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*panics......but I am also very very old. Gaz! lol

Yes I am BC very much so !! lolol xx

But BC is single, and a superb cook.....and a very lovely charismatic lady too. :-)

*firmly...but she is spoken for so she is:-) lol BC XX

That's very true Uggers, it would.

Gaz, Muffy is lovely, take no notice of her.


She's my wine drinking buddy at meets LOLOLOL

I would have thought these days most cyber affairs involved webcams which makes it harder to make out you're half the weight and age you really are:)

I'm far from being a Miss World Gaz. Former or otherwise lololol xx

Now I'm interested Muffy! lol....

but if you are a former miss world I am probably too short old and ugly for ya !

Gaz

Are you suggesting TW that I'm not a 5ft 10 former miss World who races cars professionally at weekends ? lol.

That's the scary thing about the net.....you can be whoever you want to be.

xx

No I dont' think they do. The majority of people are who they say they are and what they say they are. I'm talking about those like my ex, who pretended at 48 to be 25, and that's just for starters. And there are quite a few of them about. So until you are sure about the person you are speaking to it's best to be really careful.

Hi again Teresa, evn with good intentions a person can be 'someone else' in reality off of here, don't suppose most people show the worst side of themselves on a chat board , the grumpy in the morning,.unshaven, slobbing about after work kind of thing lol.

Gaz

Exactly Gaz, and you know where those boundaries are, like i do, which is a valuable lesson learned through our experiences,

I'll flirt and joke around on a board in full view of everyone, but there is no way I would enter into a personal one-on-one flirt in PM, not a chance. For one, you don't really know the person you are talking to, and if they are what they say they are, or not.

One thing is good from it though , I will be more careful when chatting to ladies that i don't go over the boundaries my OH did.

Gaz

had the coffee lol.

think ,if you're telling someone else online what you would like to be doing with him and not doing it with OH then it amounts to the same as doing it with the bloke next door really. if you need to hide something from OH you shouldn't be doing it . or at least tell him that you think you want out of the relationship first or something to be different.

Gaz

No Jill it doesn't. When you are watching your husband having a cyber affair, the fact is, his attention, his emotions, thoughts, feelings, are no longer about you. Quite literally, it is infidelity of the heart. It's not the physical aspect that hurts in a 'real' affair, but the emotional aspect, that you are no longer wanted or loved, how could you be?

Not sure Jill.

I'd forgive a drunken fumble more easily than I would forgive him for telling another woman he loved her etc........xx

I was reading Gary's thread that his OH had "gone off" with the cyber relationship person ...

Wasn't thinking about the non-physical side of it.

But if it is all cyber does it constitute say, an affair? Thought there would have to be some degree of physicality involved?

Jill

Muffy's right, it rarely recovers in the end.

Jill, you think cyber affairs are less likely because of the distance? TBH it makes them MORE likely. A cyber relationship is not necessarily a physical one.

There are a lot of stories of people who have abandoned their families and gone to live in another country as a result of a cyber affair.

It is pure fantasy, but it doesn't justify it if you DON'T turn that fantasy into reality. As I said, the thought and emotion behind it is still there, whether the affair is cyber or otherwise. It's no less an infidelity.

Gary, things do get better, honest they do.

Ta Muffy, flirting is ok if your single, not with someone ,otherwise someone is bound to get hurt eventually.

yeah, Teresa got the 'it's just for fun' but it wasn't , not in the end.

Gaz