General Chat

Carole, sadly it will take a long time to even come to terms with your loss, but you will find there will be days where you laugh and behave as always, and suddenly you think of your Dad and feel guilty that you didn't have him in your mind for a while. It's natural and is the way that grieving gently moves on, and it is the way your mind helps you cope without making yourself ill.

You know your Dad's quality of life hadn't been great for some years and that must make it easier because he is no longer suffering loss of dignity, and all those things that took away the life he once had and left him reliant on others. He is peaceful now without pain and is whole again, one day you will be together when it is the right time.


(((Hugs)))
Lizxx

Dear Tinkerbell

Hello

I am very sorry to hear your father passed away.

Please accept my deep sympathy and caring thoughts to you and your family.

Take gentle care
Very best wishes
xx

Hi Carole, as Sharron said, he is at peace now and not suffering anymore.

It get's easier as time goes on, but there are still times when we miss them more than others.

Take care of yourself.

Love, Sallie. xx

thanks Sharron

But,Carole,he,no doubt,feels peaceful,serene,rested and whole again. Take strength from that, love.

A month has passed since my dear Dad passed away. No words can say how I feel

Glad you liked the flowers Carole, now just take time for yourself for a bit and relax, you have had so much on lately it's time for to to slow down now.

Caz xx

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Thanks so very much for the beautiful flowers which arrived this morning. What a lovely suprise! Also thank you to those of you who have sent cards. xxxx

I took Mum to see her sister today. Then brought her back to my house for tea. I got a hair dresser in and Mum had her hair cut. It really looks nice. She couldn't stop going back to a mirror! When I took her home there was a big box out side the door. It was flowers from a cousin in Nebraska USA, who I found through GR about five years ago. So I think Mum had a nice day today!

Just to let you no Carole said thank you so much for the flowers she had put thank you on her thread,so she just rang me to say thank you and i said i would put it on here and also for the cards that her friends have sent
and i thank you for your help
Dutchx

Of course you will get upset at times Carole, you all went through so much and it will keep coming to mind even when you are busy with other things, but let the tears come, no sense bottling them up or trying to put on a brave face, tears are better out than in. I can understand your Mum being less stressed now - I suppose for her especially it's been hard as she was the one looking after your Dad all the time, I think? and she must have wondered every day what would happen.

Just treat yourself kindly, and take all the support you can get from your family

Lizxx

Seen funeral directors today. The funeral is Monday 18th October.
Mum is doing okay, we all are. Mum took us out for lunch today and Steve said he noticed she looked more relaxed. I'm having a few tears now and again but I'm ok xxx

Carole

So sorry to hear of your sad loss .He is at peace now .

hugs

kathy xxx

Condolences to Carole and family.

Dear Carole,my deepest sympathy in the loss of your Dad, bless him, he had fought a good fight for a long time. What a beautiful picture of him waving on the beach.
Just know we are walking this road with you,
much love and hugs, Mary

Please accept my sympathy Carole and also condolences to your Mum who will be having mixed feelings at the moment. She will be sad because her beloved partner has left her but relieved that he is no longer suffering, no doubt you will also be feeling the same. I am pleased that he passed away peacefully and that you were all with him. What a lovely dream for your Mum to have.

Ann xxx ((((hugs))))

I think it's lovely that your Mum dreamed your Dad was saying goodbye, it must have given her some comfort and you too perhaps.
I am so glad he had a peaceful passing and you were all with him at the end, he had had enough treatment and I think you were wise to say 'no more.'

Benidorm beach, not a bad place to wait for loved ones to join him, bless his heart.

Take care, hold on to happy memories

Love
Lizxxx

bless you and your mum Carole, what a lovely dream, tears in my eyes.
Was Benidorm where they spent their hols. Its a nice thought that your dad would be waiting there for your mum
god bless you all
Love Sylvia xxxx

Thank you Joyce and everyone for your condolences. Dad has suffered for seven years since the stroke that left him paralised down the right side and took his speech. A Dr told us yesterday he didn't have long left his right lung was full of fluid. They could put a drain in but we all said he had had enough and not to pull him about and cause more distress to him. He passed peacefully this morning at 8:10. We were all with him. Before his stroke, while discussing their demise, Mum had asked Dad if you go first where will you go? He told her he would wait for her on Benidorm beach. :>) Mum had had a dream this morning, that she saw him stood waving to her. He had come to say good bye.

I have text Tinkerbell and said for her to try and stay strong ,and that we are all here for her ,as thats what friends do be there for one another she was with her Mum when she text me ,its going to be hard for them all
Dutchx