General Chat

She did like them especially at such a sad time.Its amazing how a few flowers can make people feel better for whatever reason.**M**.

Thats really thoughtful Merlin.

My Mum and Dad had family flowers only and donations to the local special care baby Unit and Poppy appeal (their wishes)

My Aunt sent some money for Flowers at Christmas so we decided that as Mum and Dad enjoyed the their garden we would plant lots of bulbs on their plot which would flower every spring and summer.
It looks really pretty at this time of year.

I would want a mixture, some flowers and the donations going to the NSPCC.


Teresa

Merlin I bet she found that very moving.

Must say I'm all for donations too but I do think society has got very po-faced about things these days and who cares what anyone has for themselves or their loved ones - each to their own

We too have sent flowers to the widow of a good friend after the funeral.

I would like family flowers but being a trustee of a charity and knowing how they are struggling just now to survive I would prefer donations from friends if they wish. If people prefer to give nothing I don't mind that either as long as they are at the funeral to support the family.

Family tributes and/or donations. or what ever anyone wants to do.

Ive sent flowers when its been family flowers only and its been taken well,each to thier own I supose.

Nerlin that was very thoughtful...When my nanna was cremated, the funeral director gave all the flowers to my mum to bring home after the service, they were not destroyed after the ceremony had finished, so there is always that option

At our local crematorium the flowers are left out for several days and then removed. My Mum and I went back to look at my Dad's flowers the day after the service and brought hers and a few others ( sprays) back for her to enjoy at home as the weather was dire, it was late January. We took my flowers for him to my daughter's grave which is in the same cemetery as the crematorium. They lasted longer on there than where they were, which would have been cleared some days later.
My Dad hated wreaths and only liked sprays.

Lizx

Flowers, sombre dress and mourning. I'm noit into all this celebration of life and bright colours. I think people should be encouraged to express their sorrow first.

Regards Vera

Just to raise another option - I don't intend to have a funeral. My father in law went went for this option.

The undertaker delivered his ashes and we took them to a local bluebell wood he loved in the spring and scattered them. I thought was rather beautiful and very moving.