General Chat

Morning Pam,
I hope your mum makes good progress and can move somewhere that is suitable for her needs. Sheltered accomodation is very good.
As for the stroppy nurse, she should definitely be reported to senior hospital management. As an elderly patients concerned family you should have been spoken to with respect and compassion.
I am glad you enjoyed the wedding and I expect your son was delighted that you made it.

Cath xx

Pam, I am so glad you enjoyed the wedding and have such lovely memories of sharing the day with the newly weds.

It's a shame your Mum had a fall but hope she will recover well and will be able to find somewhere good to move into where she is probably safer and has someone on call to help her. It will ease your mind when it's all sorted out.

I would talk to the hospital management people or the PALS I think it is called, about the way the nurse talks to the patients and the visitors but maybe ask for your name to be kept from her so she doesn't know who reported her rudeness, then she can't take it out on your Mum.

Hope things go more smoothly from now on

Lizxx

My reply to a stroppy nurse would have been, Just a minute, madame, who do you think you are talking to? I'll have your name, please. You will be hearing from your superiors!
There is no excuse unless the visitor is abusive. Matron would have removed us from ward duty for less.

Thank you for the update and hope your mum continues to improve.

Enjoy your memories.-J

Morning Pam,

I am so pleased you did go on the trip and you were able to enjoy the lovely wedding. Those will be memories for a lifetime.

How upsetting for you to get the call about your Mum, and how sad to be confronted by the nurse with an attitude problem. Perhaps you need to speak to someone senior on that.

I do hope that you can find the right place for Mum for her in the future and that she recovers well from the surgery.


Elisabeth xx

We had a wonderful time in Cyprus, the wedding was amazing and we enjoyed every moment of it but did things go wrong in Cardiff, the day after the wedding ( friday) had a message left on my phone that Social services couldnt find my mother, phoned my dad thinking maybe she had popped to see him he told me she had fallen again and hurt her arm and she was in hospital and my aunt knew the details , phoned her and she told me that she had fallen the day before and broken her hip , and they were waiting to operate, after I had hysterics and calmed down from packing my bags intending to swim back to Cardiff, I realised that I couldnt get a flight only a day or two before I was due back and everyone in Cardiff was looking after her and several call to UHW to make sure she was ok I sat back and as best I could enjoyed the rest of my holiday, I returned early Thurs morning and had a couple of hours sleep after a few hiccups she had had her op on Tuesday and seemed to have come through it really well all my friends had been to visit her and everyone told me she was really well so I was looking forward to seeing her , went in and asked what ward she was on and when I went in I couldnt se her and it was my OH who said there she is and it said no thats an old lady ( mums 84) he said but her name is over the bed she looked horrendous and I got upset thankfully she was sleeping I touched her hand and she opened her eyes and said I am in so much pain so I tolddher I would leave her sleep and come back later , to try and cut this a little shorter I spoke to a nurse who I think was extremlly rude and OH said he thought I was going to leap the desk to her , I walked away and went back later in the evening and had she changed she was smiling and chatting and I had taken some wedding pics in and it was great to see her and when I went in last night she was the same, she told me the doctor wants to see me and she is a little unhappy about the way the rude nurse speaks to her but then so are many of the other patients seems the girl has attitude problem, I have the greatest repect for the medical proffesion my daughter has just finished 22 years ending up as a sister and done her masters degree to become a health visitor so I know how often the are abused by patients and families .

She is talking of her plans for her future maybe going into a home or maybe sheltered accommodation so its watch this space. I am so glad I went to Cyprus and I know it was the right thing to do


Pam

I,m so glad you are going ....PLEASE take a break from wll this I know it will be on your mind BUT ENJOY your sons wedding ....they are the future and thats with all my love ...

