if different sizes have been launched in any old how!

At least one employee who collects the trollies has Asbergers, which is on the Autism spectrum. As I knew him while he was at school, he said that he prefered that to being put on the Till as he had less contact with the general public.


Paula+ Report 2 Apr 2013 10:25

Oh dear John I have only just caught up with this thread. I really do not like your description "Cripply levels" it is so inappropriate and degrading towards disabled people. I have to say you do use some very offensive terminology, Please think for a moment of the impact they may have before you post your thoughts and commments.


AnnCardiff Report 1 Apr 2013 23:45

my lovely OH had a blue badge for the last few months of his life - he looked absolutely fine - no outward signs at all that he was close to death - never ever judge someone using a blue badge - they may be just like him


Mersey Report 1 Apr 2013 23:42



JustJohn Report 1 Apr 2013 23:40

Ways of assessing cripply levels when I was young was helping the elderly across the road, helping the blind similarly in days when you saw very few guide dogs and giving up your seat on the bus.

The "elderly" were often younger than I am now, so I expect I would fit into one of those levels. I am pretty sure I could get a card if I wanted one. But am equally sure some of us entitled to cards would not suffer too much if we parked at far end of car park and showed a bit of sympathy for those who really need a bit more help.

Tesco car park was pretty empty, Errol. So we could all park close to store today. Nobody was parked in any of the disabled bays that I can remember - except your pushy friend who I (and those with me) felt on balance did not need to park there..