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Can I have a moan please????

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Angela Report 12 Mar 2005 12:53

I am sure you feel better for that one!! I have trawled through microfilmed censuses myself and know how timeconsuming, tiring and frustrating it can be, especially if you are not given very much information to start with. Even looking stuff up on Ancestry can be a long process. I have been looking at the 1871 on there this morning. I found one that I have been looking for for a long time, but the mistranscriptions are horrendous. Some folks must think that you are just sitting there at home with a wonderfully indexed census on a disc and can find things instantly. If only it were that simple!!!


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 13:16

Lou I couldn't agree more. I do think that the problem is the lack of knowledge of how the lookups are done is a major problem. They have probably seen how the LDS 1881 census is indexed and assume they are all like that. Also, the complete lack of information given to enable the search in the first place. With my NBI lookups, I have sometimes had to keep asking for more info. Its like pulling teeth, as though they are afraid to give out too much of what they already know. Also I have sometimes been told where and when a person was born and no indication at all as to where they may have died. I have even, when I looked at the county of birth for the possible death, then been told that they were miles away when last seen on a census. Well!!! I'm not a mind reader. Also, not reading the original posting that explains what is on offer. I have been asked for births and marriages, when it clearly states National Burial Index. OK, my moan over too. Margaret


Unknown Report 12 Mar 2005 14:05

Lou Hope you feel better after your moan. I too get some irritating messages from people who think I am on 24-hour call-out. They are of course a minority and many people who contact me are polite, appreciative and patient. Perhaps you should politely point out that they could always PAY a professional to do their research for them! Anyway I am sending you a big smile as you are always very helpful to me :-))) nell

~ Maryclare

~ Maryclare Report 12 Mar 2005 14:20

hi lou as a 'newbie' i would like to thank you and all the folks out there who have helped me, not just with look ups (I'AM TRING TO DO IT MYSELF, THATS THE FUN OF IT ) but with related info ,such as where to look and how. i make a point of getting back to people with a thankyou,its only good manners ! so if people are being rude and impatient moan on maryclare


Janet Report 12 Mar 2005 14:35

Lou, I am only sorry that so far this thread has only been answered by mainly people who are committed and who understand all the work that goes into looking and researching work at whatever Record Office. The trouble is that whenever these threads are started it is always the 'committed' that answer. As I run a Family History Group whereby I already help a group of people living within my own area with their family history, I cannot also do people's research on Genes Reunited, so I admire those that do so much for others on here. What I have always tried to do is to answer people's queries on here and in that capacity, only about half ever write and say thanks for the help/info that I have offered. There are times when I wonder what some people think they can expect from this site. Do people really think that those that help them on here are paid by Genes Reunited?? I have seen people on here ask for others to do some work fior them at the National Archives, and as Brenda has said above, just to sign in, find and load the microfilm will take time. I take groups of people to these archives and I show them how to use the facilities and that will include learning how to load the film but I cannot and will not do their family history for them. If they do not want the bother of research, then they should consider paying a researcher to do the work at £20/40 per hour. Yes we have all had families and yes we do not all live near the CRO's but that is the same for us all and we all have to work around those problems. I may live near London but Edinburgh and Dublin are a long way from London! Those who are disabled have a problem and the ones who are in real difficulty are the ones who do not live in this country but I do not often find that it is those people who are the worst offenders. The worst offenders seem to be the ones living in the UK who are able to travel around. Slightly off topic but similar, when you get a message from someone stating: 'How are you connected to the t.......t familymy father was born in Kettering Northamptonshire 1901' and unsigned. What do they want from me?? All my Family Tree?? I do wonder whether this sort of person has any idea what Family history is all about. Not sure how anybody can help people like this. I did answer very shortly though I felt like not bothering. Janet

Andrea B

Andrea B Report 12 Mar 2005 14:47

I totally agree Lou - but could I add an extra little moan? I have Durham and like everyone else who offers their help I am happy to do look ups for people but it is very time consuming and what isdifficult is being asked to look in an area when the information you are given indicates that the family were unlikely ever to have been there! (Hope I made that clear!) Then if you do the look up, can't find the family and suggest from the information that they have given that they may be elsewhere you are ignored! No thanks for the time already spent or the suggestion. THEN, that thread with your results disappears and an identical one is posted asking for the same information!! GRRRR On the whole though most people, as I do, really appreciate the help that they are given. Andrea


