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after living with me for three and a half years and now aged 15 has gone to live with his mothers parents.I am gutted and will miss him so bad.Annie

Oh Annie, I feel for you. Will you still be able to see him?

I have heart problems and high blood pressure so social services was going to put him foster care.I asked for his other grandparents to take him.Still gutted though
Annie

annie having taken in to my home 11 children over the years
its normal to be sad when they leave -- i did to

but i am sure you have did your best for the boy
and he must come first for now

but for now
pick yourself up ands pat yourself on the back
well done for the three years you have given him
i have never even exspected a thank you
just the knowing they are doing ok was enough for me

I expect you are but at least he is with gparents, much better than in care. I know you worked hard for him over the past years.

So sorry to hear this, Annie, I remember you talking about him very fondly in the past. Hope the other g/parents care for him as well as you have and that he visits you regularly - he must be very fond of you too. Chin up. xx

I talk to him all the time.I am really in pieces.I treated him as mine.Annie

Annie
You turned his life around.
He will remember and love you for that.

I feel for you missing him though, but you will still be close.

Gwyn

i am sure you have grannie i did with all of mine
maybe he will stay over sometimes
he will still love you and care about you as you do about him

but for now get well soon x

Doing the right thing is often the hardest thing you can do. I hope that things get easier for you soon.

Hi Annie, I remember you taking your Grandson on all those years ago, you have done a fantastic job! he will never forget what a wonderful caring, loving and generous person you are.
You never know, but as he gets older and is allowed to make his own choices where he can live, he may return the love he recieved and come back to you.
At least you haven't lost the contact, thats one blessing.
It must be a very hard thing to have to give a child up, I can't imagine how hard it is for you.

Take good car of yourself,
Dolly X

Annie, you can be content knowing that you gave him a good life while he was with you. Your health must come first now and at least he didn't go into care but is still with family. I am sure he will still stay in contact with you.

Hope you can get your health problems sorted soon. :-)

He is yours.

It is only the practical physical things he is doing with his other grandparents. The important, heartfelt things he is still doing with you.

By their very nature,teenage boys are horrible,they have to be,it is the law! They will have all the grim bits when he is a little git,as he surely must be,it isordained! You will get all ithe nice scrubbed up bits,the ones you probably always have cherished.

You haven't lost him,you have gained a bit of me time until he is old enough to choose to come back and look after you or strike out alone and watch your welfare from a safe distance.

Annie, I am sorry to read this news as I know how much J means to you but you have done amazingly well with him, and all that hard work will stay with him and make him the young man he is becoming whoever he is living with. I am sure you mean the world to him but you have had so much stress over the years and still do have, I know, so take time to look after yourself and get yourself as well as possible so you can be there for him whenever he wants to see you and talk with you.

Take care and be proud, he knows who was there for him at the time he needed it most and will always be 'yours'

love
Lizxx