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Should I listen to the family
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Glenys the Menace! | Report | 1 Jul 2008 10:29 |
I wonder what Stephen would have liked ....... just a thought. :-)) |
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Hilary | Report | 1 Jul 2008 06:36 |
Maybe you could say to the family that you would like to look at headstones together, not to buy at the moment but just to see what is there. Then you would get an idea of what you all like & dislike. Then sit back for a while to think on it. The cross you hold so dear to your heart could stay & just be moved to the bottom. Hopefully you can find one you all like. |
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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond | Report | 1 Jul 2008 02:21 |
Gillian, whatever you decide on, do get insurance cover set up, as with the awful vandalism these days it is a necessity. Dreadful to think headstones and memorial markers can be treated like this, but a sign of the times, sadly. |
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ann | Report | 30 Jun 2008 20:57 |
Hi Gillian,Will you add a photo of Stephen? When i visit nan and grandads grave there are so many in that cemetery with photos.Because they are buried where i was bought up i wander around and see lots of people i remember.Old neighbours and friends parents and grandparents.Brings back so many memories.I always have to have a chat about them. Annie |
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Gillian Jennifer | Report | 30 Jun 2008 20:35 |
Thank you Julie Ann, love that idea.XX.. |
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***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** | Report | 30 Jun 2008 20:04 |
theres other options gillian |
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Kay???? | Report | 30 Jun 2008 19:46 |
Hard task to do Jennifer when all agree,,but its just a time to listen to each other then go with your hearts, |
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Gillian Jennifer | Report | 30 Jun 2008 19:44 |
Thank you Sally, I hope you are right XX.. |
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Sally Moonchild | Report | 30 Jun 2008 19:42 |
Whatever decision you come to, I am sure he would be pleased with what you come up with, it will come from the heart, I know..........something will just jump out at you and say......yes, this is the one.......hope it comes along soon......x sally |
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Gillian Jennifer | Report | 30 Jun 2008 19:35 |
I have been quite happy with the cross but family think I should mark his grave properly, so I thought I would agree to this, to make them feel better, not knowing they all had different ideas. You see, I feel Stephen is young for a traditional gravestone, my own feelings, so I thought we could agree to differ. I would buy something to mark his grave for the family, but something less traditional, but as I say how can I please them all? |
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Izzy | Report | 30 Jun 2008 17:15 |
Gillian, |
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Gwyn in Kent | Report | 30 Jun 2008 17:05 |
Gillian |
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Gillian Jennifer | Report | 29 Jun 2008 21:40 |
Thank you all, and yes Teresa, that would work if we could agree and we cannot. One thinks black is best, another likes the sandstone, another says it should be my choice, but I do not want to upset anybody. I ever wanted one as he seems so young, but needs be.. |
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CMD | Report | 29 Jun 2008 21:29 |
Dear Gillian, |
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AnninGlos | Report | 29 Jun 2008 21:28 |
Are there any restrictions in the cemetery? You don't want to spend the money and then find you can't use the stone. These days there do seem to be a lot of petty restrictions. One near us you can't use black marble like stone, another you can't have ornament like angels etc. Another you can't have artificial flowers (that may be the same one as the no ornaments one). |
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₪ TeresaW elite empress of deleted threads | Report | 29 Jun 2008 21:24 |
Maybe you should all look together and decide together. You all lost him, you all want something to remember him by, permanently. |
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Gillian Jennifer | Report | 29 Jun 2008 21:20 |
Kids been pressing me to buy Stephen a headstone. And yes maybe it is time, but, he has a wooden cross, made by hubby, and a lovely little boy holding a rabbit, (family thing) about two feet high. But pressure upon me, I have been looking. Found a lovely heart with an Angel to one side, thought it apt, as he is my angel, but family, well maybe, they think not traditional, but at the end of the day, Stephen was ot tradtional, what would you do?? |
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Gillian Jennifer | Report | 29 Jun 2008 21:17 |
or get what I want. |