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we have a 16yr old that lives with us started to give him independance when he went to senior school bought him mobile for emergencies laid down the rules of life and hoped for the best .Luckily he and us have done ok at moment he's practicing for music exam heplays the organ and is on grade 7.Must admit he's turning out ok.

Bertett

I must be really hard on my kids i think :-)
My eldest is almost 13, She is allowed to walk home from school (about 20 mins walk), But only if she has friends to walk with - If not she is collected by me or her dad.
She is not allowed to go out and about on her own at all. If she wants to go shopping with friends, She is dropped at shopping centre and then picked up after. I wouldn't let her get on the bus alone - My husbands a bus driver and sees too much!

Pat

Thing is Gypsy you have to put your trust in them. I should know I had 5 kids myself and as I said we are rearing our grandson and believe me that's not easy, but if you explain why you have made your decision I am sure she will be fine

Bertett,
She doesn't have a problem with it - She knows my reasons. It's not her I don't trust thats the thing - It's other people :-)
I know she isn't allowed to do as much as some of her friends but I try to encourage friendships with those children who know have parents with the same kind of views as us.

Pat

One of the big things a girl becoming a woman needs to learn and never forget is: trust your instincts.

If you are in a situation you don't like, leave. If someone suggests something you don't want to do, say no and don't do it. In either case, ask for help if you need it.

Don't worry about hurting someone's feelings, or about looking foolish.

Protecting yourself is the most important thing. Hurting someone's feelings, even if that does happen, is better than ending up hurt or worse. Looking foolish is temporary, even if that does happen, and it's better than finding yourself in a situation you can't get out of or doing something that is going to cause you real harm.

If you're uncomfortable, there is probably good reason. Something is happening, or someone is asking you to do something, that may not end well. Don't go along and wait to find out. Look out for yourself!

WELL SAID JANEY.ITS LIKE AN EXTRA SENSE.XX

Ahhhhh,
at 10 its little steps till parents is comfortable with letting them have a little freedom,,,,just trust they tell you truth of where they are,know their limits of what is allowed.

Shes only ten yet, time will come when he'll fel he can stretch the elastic a bit,as long as he dont overbear and make her less confident that she cant function without him by her side,,,,,,

mine were on short laggy bands,,,,:}}}}}}}}}

i dread him seeing the news kay.incase he sees bad stuff.then he says i.ll just ring and check shes ok ......

I know Joyous,,hell get there though .theres plenty of talk about parents never knowing hwere or what their kids are up to and they should act more responsible,well he is,,,,shes only 10 ,,,,,couple more years and she'll be going places like clothes shops with mates or cinema.

this is a cruel world we live in .. when i was a kid about 8 i think .. i would go out in the morning and not come home till hungry .. i had loads of friends and fun , kids of today use internet and computer games and dont really want to go out , so when the time comes for them to face the real world , us as parents are scared for them , its our own fault ,, pedos child snatchers rapists have always been here , we as parents have just never had to worry about them till now . xx