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Totally fed up of the attitude...

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Rambling Rose

Rambling Rose Report 6 Jul 2012 22:39

Sylvia a bit off topic but I'm laughing at that ladies comment re 'proper behaviour' :-D I would love to have been able to tell my mum about the skeleton I found in her straight laced in-laws closet she would have been very gleeful :-D


Eringobragh1916 Report 6 Jul 2012 22:45

Will someone please enlighten me as to what/who the thread refers to..
Have been away for a week and obviously missed the shenanigans over the weekend..
I do know who Sylvia is refering to....!!! ..


SylviaInCanada Report 6 Jul 2012 23:14


I have sent you a pm


SylviaInCanada Report 6 Jul 2012 23:15


glad it amused you

It amused me at the time!


GlitterBaby Report 6 Jul 2012 23:22

I have always said I keep a black list of members names and numbers

Think I might know the one being referred to.

One is very close to going in my little black book and he has recently changed his board name


jax Report 6 Jul 2012 23:34

He is already in mine :-D


patchem Report 7 Jul 2012 00:12

Has the one that I am thinking of, changed his board name, but his name still shows under his old board name at the time he posted in my threads?
If that makes sense?


jax Report 7 Jul 2012 00:26

Yes thats the one

Click ADD REPLY button - not this link!

Click ADD REPLY button - not this link! Report 7 Jul 2012 00:43

Quick look on Google shows 2 name changes since May.



JustDinosaurJill Report 7 Jul 2012 00:44

Erin. I kept notes. I was so upset and disgusted. I'm glad that I did because the person has now taken the info given to them and deleted their abusive threads.

Jax. Do GB and Patchem mean the same person from the weekend just gone? I didn't know of the name change



SylviaInCanada Report 7 Jul 2012 01:13

no Jill

this is another person .... who is posting under another name, that name also shows up when you click on his name BUT the photo is of him, and he signs it with a shortened version of his name

and yes, he is in my little black book!

I'll pm you



GlitterBaby Report 7 Jul 2012 01:13

I do not mean the one from the weekend just gone. Presume that is the one that had posted the same request on many genealogy sites and of course got the same info time after time. Turned nasty and kept mentioning a medical problem he had. Loads of members on this site have far worse problems than he claimed to have.

The one I might add to my black list claimed to have a very good job, type of job where you have to study for years and pass numerous exams. BUT he could not grasp the basic info given to him.


GlitterBaby Report 7 Jul 2012 01:14

Yep thats the one Sylvia

Click ADD REPLY button - not this link!

Click ADD REPLY button - not this link! Report 7 Jul 2012 01:23

Missed the one from last weekend. We need a code word as a tip off.. Maybe sign our names with "lbb" after?



SylviaInCanada Report 7 Jul 2012 01:56

might be a good idea Rose!


JustDinosaurJill Report 7 Jul 2012 11:02

Morning Rose.

You won't need a hint. It will jump off the page at you.

However I will pm you.



JustDinosaurJill Report 7 Jul 2012 11:55

Thanks for the heads-up Sylvia. I've been making a mental note of things up until now but me thinks I need my notebook.xJ

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 7 Jul 2012 15:57

I TRY to be very with it and not be impatient with any replies but I have fallen foul of posters who have done duplicate posts and not acknowledge any info posted on an earlier posting.
I remember my exasperated reply on one duplicate posting of "oh for goodness sake" that got meet with loads of abuse and an accusation from the poster of being extremely rude, and others who read it asking Heh Shirley??? explain yourself. I hadn't been online at the exact time and then another poster explained. By the time people went to look at the earlier posting when me and one other had posted LOADS that was being asked for again!!! it had been deleted to cover themselves!!

Makes you want to give up helping sometimes ALTHOUGH I still do it! :-D


LadyKira Report 7 Jul 2012 19:46

I just choose where I help. If I feel that a poster has an attitude I will just walk away and not post anymore. Even if we were paid workers we should not have to put up with some of rubbish that gets thrown at us.


JustDinosaurJill Report 7 Jul 2012 20:14

A week or so ago I pm'd someone new-ish who was asking for help in a certain area. I offered her assistance directly because I reckoned if I had offered to go the extra mile on here, I might have opened the floodgates.

I received a lovely thank you reply back and I hope I am going to be able to help her.

I always think carefully with any reply on here now. I tend to judge whether I do or not by the way the person writes their request or query.

I live not far from a house once owned by the Bird family of Bird's Custard fame. On the spur of the moment I decided to see if anyone had the family in their tree. I sent a pm to someone who did on the off-chance that they knew nothing about the house itself. I gave them other info and the pm which did take me a few minutes to write was opened but not even an acknowledgement. His loss.

Shirley. I totally get your frustration. I wonder if some of those who expect so much think that our computer access is different to theirs. Perhaps we are so efficient they think we just input a name and dob and everything they ever wanted to know pops up instantly. If only!

I know that we are really talking about a small number here but we need to get a grip on manners and behaviour before we get another thread like last weekend.

I would like to suggest that if we get even one argumentative or abusive posting we pm it and simply put the reason in the next reply that GR members who are here to help will no longer tolerate abusive responses. If those of us who are here more all start doing this, maybe GR themselves will begin to recognise that we have had enough.