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LadyScozz

LadyScozz Report 26 Apr 2013 11:02

These "men" don't have the right to call themselves fathers.

They are users and losers.

:-P

♥†۩ Carol   Paine ۩†♥

♥†۩ Carol Paine ۩†♥ Report 26 Apr 2013 10:27

The CSA get a lot of bad publicity, but this does show they do try to help.

Pleased to hear of the good outcome :-D

AnnCardiff

AnnCardiff Report 26 Apr 2013 09:39

brilliant Sandra - back of the net as they say :-D :-D :-D

Sandra

Sandra Report 26 Apr 2013 09:07

Hi My daughter has been told by CSA that her money for the boys will go up my 50% and she will recive some off his bonus for the boys. We have also been told we can take them on hoilday and we are not taking the boys to him he has to came for the boys . Thank for all the information that you all send usThanks Sandy

PS THE MONEY IS GOING TO HER BY THE CSA

Sandra

Sandra Report 26 Apr 2013 09:07

Hi My daughter has been told by CSA that her money for the boys will go up my 50% and she will recive some off his bonus for the boys. We have also been told we can take them on hoilday and we are not taking the boys to him he has to came for the boys . Thank for all the information that you all send usThanks Sandy

PS THE MONEY IS GOING TO HER BY THE CSA

Sandra

Sandra Report 26 Apr 2013 09:07

Hi My daughter has been told by CSA that her money for the boys will go up my 50% and she will recive some off his bonus for the boys. We have also been told we can take them on hoilday and we are not taking the boys to him he has to came for the boys . Thank for all the information that you all send usThanks Sandy

PS THE MONEY IS GOING TO HER BY THE CSA

Sandra

Sandra Report 5 Feb 2013 21:21

The children do not wont to see him they get upset about it,They have been told that they have to see him.

TaniaNZ

TaniaNZ Report 5 Feb 2013 20:32

Good old CSA slow and ineffective world wide.
The reality is Sandra that your daughters ex is using all this nonsense to provoke a reaction from her and I would just become really matter of fact with him and not engage in any way to his satisfaction.
He will take the money away if he wants to regardless of what she says or does its a little power trip and a sure sign of his own personal flaws. It's not right of course and I would certainly go throught the proper channels to sort it out but I wouldn't engage with him at all.
Sounds like bloody good riddance to bad rubbish
As for the children as the others have said I would simply fulfill my legal obligation to have them ready at a certain time no more and no less and again I wouldn't engage In any discussion with him about it.
Don't give him the power to turn her in circles any lOnger
This is always tough on children but as long as there mum and grandparents are loving and consistent and dont engage in crap about their father they will grow up and they will see him for exactly what he is

ChAoTicintheNewYear

ChAoTicintheNewYear Report 5 Feb 2013 18:12

Children are not pay per view which is why maintenance and access are dealt with separately.

Sandra, you, or rather your daughter, has to facilitate access between the children and their father. In practice this means making them available at the arranged times. It does not mean you running around all over the place, it's his responsibility to pick them up, unless stated otherwise in a contact agreement.

Sandra

Sandra Report 5 Feb 2013 16:53

It is through CSA but a year to sort it a bit long i was thinking . As for him having them he may not turn up on friday because he has change his mind but he thinks that ok. We have tryed in the past to make sure that he see his children but we can only do so much

ann

ann Report 5 Feb 2013 16:53

My daughter was taken to court by her ex to have the child. He has limited access and he has to pick up and drop off. The hand over is just them two so he cant get someone else to pick child up or dropped off. CSA are useless unless you keep ringing them. My daughter has had one payment since last August and nothing since. Last week she phoned and asked to speak to a manager. At long last he has 7 days to answer questions or now be arrested for default. Court still granted him to see the child without payment.

♥†۩ Carol   Paine ۩†♥

♥†۩ Carol Paine ۩†♥ Report 5 Feb 2013 16:51

He has the right to see them, but it is up to him to transport them not you. Just tell him that the children will be ready for collection at * and should be brought home by *

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 5 Feb 2013 16:46

He may have the right to see them but not just on his terms. I know though from family experience when you get an A hole they want things all their own way and will bleat when they dont and rush off to the solicitor putting the OH in the wrong somehow. .

maybe you can get back to him and say you can see the children but you have to make the effort to get them .If you aint paying maintenance then where s the money coming from for travel etc so he can sit on his bum .

Sorry I get so mad as our daughter has ongoing battles with her stepsons mum . has had it for 8 years now and its non stop even the Social services are fed up .

Porkie_Pie

Porkie_Pie Report 5 Feb 2013 16:42

He does have a right to see them but thats not to say you have to go out of your way to take them unless it's through a contact centre, He also has a responsibility to be their for them,

This sounds more like the "I want it my way or not at all" situation aka point scoring with a tad of selfishness

As for the maintenance if it's through the CSA then he would not have a choice they would debit his account regardless and if he refuses then they can get the moneys deducted directly from his wages by his employer

Roy

Sandra

Sandra Report 5 Feb 2013 16:26

My daughter ex has rung her today to say that he is not paying her the child support for next 3-4 months because his wont to move house. He also told her he is gettting £1500.00 bonus from work and that is for him and just him to go away with. We rung CSA and have been told that he can do this and they will look into it but it may take a year to sort. He has also rung me to say he wont his children on friday after school and will my OH or myselfe take them to him as he is not getting on the bus or getting a taxi.CSA have told her he has a right to see them but i do not see why we have to take them to him He never puts his hand in his pocket and buys them children any thing. I think he gone to far this time.