Take Care

Im so glad everything has worked out so you can go to your Sons wedding Pam, have a wonderful time and let us all know how it goes with full description of the dress, flowers etc.
Teresa xx

Its just gone 6 in the morning and now I am getting really excited , cant sleep remembered at 5 this morning that I had forgotton to send an invoice so i' ve just done that, keep thinking have i remembered everything must remember to put my dress in the case ( its an evening gown so needs last moment packing) have i packed a hairbrush , have i packed enough knickers how much over weight are my suitcases!!!!!!!!!! and on and on all the things are flying around in my head , normally I would have written hundreds of lists packed and repacked the cases but this time its throw it all in( except my dress ) and well they got shops in cyprus .

Once again thanks to all of you, I felt all your cwtch's yesterday coming through to me and how all the things you said to me made me feel that yes I need to be with my son tomorrow on his wedding day , and even if my sister had lost her battle she would have hated it if I had not been with Matthew and Sherellle and all the rest , I have got so many people making sure my parents are ok makes me realise how wonderfull all my friends are

Will think of you and raise a glass to you all in Cyprus tomorrow

Pam XXXXX

Pam, you do seem to be unlucky when planning visits, don't you, love?

I am so very glad you are almost on the way to Cyprus, have a wonderful time with your family. I hope the wedding goes beautifully, and your son and his new wife have a great life together.

When I read about the problem just now, I was wishing I could just get in the car and come and help, but now you have a care package sorted out and must go with a clear conscience and happy heart to enjoy this very special time.

You have to just think Que Sara and give your son the support and pleasure of sharing his special day.

Let us know how things went when you return, meantime take the chance of some rest and relaxation and come back refreshed with some lovely memories to tell the family who stayed behind.

I hope your Mum's arm heals well and your sister is improving so she can continue her fight.

Lizxx

Go to the wedding. There are others who can organize whatever is needed here and you have done all you can. You also need care and distraction.You matter too.
It will make nobody feel any better to think you might have missed something so very impotant to you on their behalf so get your butt over there and let the world over here run itself for a few days.

Me too, Pam - that's wonderful news. Have a very happy few days in Cyprus with your family and relax and enjoy seeing your son marry his lovely fiancee. Don't worry - everything will be fine. Tell us all about it when you're back home and have a spare few minutes, won't you.

Love and very best wishes to you all,

Wendy x

I am so pleased for you that you have managed to get everything sorted. Your Mum will be well looked after and I am sure you will have a wonderful time with your family. I wish your son and his bride all the very best for the future.

I am so happy that you are going to your son's wedding to take your place by his side.

It will you a chance to recharge your batteries. Enjoy yourself and try not to worry too much about the situation at home.

Pam, I am so glad you trusted us with your story, and hope you will enjoy your sons wedding. The family at home will manage without you, If you arent there someone will fill the breach and you must have some me time. Happy memories coming your way.

Pam,
have a lovely time. Im so pleased you managed to sort out care. Good that your sister is also feeling better.
Enjoy the wedding.

Cath xx

Pam,

A little verse for your happy bride and groom.

An Old Irish Blessing
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

(My husband read these words at our son's wedding, a few years ago, on the other side of the world.)

Love,
Elisabeth xx

I hope you have a lovely time Pam :)) I am so glad you are able to go, and my very best wishes for the happy couple also.

Rose xx

Pam,

I am so pleased to hear that you have the care package sorted, your sister is making an improvement and more especially that you are going to Cyprus.

You will have a wonderful time with your lovely son and his bride. May the sun shine on you all, on such a happy day.

We look forward to hearing about it all when you get back.

Love,
Elisabeth xx

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts, my cases are packed and I am going to Cyprus tomorrow to see my boy marry a darling girl with all my family together. I was able to put into place a care package for my mum with a district nurse and carer every day and meals on wheels she will also have support for her from her youngest sister ( age 73) and an uncle ( age 81) , I have also give a friend money to make sure that they dont want for anything and my friend who has breast cancer is going to get my fathers medication for him on Monday .

My sister is responding to treatment, and have now said that she could be home in a few days when last night they never expected her to get better.

I am sure it is all the love and support that everyone of you send out THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

Pam XXXX