Heather Report 12 Mar 2005 14:56

I just wanted to add, I am totally indebted to people like Lou and dear people like Joan, Chloe, Crista, Peter, Tina and so many more, who have helped me in my quest. I too am in total awe of the people offering to do archives searches. When I go it takes me so long that on the occasion I offered to look up for just three people, I ended up coming home without any of my stuff after I had managed to find theres! This is a brilliant site with unbelievably generous people and it is also amazing how people offer to spend their own credits for others benefit. I am sure a lot of people have no idea just how much this can cost. Its gobsmacking when you get someone asking for 1837 look up with a span of about 10 very vague years and details. I have to say it is a bit choking when you have used up credits for someone then you receive no response, you contact them to see if they have seen the references and you get back an 'Oh yes, thanks, but now mum said it was 20 years later than that' THANK YOU ALL YOU FANTASTIC GUYS WHO HELP OTHERS SO SELFLESSLY.


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 15:11

I no longer respond to lookups like 1837 now because of the unthinking attitude of some people. Some of the blanket requests are unbelievable. If you post a reply informing them of the cost involved they dont bat an eyelid. I know this for certain as someone (no names) had my reply removed last week when I told him he had a cheek asking for a 40 odd years span lookup on 1837. If its just one credit because you are certain of the quarter etc then that is different. If I needed a lookup that cost quite a bit of money then I would either wait until I had the money to pay for it myself or go without. If I see a request from someone who has helped me in the past, then yes I will look it up. Margaret

~♥ Daisy ♥~

~♥ Daisy ♥~ Report 12 Mar 2005 15:32

Hi Lou Well said!! I haven't come across the same problem yet, probably as there aren't that many people requiring Cambridge look ups. My problem is that I feel so guilty when I can't find what they're looking for, no matter how many hours I've spent looking for the information! lol I'm hoping that my reward for all those hours searching is going to be my lot turning up fairly quickly when I start the long trawl through the London 1841 census! Any news on Adelaide? Daisy


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 15:48

Susan I can guarantee it wont be you who has offended people because you recognise that a bit of thought and thanking people goes a long way. Its the ones who would perhaps read this thread and completely miss the point who are the culprits as they would not see themselves in any of this. Margaret


Elaine Report 12 Mar 2005 16:02

Hi Lou, Moan away,and rightly so too,without wonderful kind people like you a vast majority of people would never move on with their trees. Surely its only good manners to ask politely (and not often) to give as much info as possible and NEVER to ask how the research went. I've never been to a records office but having read these replies I think you kind people that offer searches are wonderful,ploughing through all that time consuming stuff. So bless you all,you are appreciated. Perhaps on this tips board we should add a list of good old fashioned manners. Elaine


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 16:09

Elaine Good idea, but the people without the manners perhaps wouldnt read it in the first place. LOL Margaret


Unknown Report 12 Mar 2005 16:30

Blimey, I only popped out for a couple of hours! Its good to know that so many people feel the same way though and it wasn't just me being ultra crabby this morning! Several people raise a few very valid points in their replies as well. Margaret is NOT (as she calls it) 'a walking atlas' and this seems to be a common problem when some requests are posted. Often the TOWN is not enough. And I agree that there are certain people on the boards who seem to be unable or unwilling to do any actual look ups for themselves. You see the same names night after night asking for look ups, both on census and BMD's, without a thought to how much work and cost goes into what they are asking for. I blame the BBC....this has got MUCH worse since they screened those programmes which should have been entitled 'How to obtain a 12 generation tree in a weekend with no effort involved'! Lou


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 16:38

Lou LOL your mentioning me not being a walking atlas. It is amazing how many towns in this country have the same name in different counties. Something you forgot in your last comment!! 12 generation tree with no effort and at no cost at all, to themselves anyway. Margaret


Phoenix Report 12 Mar 2005 16:55

Can I come on here and hide, please? I've just been sarcastic on the Records Office Board to someone who has rejected one of Nell's sensible suggestions. Should I delete my comment?


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 16:58

No, don't delete your comment please. Why on earth do people ask questions if they dont want to hear all the possible answers? Don't hide, we're not. LOL Margaret


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 17:02

Brenda I've just seen your comment, I had to smile. I have added to it. People with that attitude make me so mad. They havent got time, but all of us sad people on here have???? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Margaret


Phoenix Report 12 Mar 2005 17:12

Thank you for the solidarity, Margaret!


Unknown Report 12 Mar 2005 17:36

Think they must have deleted the thread cos I was going to find it and join in. Can't see it! Ah...found it! Think you two have covered it beautifully, nothing more to say really!


Margaret Report 12 Mar 2005 17:39

Its still there Lou Will message with the name Margaret