General Chat

Hi Uzzi.

I'm glad that you have some very decent family again. I hope it stays that way for you.

Are you still in the country? I can't get down there but I could ring you one of the evenings if you still have a landline at the house.

PM me if you want. You know you have my respect for how you've dealt with all this crap.

xxJ

That is so nice uzzi....It is lovely to read something so heart warming :-)

Thanks Ann I am hoping that by de-cluttering and bringing the price down yet again that we might see some movement. So the sorting the house out is 2fold really.
I do think that the Aunts and Uncles are pleased to be back in touch and to have news of their sister

Uzzi that is lovely and maybe they are as pleased to be back in touch with you as you are to be hearing and seeing them. I am fortunate in that I have always remained in touch with cousins an some second cousins, Uncles and Aunts too until they passed on. It is good to hear about you having something good to talk about with your family, you have had a lot to put up with.

I hope you can get the house all sorted and sold as soon as possible.

Thanks Liz, I know there are going to be ups and downs with the house. I really don´t have a lot of time so I am having to be brutal about things but on the other hand I do keep finding lots of money :-D

Funny how things work out Uzzi. I was never close to my Dad's side of the family as they lived too far away for us to visit often and Dad didn't have a car. Even tho one aunt was my Godmother we didn't know each other well. As I became an adult I did visit one or two of them including my Gran (who I hardly knew either) if I travelled near Buckingham for any reason but it's since my Mum died and I inherited her address book that I have become much more friendly with several cousins and an aunt by marriage, as well as two of my Dad's cousins (one sadly passed away now) I have visited several of them and talk regularly on the phone to one cousin who is ten years older than I am.

I have two younger brothers, one hasn't bothered much at all over the years (it's his wife, she is a bossy mare and tells him what to do) but the second brother actually invited me and mine to his 60th Birthday party in May and his wife was tearful when we met up saying how pleased my bro was that we had attended. We had made an effort to keep in touch with spasmodic emails and I suppose if I needed his help he would be there.

I hope your uncles and aunts will do what they said to help you and you will feel happier knowing there are some relatives who are happy to stay in touch and care about you.

Best of luck with the house etc

Lizx

Thank you Ann. I hadn´t looked at it like that but it is a change to have something nice happen and in some ways it´s a shame that it´s taken Mum´s dementia to bring it about, but the way my Uncles are rallying around (even though there isn´t much they can do) is a bonus to me for morale if nothing else. I know I will never lose touch with them again. The daftest thing is my cousin lives in .........Yep Spain ! no where near me unfortunately and I doubt the cousins and myself will ever be intouch, There are 5 of them and the eldest 2 I last saw when they were about 4 and 6 the next she was a baby and the other 2 I never even knew about.
But having my Uncles back is such a bonus to me although it´s the Aunts who stay in touch. !

well how lovely is that Uzzi - makes a nice change for you to have some good things in your life - so pleased for you

Ann XXXXX

A cheery little tale.

Mother dear has 2 brothers who I hadn´t seen since I was around 11 and 14 and lost touch with not long after. Although I contacted the younger (Uncle R) some 35yrs ago and put him in touch with Mum I have had no other contact until 4 yrs ago when I wrote to him out of the blue and then just exchanged xmas cards. The elder (Uncle P) I have had no contact with in that time. Mum also for her own reasons has had no contact for the last 30yrs.

A few months ago Mum in her dementia asked me to tell her brothers where she was, so I did. I have been in constant touch ever since with phone calls (Uncle P has even got Skype now) and e-mails. Last Sunday Uncle R and wife had traveled from Sheffield to Somerset where Uncle P lives and all 4 of them came over to the Island to see me.
It really was a fantastic day and (apart from years of catching up and I am now all growed up so can join in adult jokes) it was really as if there had been no gap, even the *in* jokes I was part of some how ..Mind I did have to *suffer* :-D huge bear hugs from the Uncles and gentle ish ones from the Aunts at crazy times...

The following day Uncle P phoned and said ...we go on holiday tomorrow but don´t panic love we will come over after you have left and clean the house, paint the kitchen, check the loft and do all that we can for you. We will also be there for you when you sell the house to help in anyway way we can. Just tell us how we can help.

And that my friends is what families are about. <3 (sadly not always)