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Oh came home from work early today.Told me he was off out again to get new kitchen cupboards.He is going to spruce up kitchen and sell the house.Was all excited.Was told we are separating.He has his own company and has so much money hidden and i dont know where it all is.What a.... Annie

How awful for you Annie. It sounds like he's been planning this for awhile. Can he sell the house without your permission?

S x

He can't sell house without your consent. Unless you bought house in sixties when it was husband only on deeds.

No Sue he cant,but latley he has been saying alot about he is bored with all his money.We have bought this house outright and he gives me no money.I keep me and grandson.He hates him. Annie

He hates his grandson? How sad. I hope you get some real advice and get what you are entitled to. I really feel for you.

S x

I only know what I am reading on here but I wonder one thing - if he gives you no money, where does his food come from? That would be the first thing to be cut! and if he doesn't pay all the utilty bills, give them to him - unpaid.

You can't keep going on like this. If he is leaving - let him leave. Threats are worth nothing. if he really wanted to go, he would have gone, so show him you won't stand in his way.

Sorry to hear this Annie. Get yourself a good lawyer. I'm not sure about over there, but here you are entitled to 50% of everything (including his pension).
As far as your Grandson is concerned, your husband is despicable.

Deb

Hi Annie, I think this has been coming for a while now, if you are honest with yourself. Go get legal advice straightaway, put a whatever it's called on the house (expression of interest or something) so he can't sell from under you and start looking out for yourself and your J.

Probably the best thing for you all in the long run and he will realise what an idiot he has been when he is on his own, his money won't help him then!

Take care,

Love
Lizxx

Hi Deb, great minds eh lol?

xxx

GO TO CAB AS SOON AS POSSSIBLE

LOVE AND HUGS

Get yourself along to the CAB up the town asap Annie (if its still open that is )

Failing that some solicitors give free first consultations, look into that too.

Chin up luv, stay strong & dont move out, if he wants to go, let him but fight for whats yours x :o)

yeah id defo go see a solicitor stright away, he cant sell from under you,
you have a grandsn in your care which will go in your favour,

stay strong and dont let him get you down, but you must seek legal advice asap, good luck on your future, x

Annie, much though you may not like to, you definitely need legal advice. I am sure that he can't just go and keep all his money, neither can he just sell the house. Please go to CAB or a solicitor. If you are the legal guardian of your Grandson that will mean you will probably get to stay in the house.

Thanks for all your advice.I knew for years this was coming.He always said once our daughter moved out that was going to be the end.She had her baby 2 weeks ago and was already on the council.Yesterday she got a letter putting her in band 2 so it will not be long before she moves.I expect out of the house sale i will have enough to buy my own little place.As for the money he has stashed he reckons no-one will find it.He has got a pension and a company.Annie

He can't hide his pension and company Annie.
In the short term it's a lot of worry and stress for you, but possibly in the long term you could be happier.
Take care xx

What an utterly selfish man.
Get the best advice you can and "take him to the cleaners".
Hope things work out well for you,

Cath xx

he sees the grass on the otherside and thinks it will be greener what a shock he is in for eh!! wonder who will do his dirty washing for him cook his food just how he likes it etc, men like him soon realise that money doen not buy him what he thinks he will get, i agree with everyone on here has said do not be bought cheap, also if having your grandson living with you officialy with the courts etc the youngest child had to be 16 , up until then you could stay in the house till said child is 16 to 18, if your ready to go you name well over the price he thinks he has got to pay you, why not he has obviousley been doing you over sounds like you will be well rid and your grandson too xxxx

My pal was in almost the same position as you except her husband was in the Inland Rev. {expert at hiding money} but even he had to declare his assets .
Her divorce settlement was a good half of everything and a share of his pension, two years on she's a very happy and wealthy woman, all the better for not having to listen to him. He is still the same old misery , and hasn't moved on at all.
Not so much the end of the road, more a time for new beginnings!

Annie, do what others have suggested,get a good solicitor,Go for the Jugular,also if you can,t get him to disclose all his finances,I,m sure the Inland revenue would be interested as to where it is and how he came by it.Take Care.**M**.

Ihope he realises that you are entitled to a share of his pension.