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May I view your tree? NO.
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jax | Report | 12 Jan 2013 23:49 |
This automated message has only been there 3 months when the search trees function is used |
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LadyScozz | Report | 12 Jan 2013 23:33 |
IGP - the thread you mention on Suggestions is mine. I gave the information I received from Estelle on this thread on 11th (see above your posting). |
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jax | Report | 12 Jan 2013 17:31 |
I think out of the 100+ people who have asked to view my tree, only one has been somewhere related because she gave my aunts name as who she was interested in...but not that close, if at all. I asked her what her relationship was and she never replied.....name and photo collector springs to mind. I only have 60 people in my tree on here so not much use to anyone anyway. |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 12 Jan 2013 16:24 |
Piglets I can understand that nightmare, and I have before nearly shared my tree only to find the person requesting only had 1 name in theirs, for awhile I only sent relevant information. |
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DazedConfused | Report | 12 Jan 2013 16:15 |
I stopped sharing my tree when I allowed someone to view it and they added the whole tree to theirs. |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 12 Jan 2013 16:02 |
I have just had one of these requests and politely wrote back |
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Carol 430181 | Report | 12 Jan 2013 15:52 |
I used to open my tree and had no problem till an individual who was related to my OH very distantly put all of it on various web sites, at the time my children were on my tree and consequently they are now on the web. I did politely ask him to remove but he just ignored me. |
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InspectorGreenPen | Report | 12 Jan 2013 14:22 |
Whilst I don't necessarily agree with these pre-formatted messages I don't see it as a huge issue. All you have to do is to ask for more information - there is actually a PF message for this very purpose...! although I prefer to use my own wording. |
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JustJohn | Report | 12 Jan 2013 14:01 |
I used to reply to everybody who wrote. Even the hot matches of mutual John Smiths born in 1797. If they didn't put any detail or did not open tree (rare) I would write and ask them if they would mind telling me why they wanted me to open tree. |
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Sue | Report | 12 Jan 2013 13:52 |
I feel there should not be an automated request box at all. A personal message, giving details of poss. connections, hello and thank you would be preferable. |
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DazedConfused | Report | 12 Jan 2013 13:17 |
Maybe it is time for Genes to change this request to: |
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Kay???? | Report | 12 Jan 2013 13:12 |
Seasoned users of GR will expand why the contact..........but anyone new may belive that message is how its done on GR......so they arent at fault for the box standard cold call GR put there....... |
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Bobtanian | Report | 12 Jan 2013 12:45 |
when I have asked for info, its usually on the lines of...........Please.. |
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LadyScozz | Report | 11 Jan 2013 23:07 |
I've been in touch with Estelle about this "Request". This is her response: |
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Elizabeth2469049 | Report | 11 Jan 2013 21:05 |
I don't think you should ask for access to a tree without giving a reason - not go into all your family history but to say something like " my 2xgreat aunt of the same name and date of birth is the daughter of X and Y, lived in - say - Dorchester. If you think she could be identical with the one in your tree I should like to know more". |
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Kay???? | Report | 11 Jan 2013 20:24 |
Hi Budgie ,,,,,,So they have and its not as blunt as OP put,,,, |
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Budgie Rustler | Report | 11 Jan 2013 19:15 |
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Kay???? | Report | 11 Jan 2013 18:51 |
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Patricia | Report | 11 Jan 2013 18:51 |
Sorry if I sound crabby. I love genealogy and have many friends and distant relations who I am in touch with on a regular basis - people I met through genealogy. Ironically my family tree of 30,000 individuals is on another site, open and free for anyone to view. But that site does not charge a subscription fee. Why would I pay GR the few dollars per year, just to have people say "May I see your tree?" I have often responded & find these same people do not seem interested in an exchange of information or family discussion. Ancestry provides me with great access to records. LDS family search, can be forgiven anything, because all their wonderful transcriptions were the initial source of much of my tree - all free I might add. But Genes Reunited was a site I subscribed to for the interaction. And it is no longer serving that purpose. |
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RolloTheRed | Report | 11 Jan 2013 18:49 |
I rather prefer the Ay approach to this problem. You may have your tree as any of public, private, very private (not in search index). Public automatically excludes living records. Now when somebody wishes to share Ay suggests that "they ask nicely" without offering any pro forma. When and if you do share you can choose whether or not to include living relatives on a case by case basis. |
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