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just wanna send you some ((((hugs))))
Rosex

Tina

I know exavtly how you feel. My ex left me quite a few times to live with a so called woman round the corner. I say a few times cos like fool I kept taking him back thinking i couldn't throw away our family. But it wasn't me that threw it all away it was him.

He told me one time he was leaving me that he was going at the end of the week. That week was torture for me. I don't know if I could have let him stay a month.

The next time he left he said the same thing & I realised he had no respect for me at all. I packed his bags & put them in the street!

I don'y know you so it's not my place to tell you what to do but I really don't think it's good for you for him to stay in your home until he decides it's convenient for him to go. You should be the one who decides when he goes. He's taken away all your other choices by doing what he's done. He shouldnt be allowed to make you suffer any longer.

One day you will feel stronger but not while he's still there.

The work on the house can still be done, he doesn't have to live there hurting you any more than he already has. You can learn to do it & you may enjoy doing it like I do.

Please think of yourself hun & YOU tell him when you want him out.

Take care

x

I can only say what every one else has, I was in your position 35 years ago with three small daughter's , I know at that time I made a complete idiot of myself screaming and shouting at them both, and then one day I realised what i was doing so pulled myself together and I would never tell you it was easy and 9 years later got together with my husband of now nearly 25 years.

It will not be easy for you but the absolutely wonderful guys and girls on this site will be your rock and will help you at every turn you make, I wish they had been around when I was going through it all as I had very few friends at that time,

Whenever i was at a really low point I would always play a recrd by Helen Ready called I am Woman in it the words say
I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'Cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again

Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to
I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

You can bend but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul

Oh, yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to
I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long, long way to go
Until I make my brother understand

Oh, yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to
I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

Good luck to you and your family

pam

our tina here comes another echo......your strengh is beyond belief you can do this.one dy & a time .

ur family off friends on here r rite behind u & u now where we are when you need us.

love & hugs fom me here 2 u there.

Hi Tina, if you are looking in here, have a good week, love, stay strong and don't let him get to you. Show him you don't need him except to do the grotty bits on the house, so you can get things sorted and your life back on track.
We are all behind you.
Lizxxxx

Hi Pam, love the words to that song!

Hi Tina, nothing to add but just want to send you support & a big (((((((HUG))))))). Stay strong.
Hilary. xx

Tina, all the wise and wonderful people on this site have said everything I would like to say. Just sending you my support and hugs. BC XXX