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Cut her some slack.

Thank you ...you advice seems cruel but its what my other children are saying so I have to say the cruel feels are because I,m the mum and need to "man up" and sit back and watch

Thanks I dont feel so bad now

Surely your Son has got a mind of his own,If she wants this before they are wed and he agrees, Their future looks bleak .**M**. :-( Seems to me its all about what she wants and nothing or no one else counts.

Well they are being really naive if they think they can book good wedding venues 6 months in advance, Good venues sometimes are booked 2 years in advance .

But I would say leave em too it .dont stress yourself out with worrying .they will find out the hard way .

Dont offer anything either either monetary or advice . Just be sure your son knows his sisters prior commitments for that weekend

We think the problem is her mother ...she is far to close to her mummy and this will distroy my sons and her marriage as my son will feel pushed out in the end


We as a family decided to stay at the hotel of the reception the night before the wedding but the bride didnt like that she wants my son to be at their home( not yet brought) on his own

They are two very intelligent people .....and first marriage yes

Like you say 6 months is to tight when we are looking at 6 suits for men different sizes and shapes !!

They are getting married on her mummy and daddys wedding annerversary!

And my 3 other grown up children are saying dont offer any money leave them to it

Thats not easy! :-(

Perhaps in this situation you should write your son and his future Bride what the problem is?i/e why are you being left in the dark over this,arrangements have to be made and if needed, you would like to give help(Financial etc) meybe they will then tell you,if not , just leave them to it.**M**.

Are they a young couple and their first marriage ?

I would play her at her own game , for now, and sit it out for a while.

You know the date and where the reception is to be held.

I wouldn't offer to help with finances at this stage either as they have said they aren't doing anything till at least the end of this year..

So maybe a year plus in advance they havent decided on the nitty gritty of the event .

They may well find 6months before the wedding is too late to book things .

Leave em too it is my gut reaction

Totally agree with every word you have said and the conclusion you have come to !!

Totally lost as what to do

My daughter is ment to be brides maid she is at uni and short on time ...and works ect ,,......so tried to get a dress over the last week as she was on hoilday but cant even get a colour

Ask that !!! got told they arent doing anything til 6 months before !

We also told him his sister has possible exams that week of his wedding which is a friday

What is her problem would be my question to my son

If she wont talk then she wont be expecting his parents to pay anything surely ?

If your son doesnt have a say in the wedding plans then it doesnt look good for his long term relationship

Wonder if you kind peeps could help
My son is getting married next year in his girlfriends town 40 miles away ...no problem so far

We the grooms family know nothing .......we know the date and the reception that is it!!!????

We have tried to get a meeting with the girlfriend and son she refused to talk about it sat looking at the floor ....he cant say coz she wont speak!
She has her dress found out on facebook!
We dont know if we need to pay anything we have had no questions asked for our rellies to come no numbers NOT a sausage

What do we do?

Thank you