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There is a birth for a Tony R Hickling in Basford district so this could be the one in Loughborough.

Rose

Good thinking Choccy!! I will try and find out if my mum remembers...thank you!

Thank you Liz47, have the number as was suggested earlier, have called it and nobody has been in yet...

Address in Loughborough send by message.

If he attended University, is it possible they might have his details through an Alumni association? There might also be a University website where you could post a request to see if any of his 'friends' at the time are still in touch with him.

That's good news about a long lost family :-) I hope in time you are able to find your father,

If someone wishes not to be found, it's very easy to 'disappear'.

He can call himself by any name he chooses as long as there is no intention to deceive or defraud.

Choccy you are spot on!! John Bone has been in contact and it turns out I have a whole long lost family! However, there is no news of my father :-( they haven’t heard from him for longer than me... ErikaH yes my mum did get a divorce...but she had to get it in his absence as he couldn’t be traced...

I think JB's mother was the sister of Glenna M JANE married to Ronald Hickling.

Did your mother get a divorce?

Thank you I will try the T Hickling in Loughborough but will have to set up the 192 account thing first.

No my grandfather was a staunch man, Antony became estranged from them and he doesn’t know they even died sadly - my grandad didn’t want him anywhere near my Nanas funeral, I, being 15 at the time, was too young to feel anything but grief for my loss to go through the trauma of trying to find my father then....my grandfather refused any idea of contacting him when he was dying.

I’ve put him to the back of my mind all these years for fear of rejection...but now I just need to find him either way, as I feel like a part of me is missing.

Thank you all again, and for your patience with me.

Kind regards
Jennifer

You say, "He doesn’t appear to be on any electoral roll."

There is the possibility of the man in Loughborough, whom I mentioned earlier.

Some credits on 192.com would allow you to see the full address.

Susan's birth is on FMP

However, that is not relevant to this enquiry, as you are in contact with her.

Didn't he attend his father's funeral?

Hickling Ronald William 1924 2008 2008 United Kingdom Deaths 2007-2017 Malvern, Worcestershire, England

Yes sorry my grandparents Glenna Mona Jane and Ronald William
Hickling married in 1955. Susan was born on a Marine barracks in Singapore which is why she may be more difficult to locate.

Kind regards
Jennifer

Hi thank you ever so much for your responses!

Sorry I did mean the electoral register not the census! New to this sorry! He doesn’t appear to be on any electoral roll.

He married Yvonne Lacy ( my mum) in 1983 in Malvern but there’s also an entry under Yvonne Gould in Kidderminster (my mums step dads surname is Gould)

His middle name is Ronald after my grandfather Ronald William (born 1924)

My aunt I am in contact with but she’s got no further information apart from her sighting in London in the 90s.

Susan M Hickling was Ronald and Glennas’ younger child born approx 4 years later...going to my grandfathers side won’t be helpful...he had a sister Gladys M Hickling (I believe the M stands for May like her and my grandfathers’ mother, Elsie May Powell (born in 1921 approx 3-5 months after Elsie’s marriage to William Hickling in the first quarter of 1921). My grandad was left on the doorstep of the family home at the age of 4 whilst Elsie fled an abusive alcoholic William with my grandads’ older sister Gladys...my grandad wouldn’t talk about it and never heard from them again.... that is about all I know of my paternal side... he’s just disappeared. He thought I was better off with my mum and stepfather when he last came to visit (I was 5) I remember my mum told him to go away and never come back :-( so that’s what he did...

I’ve contacted John Bone and I’m yet to hear but whoever he is he ONKY had my paternal side and he knows a lot of information...

To add, I have checked death records and can’t find anything.

Thank you again for the responses - sorry this response is so long!

Kind regards
Jennifer

there is a marriage in 1983 in malvern

192.com shows a Tony Hickling living in Loughborough, this year.

But I have no idea of this man's age, so can't assume he's your Anthony.

Jennifer, why don’t you try contacting this John Bone. You don’t need to go into much detail - just say you have noticed he has your mother on his tree and ask what his connection is. Apart from anything else, as your mother is still alive, he should not be showing her without her permission.

Some while ago I contacted someone on Ancestry who was showing my mother in their tree. My Mum was already deceased so it wasn’t a problem but I asked about the connection and found a whole new branch of my family in Canada that I knew nothing about.

It might be worth a try.

Aunt Su & Antony must have had different mothers. Antony is the only Hickling with mmn Jane. The alternative is if Aunt Su was/is Antony's Aunt rather a sibling.

Is this Antony's parents marriage? :-

First name(s) RONALD W
Last name HICKLING
Marriage quarter 3
Marriage year 1955
Registration month -
MarriageFinder ™

RONALD W HICKLING married one of these people

Glenna M Jane

Spouse's last name Jane
District Plymouth
District number -
County Devon
Country England
Volume 7A
Volume as transcribed 7A
Page number 1559
Record set England & Wales Marriages 1837-2005

Kath. x