General Chat

Ok i thought i would start this to see what sort of things bug you about this interest we all share...

As the heading says ' What Annoys You About Family History..

Is it ..

The cost of Certificates
People Who do not open a e-mail request
Lack of Information our ancestors left
Un-asked questions of family whilst still alive

No.2 and no way of finding out if they are no longer members. It is so frustrating.

No.4 to a lesser extent.

People that get the children with wrong parents and when you say I have the cert to prove whom their parents were..they tell you it's you that have it wrong even though you have got all the certs and they haven't. even bought any certs for the same family.

1.... is a problem.....if you dont happen to live in the area if it wasnt for the internet i wouldnt have got as far as i have looking for family

Martyn - could that not be the enumerators fault - also many people did not have the ability to spell like we do today..

Nothing really annoys me about family history as such.
I know it can be frustrating sometimes but that is to be expected., especialy when searching records that sometimes have been mistranscribed.

I do find it a little bit off putting when those who are just starting out, ask questions on here, and are not treated well by some, we all had to start somewhere.

The Family Records Centre in London having been closed :-(

My main grouse is with GR Members who think they know better than anyone else. For example:-

1) Insist that their way of researching is the only way to do things and every other way is rubbish.

2) Dismiss anyone who has more than a handful of names in their tree and does not have certs to prove each and every birth marriage or death as a 'Name Collector'

3) The handful of real Name Collectors who haven't got a clue who they have in their tree when challenged

4) Members who insist on telling other people how they should use the boards, worse still, send them pm's to tell them how they are going wrong (in their opinion, that is)

5) Those who refuse point blank to accept they might have got it wrong, or that there might be an alternative way of looking at things.

Everything the Inspector said.

My gripe is finding someone you are looking for (when just starting out on GR) in a post from way back! How do you get in contact? I have tried sending messages BUT if the post is really quite old and the trail is dead it is VERY frustrating.

But what if 'they' DO know better than anyone else? ! lol

It's a foolish person who refuses good advice from someone who knows more about a specific area of research surely ? none of us can know everything ( not even me ;) ..

I find persistent requests to see my tree with no reference to where there might be a link, aggravating ( well I did, i removed my tree here entirely because of one such person who got very abusive).

A very few people who, having found what they think is correct, won't acknowledge that they might have got the wrong person ( this is usually down to them not knowing enough about locations outside their own area ).

Ancestry trees where the same incorrect info has been copied a dozen times.

BUT the great people and amazing amount of information out there outweighs all minor irritations for me.

I was brought up to be truthful. I absolutely hate lies and deception and prejudice. I even found out that my own parents were liars. Their lives were ones of lies and deception and prejudice and abuse to me and my sister. And the maternal side of my maternal line probably wouldn't know a truth if it jumped up and smacked them in the mouth. And my paternal, maternal line with too many secrets and prejudices.

Truth is I'm ashamed to be related to them.

Jill

I do not know what the row was between my materal g.aunt and my paternal g.mother which prevented my gmother attending the marriage of my parents and my aunt of wearing her yellow dress as a bridesmaid. Instead they peeked out of the lace curtains to watch! The two families lived opposite and my mother lived with her aunt.

Only found this out from my aunt by marriage when other aunt was dead and mother told me it was none of my business when I asked! This was 1931 and the two never spoke for the rest of their lifetime!

Martyn the victorian era was so hypocritical it beggars belief.

What annoys me is the way some on Ancestry just take hints and block info and add it to theirs, and wont acknowledge that they have a complete wrong family with theirs.

I have since found out (I hope) how to keep my tree private although the info is now out there for others who don't check facts to copy.

Have had loads of help over the years which I'm
grateful for. I never take the info for gospel so always
check it out cause like to get certs. The one thing that
has me pulling my hair out is when I hit a brick wall,
needless to say I'm going to be bald soon.

Emmax

My Mum gave me a very mixed bag of information when she was alive,
I think the poor Woman was ashamed of her childhood and where she was bought up.


The cost of the certs to unravel the economical truths she told has been very pricey but worth it in the end and I can undestand why she acted in the way she did. I just wished she had been truthful when she was alive, it may have helped her have some peace in her life.

Teresa

Family history doesn't annoy me in the least.

Some family historians do.....;-))

Next question:-

So, you have worked hard & long hours to record your family history on here & you are rightly proud of it.

How easy would it be for your children or grand-children to log into this system? In other words, have you made any 'paper' records for those who come after you & where their 'technical ability' is a little bit suspect?

I started my tree on paper only many years ago but, I must admit, much of what I have now placed on here is not written down. Ideas welcome.

Dermot ,,,

How about getting some memory sticks and download your family tree on to them..then leave them with your childrens/grandchildrens names on them.

Our Descendants will be more computer litterate than we are..

I think what annoys me the most is writing to people on here who open your message but have no intention of contacting you - which has happened several times recently.