General Chat

im so angry at the way david was so let down by the education authority firstly by failing to reconise david had learning difficulties in his earlier years, ie; the staff member who dealt with these type of children was trained to reconise autism and aspergers.
secondly after finding a suitable school for david and after finding out that he could have spoken his answer to a independent person for his exams on leaving school but it didn't happen yet a teachers son who had dyslexia was allowed this.
thirdly when david did leave school i wasn't aware of this yet it is a legal requirement that he should have had support from school to get him into college, when daff kindly pointed this out , i asked connexions , they said sorry it seems david fell through the net, big hole in that net cause thats all ive heard through his life.
well im thinking of sueing the education authority i feel guilty because there strapped for cash, but david is my lovely son, whats your opinions please

I'm with you on this Puss. Personally I feel you have an excellent case [what do I know!!] but there must be solicitors specialising in these kind of cases. You are entitled to a free half hour with any solicitor for advice apparently and I have no doubt you could get legal aid as well

Lots of love, Ann XX

Puss please dont take this personally as it is not as I have had to make a similar decision.

I feel sueing them will accomplish nothing in the long run apart from causing alot of stress and getting extra money if you win.Write letters of complaints and ensure that your voice and opinions are heard by the powers that be yes but sueing them will not make up for the past misdeeds that has been done to David, it will put a great deal of stress on your family which you have all already been through so much and I feel your efforts would be better getting the help David needs now.

I hope that doesnt offend you it isnt my intention

(((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

thanks la and ann
jax im not offended you silly billy your my friend and i asked for opinion xxxx
i should of mentioned i have spoken witha solicitor and she is prepaired to take the case on, i have till wed to make my mind up xx

excellent point there Jax - I don't think this is about money though, more about the appalling failure of the services to do what they should have done. As Jax says Puss, it would be stressful, and it's a case of whether you think you are able to withstand that stress

Ann XXX

Glad I didnt Puss but ya know me I often say things wrong lol

your right but im not saying the money wouldnt come in handy
but s its me needing to take my anger out for my son to the right people , i dont think i could cope with any more stress but then again ive just done a 17 years of it longer if i include my childhood oooooh what a dilema

well lots of people who were connected with David failed abysmally in doing their jobs didn't they - presumably they are still in those jobs on fairly high salaries - they should be brought to book!!

Ann I know it isnt about the money thats part of the reason why I wouldnt go ahead with sueing but make sure Puss and Davids voices are heard in other ways. They will be more likely to get future help that way for David and accomplish something good as im afraid if they go down the sueing route doors may be closed to them in the future.

I think that makes sense lol

good point ann
i also here what your saying jax , thats my worry about doors being closed i know it happens xx

rather than suing then, would an approach to your local MP bring some satisfaction, or the Minister for Health, whoever that may be, Education Minister maybe?

just noticed - only the three of us on here!! and we've all met!! Daff I think would have a good solution to this lot - she'll turn up at some time I'm sure

yep ann thats an option i just dont want to get in over my head but then mayby more people will come forward and be heard im sure its not just me that feels there kids been let down, already there is jax , well thanks girls you have given me something to think about whilst i have a bath xxx

You could also start a petition Puss to bring it to the attention of the government asking for better procedures to be in place which would also help others in the same situation as David

Im sure many off us on here would sign it.

Following Anns Post

Is there a Childrens commisioner in England like there is in Wales? he would be the one to contact as he is meant to ensure the education and welfare of all children.

excellent point about the Childrens' Commissioner Jax - we ain't half clever ain't we!! But I think Daff will turn out to be the cleverest when she arrives!!

Ann XXXX

Yes I think you should just to high-light the problem. My g/son is also dyslexic and desprexic (sp? ) and thankfully his Mum spotted it about 3yrs ago and although told he didn't have it through the school sought advice privately The Dore institute which was a great help (which has unfortunately just folded) and through them he managed to get a hospital app and the NHS will now pay for him to help with the disprexic. I'm so sorry for your son's treatment money might not be the answer but it might certainly help him in later life. Good luck

Norah

Morning Puss..........not that ~i know much but dont you get fed up with people saying " Oh so and so fell through the net " !!!!!!!

You get up a petition hun and I'll sign it for sure...........so unfair on David.

Lin xxxxx

we'll all sign any petition Puss

Puss, I'm not going to make any real suggestions until I've googled it all.... I like to know what all the options and everything are, lol!

Briefly though,

On the face of things, I would say that David has a strong case, and you would also be able to claim because of the stress and trauma caused to you whilst fighting... certainly it won't have helped your COPD or your FM any, would it?

But I need also to be looking at the long term stress effects on you..... they will be huge! You would presumably be taking this action on behalf of David... so he would also need to be involved and included in the proceedings, and he might find this too difficult to deal with.

Suing shouldn't make any difference to the level of support he is getting now..... he is now IN the system, and shouldn't fall through it all again.

However, we all know that strange things happen, and if David himself decides he has had enough and refuses support because of the turmoil and stress he'll be under...... no-one can do a thing about it!

I feel that this might be a strong possibility.... David is emotionally very raw just now... it'll take a while before he begins to really make progress... at the moment he is just relaxing, really.

I think a court case etc too soon might be too much for him to deal with. I also think it might be too much for you, as well, AT THIS MOMENT. That doesn't mean it can't be looked at later on when you have all had time to catch your breath

Let me get back to you when I've had a proper think... I have only just got back from the vet and now have to go into Cardiff for an eyecheck... pm me any info you feel you'd like me to look at, and I'll research it for you later.

I understand how angry you are at the way David and your family have been treated.... but you really need to catch your breath for a little while..

Why have you got to make a decision by Wednesday? Is this to do with this particular solicitor? Or have you been told that you have to start the proceedings within a specific period of time?

Take care and *speak* to you later... and don't forget you can tell me to butt out at any time, lol!!

Love

Daff xxxx

see Puss - just knew that Daff would come up trumps for you hun!!!!

Ann XXXX