General Chat

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Your views....

The legal end of the sex industry???

Do you think they are acceptable or do you think they objectify and degrade women???

Would you like your daughter/sister dancing in one?

Would you go one?

How would you feel if your OH went to one?

Just a few points to think about.

going to or performing in?

not interested in the first and too old for the second lol

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The dishonesty of promising all and delivering nothing? BC XX

BC, a bit like some marriages.

There was one featured on a programme on Channel 4 last night, but it was a studio. It was about the woman entreprenuer, who goes around sorting peoples businesses out. In the end, the lap dance studio owner was told that she would do better to make it more of an excercise studio, with less emphasis on the Pole. The owner took some convincing, saying it was an interest for woman of all ages.
Julia in Derbyshire

lol Rose

~~~~~~~~~~to BC

Hang on got kicked off trying to expand my post, will try again.

Lol Foggy and ~~~~~~ to Cat:))

degrading to females, the cause of rape, forced sex etc.
or a way to make money rather than prostitution, a way for some to relieve themselves rather than rape.

What a good question Cat

Thank you Uzzi.

Personally, I'm against them. I think they objectify and degrade women. The thought of my daughter dancing in one horrifies me.

This came up on another website I go on and one of the views seemed to be that those who objected to them/to their partners going to one were insecure in their relationships and had trust issues. As a general view I disagree with this, many of the women who objected to these clubs (on the other site) were doing so because of the reasons I've put in my first couple of sentences.

Yes, I know there are rules about no touching and this may be enforced in the more ahem...'reputable' clubs but who's to say this rule isn't ignored in some less salubrious places.

Firstly I would NOT turn a female away from being a friend because she was a lap dancer. Each to their own.

Yes I do agree with them if they help keep the streets clean and they are run correctly.

How would I feel if my OH went to one ..lol If it was a boys night out why not I do Ann Summers partys .. if it was behind my back then I would have to re-think my relationship and ask what is wrong. Just because they look it doesn't mean they will touch or pay.

Would I go to one ...well not unless there was some hunky males up there dancing ....I certainly wouldn't go for what was in the audience as I have an OH

Do I think they degrade women ... hell have you seen how fit they have to be to dance? so no they are just another means of earning a wage.

My views are totally nonsensical on this one.

I personally have no problem with lapdancers....each to their own.

I would absolutely HATE for one of my daughters to do it though..

And I wouldn't have a problem with my OH going to one either as long as it was on a boys night out ..was on a look don't touch basis...and he was honest with me about it...

**have to add...as far as I'm aware he hasn't ever been to one..

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They make my feminist hackles rise, Cat.

I hope no young woman I care about would ever feel desperate enough to work in one. There's a word for women who sell sex and it isn't a nice one.

I doubt my oh would ever be sad enough to go to one. I just asked him and he said he may be newly retired but he's not a dirty old man yet.

Many women who work in the sex industry say they do it because the money is easy but as they get older and have children they often feel ashamed of their past. It can also make them lose all respect for men.

I can't say I have much respect for the sort of men who go to such places.


Gwynne

I see no difference between a lap dancing show to a hen night where there are male strippers.

I could probably argue both ways on this... lol I always can.

But from a 'you can look but you can't touch' perspective, I imagine they are less of a danger to relationships than 'sex texts' and 'cyber relationships' where the danger of it becoming 'real' is much more likely.

I don't think it particularly degrades women, perhaps even less so than some other 'accepted' medium...pornographic mags/ internet sites / tv

women will always be 'objectified' by some men... irrespective of whether those women are lap dancers or the wife....

I think lap dancing clubs and the like are less likely to be what an 'aggressive' man is into anyway... rape is more about power than it is sex, and they certainly have no power in that situation so long as security is tight and the girls know what they are doing from a personal safety perspective.

Its only the none goers that see it as degrading to women,and only such as mens sexual desires that there are these clubs in the first place.

They the gilrs are like some legal **parlours ** in a safe enviroment.so little difference.

There was a big cry a few years ago when thise poor girls from Suffolk were killed to make prostituion legal ,as if they had been working in a safe place instead of street walking they wouldnt have been killed....same difference...

To the girls its *just a job*

I have been to girls mens strips nights,,,,,is that women exploiting men>??.

My OH wouldnt go as it wouldnt appeal,but wouldnt have a problem if he did.

I would hate it if any of my family or friends were lapdancers. Having dirty old frustrated men ogleing them.

It makes me squirm to see men drooling over something they cant get.

As for the males at hen partys that is just a laugh to most woman...well the ones I know anyway. lol

Lots of men go to LTClubs for a laugh though.lots of male strippers who do girls nights are often married....should their families feel disgust that women are prepared to pay to oggle family members?

Look how women went bonkers over the Chippendales and groups like them......aint that a bit off why women would want to go see a man strip and wiggle his all about??

I think men get more of a 'kick' out of it though....for lack of a better word lol

It's just the repressed society that we live in, a throwback to the Victorian era. The more frowned upon something is, the more people will want to do it and in turn the more people will act in disgust. I can't see anything wrong in a woman working in a lapdance club. If men want to part with their dosh, so be it.

Bring back the Romans! They knew how to party!