General Chat

My maternal grandparents moved into our house to look after us four children when my father died aged 42. My mother had to go out to work to keep us all. I was four years old and my grandma and I would sit round the coal fire making toast on a toasting fork and she would tell me endless tales of her life and the early years of my mother and her brother.

Oranges were 10 a penny, she tied my mums hair up in rags at night to make it curly, stories of when they lived in Manchester (something that I still can't find proof of) Tales about the rag and bone man coming round each week and the about her wedding to my grand dad.

All these stories and memories I cherish but if only I had known then that one day I would have been tracing my family tree I could have found out a lot more useful information. Some names that she had mentioned have helped me along the way but I wish she had told me more.

Wendy

I agree with Mark that really annoys me,it happened to me yesterday again.

Fathers that name their sons after them and then their sons do the same.

My ggrandparents , how even tho they where married and buried together why can't I find a marriage certificate .
I am at best a learner of searching family history and when I put a thread up no answer , but on the other hand I applause and thank the people that have helped me ,

Nothing except for that one thing really gets up my nose really I'm still a beginner and I will learn along the way .

very interesting ,not had personal experience,but a fellow researcher has,and has been very upset. some families did have alot of secrets and lies, and crime too, I have beenwarmed anddelighted with some loving kndnesses which showed up in my family, in a time when people were so straitlaced!

I think what annoys me the most is writing to people on here who open your message but have no intention of contacting you - which has happened several times recently.

Dermot ,,,

How about getting some memory sticks and download your family tree on to them..then leave them with your childrens/grandchildrens names on them.

Our Descendants will be more computer litterate than we are..

Next question:-

So, you have worked hard & long hours to record your family history on here & you are rightly proud of it.

How easy would it be for your children or grand-children to log into this system? In other words, have you made any 'paper' records for those who come after you & where their 'technical ability' is a little bit suspect?

I started my tree on paper only many years ago but, I must admit, much of what I have now placed on here is not written down. Ideas welcome.

Family history doesn't annoy me in the least.

Some family historians do.....;-))

My Mum gave me a very mixed bag of information when she was alive,
I think the poor Woman was ashamed of her childhood and where she was bought up.


The cost of the certs to unravel the economical truths she told has been very pricey but worth it in the end and I can undestand why she acted in the way she did. I just wished she had been truthful when she was alive, it may have helped her have some peace in her life.

Teresa

Have had loads of help over the years which I'm
grateful for. I never take the info for gospel so always
check it out cause like to get certs. The one thing that
has me pulling my hair out is when I hit a brick wall,
needless to say I'm going to be bald soon.

Emmax

What annoys me is the way some on Ancestry just take hints and block info and add it to theirs, and wont acknowledge that they have a complete wrong family with theirs.

I have since found out (I hope) how to keep my tree private although the info is now out there for others who don't check facts to copy.

I do not know what the row was between my materal g.aunt and my paternal g.mother which prevented my gmother attending the marriage of my parents and my aunt of wearing her yellow dress as a bridesmaid. Instead they peeked out of the lace curtains to watch! The two families lived opposite and my mother lived with her aunt.

Only found this out from my aunt by marriage when other aunt was dead and mother told me it was none of my business when I asked! This was 1931 and the two never spoke for the rest of their lifetime!

Martyn the victorian era was so hypocritical it beggars belief.

I was brought up to be truthful. I absolutely hate lies and deception and prejudice. I even found out that my own parents were liars. Their lives were ones of lies and deception and prejudice and abuse to me and my sister. And the maternal side of my maternal line probably wouldn't know a truth if it jumped up and smacked them in the mouth. And my paternal, maternal line with too many secrets and prejudices.

Truth is I'm ashamed to be related to them.

Jill

But what if 'they' DO know better than anyone else? ! lol

It's a foolish person who refuses good advice from someone who knows more about a specific area of research surely ? none of us can know everything ( not even me ;) ..

I find persistent requests to see my tree with no reference to where there might be a link, aggravating ( well I did, i removed my tree here entirely because of one such person who got very abusive).

A very few people who, having found what they think is correct, won't acknowledge that they might have got the wrong person ( this is usually down to them not knowing enough about locations outside their own area ).

Ancestry trees where the same incorrect info has been copied a dozen times.

BUT the great people and amazing amount of information out there outweighs all minor irritations for me.

My gripe is finding someone you are looking for (when just starting out on GR) in a post from way back! How do you get in contact? I have tried sending messages BUT if the post is really quite old and the trail is dead it is VERY frustrating.

Everything the Inspector said.

My main grouse is with GR Members who think they know better than anyone else. For example:-

1) Insist that their way of researching is the only way to do things and every other way is rubbish.

2) Dismiss anyone who has more than a handful of names in their tree and does not have certs to prove each and every birth marriage or death as a 'Name Collector'

3) The handful of real Name Collectors who haven't got a clue who they have in their tree when challenged

4) Members who insist on telling other people how they should use the boards, worse still, send them pm's to tell them how they are going wrong (in their opinion, that is)

5) Those who refuse point blank to accept they might have got it wrong, or that there might be an alternative way of looking at things.

The Family Records Centre in London having been closed :-(

Nothing really annoys me about family history as such.
I know it can be frustrating sometimes but that is to be expected., especialy when searching records that sometimes have been mistranscribed.

I do find it a little bit off putting when those who are just starting out, ask questions on here, and are not treated well by some, we all had to start somewhere.

Martyn - could that not be the enumerators fault - also many people did not have the ability to spell like we do today..