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Blimming men!!!!

:-S

just to be clear, are they his children ie children they had together?

What she will get doesdepend on what he came to the marriage with- if he already owned all these houses beofre they married, then no, she wont be entitled to half of all of them.

I guess the car would be a joint assest in reality, If th elog book is in her name then he cant sell it , i it isnt then he probably can.

I dont think he is obliged to give her his address, any more than she would be obliged to give him her new address if she moved

I would not let the children stay with him. They may not be brought home.

It seems like he wants to have everything.

Hide the car ....my hubby did it to me and I was entitled to the car ......I put up the money but he had paperwork in his name!!!!

HIDE IT

This is exactly what happened to my sister. He also left her with the debt and he then declared himself bankrupt so that left her to pay. She is entitled to half of everything, regardless of what he says. But that also includes any debt they have. Get help quick and hide the car.. Also if they kids are older, get them to tell you where he is living, its only fair. My sisters ex kept moving to avoid the debts and wouldn't tell her where he was taking the kids. Such bad times. Hope she goes ok. :-D

Get all the evidence and titles of all his assets before he gets rid and hides the proceeds,also of any pensions he has.**M**. :-S

Do NOT change the locks. The only thing that will accomplish is her spending money she can't afford to spend.
Make photocopies of say the last 12 months worth of payslips.
Make sure she has copies of important documents including copies of documents relating to your housing tenure (for example, mortgage details or lease and rental agreements). Insurance documents, including national insurance number and anything else you can think of.
She needs to set up a separate bank account and get child benefit and any child tax credits paid directly into that so he can't touch them. If she doesn't get CTC then she needs to apply for them now.

Went to Solicitor, the vehicle is her's as such as he had another vehicle that he took with him, she cannot stop him from selling the car.

If she has the car ....hide it ...end of ..No one in their right mind would buy a car they cant see!!

Carol.

Everything he says he owns ......is also hers .

Just get her to write down everything he takes, because he has a shock coming to him ....big time.

More important has she seen a solicitor?

Car not in her name but his, it's always been her car and he had a mitsubushi truck which he took when he left, he now says he is selling the Car saturday and will give her half of the money! she thinks she will not have enough to buy,tax and insure another vehicle, he has always been controlling and had everything in his name, daughter didn't have a credit card and he paid all bills ect so no money of her own. He was once a very generous person to her, but now he is with this 22 year old just doesn't seem to have any care about her or the children, still won't give her his address.

I hope your daughter can get a good solicitor and take that awful man to the cleaners, she should write down everything she knows about his assets - he may try to pretend he doesn't own those ones shared with a colleague etc

If the children are upset by the visits, then they can refuse to go for the while, especially as your daughter has no address for him. He will have to apply to the courts to see them and that will cost him and take time, meanwhile your daughter can do all she can to keep things calm and as normal as possible for the children to help them through such a difficult time. She should also explain to their school about the situation so that the father cannot just go and pick them up without permission.

Good luck to her, sounds as tho she is well rid of him


Lizx

I agree with everything that has been, first your daughter must not leave the house, and she must get a very good solicitor. Good luck.

She is entiled to half of everything he owns he can't put her out of the house as she has children and the car is in her name if he sells it counts as theft
See a lawyer as to make sure she gets what she is entitled to and even if he has house with some one else she is still entitled to his share
Also if he has a pension with his work she is entitled to half of that as well

I would change any joint bank account so that both have to sign to get money out too or she may find money starts to seep out quickly. I would also change any utility bills into his name if they aren't already. Then if he stops paying them they won't chase her for the money!!

It sounds complicated with all the properties so a solicitor is the best place to start. She must be very upset with all this, but she must really be savvy now and look out for herself and her children........he obviously can't be relied on to be fair.

On no account should she leave the home. And I endorse what others have said she urgently needs a solicitor.
If the log book was in her name I don't see how he can sell the car.

He may be surprised at how much she will be awarded in a divorce case.

Good luck to her. Stupid man, mid life crisis and no thought at all for his children.

I believe that if children go on to University - support has to continue until finish education or reaches 21 - whichever comes first.

Best advice you can give dau - write everything down - if poss with dates and times not just since he left but before - if relevant.

Carol in Dulwich,
I do hope everything comes out right for your daughter and g/children
as everyone else has said , get a solicitor.
Hazelx

Seeing one tommorrow, have told daughter to write everything down S-I-L real slippery and have told daughter to write everything down and keep a log of it.
Thanks for your kind words.
Carol