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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 31 Jan 2013 06:48

but just want to mark my late daughter's birthday today, she would have been 39 years old had she lived. Sadly I only had her for 3 days as she was very tiny, having been born ten weeks prematurely. My son and I will go to the cemetery later today to put some flowers on her grave altho she isn't really there - she is in my heart forever.

Some people say don't think about the past but her loss had such an impact on me that I will never forget her.

See you one of these days, Zoe

much love


UzziWithTears Report 31 Jan 2013 07:19

sending (((((hugs)))))) to you


PricklyHolly Report 31 Jan 2013 07:24

I can't even begin to imagine.

))))Hugs(((( x

*** Mummo ***

*** Mummo *** Report 31 Jan 2013 08:22

Thinking of you today, x

Linda G

Linda G Report 31 Jan 2013 09:04

That's so touching. I am sure Zoe knows you have never forgotton her.



Nyx Report 31 Jan 2013 10:27

sending ((((((hugs))))) to you Liz, xx


BrendafromWales Report 31 Jan 2013 10:37

Oh Liz,didn't know about your sad loss so long ago.You never forget.
We had a cot death 24 years ago.My daughters youngest son was an identical twin and we lost Thomas at 4 months on an older brothers 7th birthday.
The family never forget his birthday and do look after the grave.
The other twin now has a son of his own who will be 1 next week and they have called him Thomas.
(((((( hugs))))) for you Liz x x


DIZZI Report 31 Jan 2013 11:05



SpanishEyes Report 31 Jan 2013 12:16

My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a child. My older brother Greame died at 4 hours and because he had not been baptised he could not be placed into sacred land. However the priest gave permission to be buried beside a wall of the church. My mother was sedated as the doctor felt she would not cope!

When I learnt about this I vowed to visit every year and did so until we left England but the vicar and some friends always rember him on the day he died. I imagine him every day.

Liz, you will always be with your daughter and the memory is yours to cherish, I will say a prayer for you both.

Bridget <3


Island Report 31 Jan 2013 12:26

Liz, I don't know who would say 'don't think about the past'.
It doesn't matter how long a loved one is in our lives for, they are still very much part of our families and in our hearts forever. <3

Gwyn in Kent

Gwyn in Kent Report 31 Jan 2013 12:34

Thinking of you and your son as you visit Zoe's grave today.




AnninGlos Report 31 Jan 2013 12:36

Of course you should think about her, and take her flowers. Bless her, it is so hard to lose a little one so sending you a ((((((hug)))))).

Kathy near the

Kathy near the Report 31 Jan 2013 12:44


Thinking about you on this sad day

Kathy xxxxx


Susan10146857 Report 31 Jan 2013 12:54

.. <3


JoyBoroAngel Report 31 Jan 2013 13:04

:-( :-(

i dont think a mum ever forgets the loss of her child
sending a (((((((((hug))))))))))

~~ Jules in Wiltshire~~

~~ Jules in Wiltshire~~ Report 31 Jan 2013 13:13

Thinking of you today Liz...Sending lots of love..

Jules x <3 <3


Lesley Report 31 Jan 2013 13:31

Although the death of a child will be with you forever so will the love you had for Zoe, and that is obviously so beautiful. Whilst remembering her give thanks for that beautiful piece of your heart you gave her ? I know how it feels.


ChrisofWessex Report 31 Jan 2013 15:20

How could you expected to confine to Zoe to the past? No way, you carried her with love and she was snatched away too early. You keep her with you and with love and that is only right. Take care <3


Sylvia Report 31 Jan 2013 15:47

Thinking of you and anyone who has lost a child.
A parents worst nightmare. <3


Mersey Report 31 Jan 2013 15:58

Liz <3