General Chat

Did you really expect anything different Gwen, knowing the way he has been over the last few years?

I guess there are good things to remember and your family came from the marriage......
Will be thinking about you

love
Lizxx

TOMORROW IS OUR 43RD ANNIVERSARY
HE JUST LAUGHED......AN SAID

SO WHAT

All it needed was just one step,and you,re off on your journey to what and where you want to go. good luck and enjoy it.**M**.

Well as Robin has suggested, I will update you. I feel better for letting off steam. I have absorbed myself, and endulged myself in what I always wanted to have a go at doing. Its nothing special(except to me) nore is it very exciting.

I know that people have advised that I seek counselling. I have been before, had 12 years worth of "rubbish, unsaid things" and off loaded it. But this time I thought I would just dump it "out there". So it wouldn't build up.

I do hope that you are all ok. I am. Thank you again, for all being there for me and each other xxxxxxxxxxx

Hey Mrs G.....


Strength comes from who knows where....but when it comes.....it stays and helps us through the hard times.....The good or better times are ahead.......believe it!

Susan
x

Mrs Gene Hunt
It's ok you now have your back bone. It's never too late to do what you wish to do, I did. Life is short so be happy, I am.
Good luck

Loved the verse.


There's a saying (American of course lol) :

A yard is hard but an inch is a cinch


and it's true, a small step at a time can be less daunting than a giant leap!

Good luck

Lizx

I beat myself up daily about things I have done and wish to god i hadn't and about roads I followed when i was much younger that led to places i should never have visited..........god i wish we could start old and work backwards !!! lol.

Know just how you feel..BUT. I found turning 40 a HUGE turning point for me ...I looked around at what I had and culled all the c**p that had blighted my life for so long and cut out all the hangers on and grabbers who I no longer wanted or needed or who bought me down. It didn't happen over night but I feel I'm almost free of the things that used to cause me grief.

Tis SO hard to change things when you're a mother as your kids come first...I totally understand that...maybe try bite sized changes to begin with ?

Good luck hon. I wish you all the best x

Same here, thats very moving. Thank you. Thank you too Robin, for your message. Thinking of you all who have posted on here, some I have been in touch with before, and others not, I just hope we all get some joy.

(((HUG))) to you ALL xxx

Thank you so much for that poem, Kucinta. I had never read it and it is so moving. BC XX

I found this poem by Mary Oliver very inspiring, as others have said, you only have one life:

The Journey

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice--
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
"Mend my life!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do--
determined to save
the only life you could save.

Mary Oliver

Hello my lovely friend O))

I agree with Kay, being able to speak about it is one step forward ... I know because it took me a long while to be able to do it. So hope today is a better day, always here for you

xxx Shimms xxx

I hope things a bit better for you today Jan


Marion

Mrs Gene,

You found one big leap of strenght by your posting to the world.well done.x

Mrs Gene

Well doine for coming on here and letting off steam. I hope it made you feel a little better. Nothing worse than not being in conrol of your life and sometimes difficult to do that. We all make bad judgements and sometimes it is difficult to disentangle ourselves from them.

Try to seek out some support no matter how small, make use of the mental health services if not already doing so. Make use of the advice services to help you with your finances ie citizens advice..

Keep going Mrs Gene for yourself and your children.

Regards

Vera

I replied quite angrily last night, but deleted it lol.

I'd just better echo what Liz and BC have said.

It is fine in principle to say " if you don't like the status quo, then change it"...if it is just yourself you have to consider it is easier. And it is very hard to leap out of the frying pan without knowing there is something better to land in, you either have to be very strong or very reckless...fine dividing line there!

Good luck Mrs Gene

Well,you can let off steam here any time you want, Mrs Gene. You know you are among friends, and, as you can see, it helps other folks in a similar position. Just to type it down must be a help. Here's wishing you strength:-) BC XX

Did I say I was different? Did I ask for advice or help? No, my topic states "Letting Off Steam".

I know all too well that there is a world full off people just like me and more probably in a worse situations than me, but if they are in a better position than I am to change it then I hope this may help, inspire them.

It may also have helped those who have commented on here, just by letting off steam of their own. My future does lie in my hands .........but so does my children's. What sort of Mum would I be if I chose to do what I wanted? They come first, always will.

You know nothing of my life, and even my friends don't know the half of it. I have made small steps, I'm not the most confident of people, I struggle I fail. Failing my Kids? Don't think I could live with that.

ROBIN
WE MAY HAVE A WEE BIT OF BACKBONE ON HERE
BUT YOU TRY IN REAL LIFE
NOT EASY AT ALL

Thanks very much Robin just what I needed more verbal