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As if, Bob. :-P

May be McMillan should have thought it through, but on the other hand they probably consulted a number of survivors or relatives. Local papers often run articles where one sibling has had their hair cut off to express empathy with another.

The main thing is to raise as much money as possible for the charity. TBH I'm more willing to sponsor someone doing that than people jumping out of aeroplanes. There's always that niggling feeling that the more adventurous activities are being underwritten by the charity or sponsors. Could be totally wrong, but there you go.

Sharron, people who have sponsored you won't mind where the deed is performed. The coffee morning will still go ahead. You could wrap your hairless head in a scarf then unveil it for all to see.

Gwynne...........Phew!


thought you had elevated me formally.............

Bob

Not at all. My post is still there and all can see what you said.

You then asked a personal question which I answered honestly and instead of responding you just deleted your posts.

The inference was that I didn't know what I was talking about!!

Then why delete?

Guinevere, I merely expressed my opinion from my personal experiences.

I make no apology for what I said.

Bob, I wasn't "talking" to you, I have no problem with what you posted.

I was addressing a poster named Robert who seems to have deleted both of his posts without explanation. One of his posts is quoted in an earlier post of mine.

Sharron, my friend lost every bit of her hair whilst undergoing treatment. Hers has grown back curly instead of straight and she jokes it saves a fortune on perms. Another friend's grew back a strange streaky colour so she solves it by changing it's colour frequently.( She is a hairdresser) her motto is my hair may look odd but so what I am alive. They both wish you well as do . <3 <3 <3

Gwynne,
I didn't intend to say that sufferers should do that...

what I was implying is what can a sympathising fundraiser do?

extreme activity challenges are not for everyone...

a few years ago, I pledged a penny a point in a competition............out of a maximum of 3000 points, I managed 2,600 odd pence,

every little helps, as they say......

Bob

leave it up

http://www.about-face.info/#!my-story/c1ev9

Evidently the coffee morning was going to be to support me but not if I insisted on doing bacon sandwiches.

I was invited to the first committee meeting where I was all but ignored.Out of deference I didn't push the fact that I was representing a completely different campaign which they had not even found on-line after I had explained the name to them several times. Made allowances for them being even less capable on these new fangled contraptions than am I.
Two of the committee have never had a bacon sandwich and when I explained that I had people coming who might not be happy with coffee morning fare, I have left a message at the scrapyard among other places, by asking them if they had been to a darts match as some of those people would feel the same as a coffee morning as would they at a darts match, they decided I had a darts team coming.

i mentioned that I would be touting for sponsors in the social club we use in the next village so they suggested I have a barbeque with the bacon AT A LATER DATE in that village with the bacon because that was where all my sponsors were. I can't shave my head on more than one occasion and that was what the bloody bacon was donated for!

My prime concern is to raise as much as I can from my one-off shearing, not to pander to batty old biddies who make it up as they go along!

If they do the Macmillan coffee morning every year they have probably got quite protective of their routine, Sharon. Don't let it get to you.

No, I know she didn't say 'mock', it was my addition to make a point that she was thinking the shave might be misconstrued. I am sorry I misquoted her but I was including the concept of mocking in what I was saying. Sorry Rose.

I did carefully consider whether I would mind explaining to people before I embarked on this project, a luxury which cancer sufferers don't have.

What I didn't take into account was that a committee would be formed by a dear old lady who has grabbed the wrong end of several sticks and caused a lot of confusion. It has been very hard to protect her feelings and try to exploit my little sacrifice to make as much money as I possibly can.

I've been asked to post this by Rose - who wants to emphasise she didn't say "mock". These were her words.

"Very personal choice. I would never say you should or shouldn't. I personally feel there are better ways maybe? Like the coffee morning or similar?

Inevitably people will 'look' and then inevitably they will comment and ask if YOU have cancer, then you're explaining the 'why' to strangers. That might not be what you want or feel comfortable with? "

I think I might pull this thread.

Sharon, no criticism of you at all. I admire you for what you are doing.

Macmillan should know better.

Robert deleted his post which has made nonsense of my reply.

An apology or acknowledgement of his lack of tact might have been more appropriate than just deleting what he posted.

Hence I have deleted my original post as well.

Edit - I see he's deleted both of his posts. I quoted one of them in a previous reply.

It probably is a bad choice, I don't know, but there was little else to choose.

We who want to help need something we can all do and which is easily identified. As I explained before, there isn't much else we can do that is relevant.

"With respect, I think the lady was over reacting and should be pleased that 1) she is still with us 2) that she could help Cancer Charities by wearing her badge (her lack of hair)"

Sorry, Robert, but I think that's very insensitive. A cancer sufferer should go round advertising her illness by baring her head when she's devastated by the loss of her hair? And be grateful she's still with us? Tactless and probably very hurtful if she's reading this thread.

As it happens I agree with her. I think that Macmillan should know better.

I absolutely admire Sharon for what she's doing but I hate the whole "Brave the Shave" concept.

To choose to lose your hair is one thing, quite another when it's the side effect of very unpleasant treatment and you have no choice other than possible death.