General Chat

I think it was Allan on another thread who said his children were his legacy that he would leave. And I agreed with him.

If you want children, it is wonderful when you have children. I thought it was a miracle both times - and yes, I was there both at the start and when they were properly cooked.

But I think when you marry you also need to consider that you may not have children or perhaps you will and they will not live long. I think we would have had just as fulfilling a life without children. You can still be uncles and aunts, or even just nice old men and women who take an interest in the lives of younger people.

anyone worrying that they never told their parents that they loved them should cease worrying - in my family we weren't ones for kissing each other and saying "love you" all the time - however, we all knew without the kissing and words that we all loved each other to bits

now my daughter in law's family - love my DiL very much by the way - are big kissers and huggers yet two of her four siblings are absolute rotters who have ripped the rest of the family off to the tune of thousands - so to my mind, kissing and words of love can be quite meaningless

Shirley I wouldn´t regret that much over your children I know Dad did me but him being sort of strict didn´t really harm me and I loved him unconditionally Mind it also says a lot that I don´t list not being able to have children as a regret. 10yrs ago I would have, sort of, now it´s a minor irritation.

Geordie - I think you can wing walk if you go Ryan Air :-D :-D

No regrets from the first list.

Done from second list:
3 See the Northern Lights
4 Experience a once-in-a lifetime challenge
7 Lived abroad
Moved around enough (2) to not be interested in travelling the world.
Apart from winning the lottery (and having won a few £10's, I suppose I could say I've done that) I'm not interested in the rest :-\

Not that many regrets for me personally

Have been a miserable cow sometimes with PMT and have said things too that I shouldnt have said .

I do have one BIG regret though that I was maybe too harsh on our daughter when she was a kiddy. I was brought up in the war years and was an evacuee so had different guidelines. To me black was black and white was white and NO grey in between. My mum was a strict mum but also very loving
Our daughter loves us both to bits but has told me she was a bit frightened of my tongue and didnt want to displease me when she was a girl This I do regret .

More though is I wish I could have shielded our daughter from all the crap life threw at her . I regret I couldnt have shielded her from some of that . We have supported her all the way going through what she has done but its left her very vulnerable and unsure of herself. I wish I could take that from her

10/10 Rose ;-). But still things I would still like to do in my remaining 40 years or so. One is to see the stately home a mile from where I live. I bet everyone fails to visit their nearest beauty spot or stately home :-D

And I would like to climb the biggest mountains in Anglesey and Cambridgeshire without any oxygen :-D

Out of the regret list

13. Not telling a relative who’s now dead that I loved them
17. Falling out with a friend and not patching things up
18. Choosing the wrong subjects at school or university
19. Not standing up to a bully
20. Not taking a gap year

Do NOT come into it, some of the others are only marginal and I would not lose sleep over it
7 is a dodgy one because I loved what I did but I would have liked to have trained as an architect

I often think I wasted years on the wrong partner but they made me what I am today plus OH was still a baby when I 1st got married so I had to wait around a bit (don´t fret h was 6 lol )

My wish list is definite
1. Win the Lottery YES
2. Travel the world YES
5 I would like to see the Pyramids but that comes in travelling the world
Been there and done that with the dolphins and not tame ones but I would love to do it again ..Sharks NO WAY
7 well I live abroad and have worked abroad but I wish I had done it earlier a regret maybe
8 I have renovated houses but yes with my lottery win I would love to build my own (well design)

Safari´s do not interest me and I have run my own business twice one of those I set up from scratch when I was 17 (shame there was no money in it ).

So my real wish list is Win the lottery, design and have built my own house (already down on paper). Travel and see more of the world (whilst the house is being built) and set up a trust for a world wide dogs home

Not a lot to ask really I just need to win the lottery.

Goodnight all :-) yawning and coughing alternately so going to get off to bed, that's one thing I can change lol start to go to bed earlier! :-D

Have done the African Safari - definitely should be on anyones list. Would love to see the Northern lights, on a trip to the Arctic Circle.

Don't know if this would be on anyone elses list, but I would LOVE the chance to go wingwalking!

Hello Mr Daff, I remember Mireille Mathieu well, have just gone to listen to her singing on youtube, I hadn't realised how much my former manager ( also French) resembled her!

What a nice thought, MrDaff. I like those sort of lovely thoughts. :-D :-D

40% for the first list, but only one matches on the second! I'd add to the first, 'not meeting/seeing Mireille Mathieu', the wonderful singer of a version of the thread 'title'.

2 from the top and 1 from bottom lists.

I'm more of a count my blessing person like Mersey but a major regret for me is not sorting out a misunderstanding with my sister before she died, I will now never know why she stopped contacting me.

The 1 from the bottom list is more of a dream than a 'to do' to win the lottery and help my children and grandchildren out.

Like you No 10 is one I wish I had done. :-)

Some of the things on the 'regret' list are a bit tame imho. Unless you're at death's door, you could actually do something about some of them!! I have a couple of regrets, one of which caused me a lot of grief over a number of years, but has now been consigned to the recycling bin :-D.

I can partially tick 5 and 7 on the 'to do' list. Not all it's cracked up to be. Not interested in 6, 8, 9 or 10, but 1 would be nice :-D

I never told my dad I loved him till about 2 hours before he died. Men don't tend tio do that sort of thing - and we often love our dads unreservedly. As I did. :-)

If I had not seen him that day, would he have ever known :-S

roll on the day Rose!!!! at least you have a chance for revenge - my in-laws are long gone and if there is an afterlife, they'd better never get in my face!!!!

Ann I think it is more the things you haven't done that you regret, mine would be that I was too shocked to react the way I wish I had to someone who let me down badly, there's still a halfpint of lager with her name on...for me to throw over her lol.

Not going to art college in Newcastle when I was 18, because my parents insisted I live with my Grandmother instead of sharing a flat with my mate. Should have b****y well stood up to them !

Became a librarian instead.

Thanks Mersey, it's ok, irritating cough and a thick head lol, but mustn't grumble, could be worse! :-)