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lol Maggie, I was only little when she died but if you have seen Joan Hickson as Miss Marple on TV , that is how she looked , same hat as well lol .

I think she was quite a one for sharp one-liners from what my mum used to tell me.

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I like the sound of your nan, Rose!

Very true Lynda :) my nan apparently used to say " you can always stoop low and pick up nothing" ... not to mention " if one man's not enough, twenty's not too many " LOL

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Depends on when and how they are thwarted - and on personality!
I had a similar situation to TW's mum - OH went off with a 'friend'.
One I got over the apparent humiliation and upset - I lived in a small village - I realised the humiliation was my own conception.
We had children so I couldn't cut him out completely, but we are now best friends.
I actually enjoy living on my own - I don't need or want anyone else in my life. I have many friends - mostly male - and amazingly, those of us who live alone for various reasons realise we could no longer live with another person!

My sister's the same- she was widowed 2 years ago after 25 years of marriage. Her daughter wanted to come and live with her - sister didn't want it - she wanted to be alone for a while - and now relishes it!!

However, some people just can't stand being alone and some tend to grasp the first person that comes along - when that doesn't work out, they need someone else, and so it goes on.

I don't think one ever gets over it Uggers.......One just stops showing the other person that one cares.....It does amaze me how much they want the other person as soon as that happens though......Oh the power when one realizes the shallowness of their feelings!....But to be honest...it doesn't take long to realize that it is just a game of life.

Edit: There are of course those who have met their match and will always know their true love/match.......this is another thread methinks

slaps Susan lol, and comes back atcha with

"I cried a river washing your mem'ry away
And I finally made it least till you phoned me today
And I nearly hung up but teardrops destroyed my plan
You snap your fingers and just like that I'm back in your hands."

Ronnie Milsap

And many years down the road, just when you think you are over it all...you hear a song...not unlike the following....You listen...and shed a tear...but then move on...til you hear another a few years later....sigh!

Today I started loving you again
I'm right back where I've really always been
I got over you just long enough to let my heartache mend
And then today I started loving you again

What a fool I was to think I could get by
With only these few million tears I've cried
I guess I should have known the worst was yet to come
And the crying time for me had just begun

Repeat Chorus Twice

Today I started loving you again
Today I started loving you
Today I started loving you again



Sorry Rose......I am a wicked woman...but one day others will laugh and cry at the same time too

Rose, someone else may have said this but I think it might be wrong to assume people have gotten over it quickly and moved on. Some people will just appear to move on but doesn't mean they are less affected - some of us appear more plastic than we are lol

I have to say, that what I feel helps more than anything when one has a problem with the opposite sex....Is friends....laughing crying being and whatever.......with friends one gets through anything, and finally the day will come that one knows one can get along without thinking of the problem......In my opinion that is :-)))

You cannot have a rainbow
Without a little rain
And no one knows true happiness
Who never suffered pain
So if somebody drags you down
And makes you want to cry
Don't walk around with ugly frown
Don've heave a weary sigh
But put a rainbow in their life
Sock 'em in the eye.

Anon.



I think that I put stuff in boxes too. It hurts like mad at the time - and if I think about it too much it hurts now - but hey, it's in the past. I don't live in the past I live in the now. So, that painful bit is now just a memory - sweet and bitter.

And no remorse. And no guilt. Life's too damned short!

Jill

I think....cant be certain though....it may be easier if children aren't involved.

Yeah it's not so easy to handle when the box opens by itself Susan I do agree there xx

The trouble with some boxes Muffy Is......they open up of their own accord and the other person won't let them be closed...therefore...neither does the main person........tis just a game in the end methinks.....no winners...but a game non the less.

Edit:...one never gets over a 'true' love........just find a way of 'thinking' one does and life is great :-)))


Edit again....are you being sarky TW?....Tsk! and here wos me thinking we were having a good debate :-)))

maybeee..........

being 'almost ' over someone ( something) is when you realise you have gone a whole day without thinking about them...

and being 'really' over someone ( something) is when you no longer notice you have gone a whole day without thinking about them.........

Which comes down to acceptance really doesn't it? There's nothing you can do to change it....lol

To me getting over something is where you are at when it doesn't hurt to think about it anymore xx

*quickly comes back in to say...*

Do we ever get over things? What is 'getting over?'

Susan ! Write the book! :))

xx

Yes Susan wiv numbers
Sorry Susan wiv numbers
I'll shut up now Susan wiv number

*backs off thread slowly watching Susan wiv numbers*

Despite being very happily married now I have to say I've never got over some of things that have happened in previous relationships.

The way I deal with it is this.......... I lock it up in a box in my head...... enjoy what I have now ...every now and again I open the box....because I'm only human and it's natural to revisit....I examine it......cry a bit....learn from it.........then lock the b*gger up again ultra quick before I get too maudlin lol.