General Chat

Is it too much to ask for a hug and a kiss from your partner? Apparantly yes it is and we are suppose to be getting married soon if it is too much effort now what will it be like in a couple of years time?

Maybe he isn't the right man for you..................sorry to sound so cold, but if you are having problems now they need sorting out before you marry.

Oh bless you Brenda, I don't quite know what to say.......perhaps he just isn't a touchy feely sort of man, as long as he shows you affection in other ways......x

Sorry Brenda, I agree with Kitty best you get it sorted sooner rather than later :)

lolololol Sue !!! I was just picturing you as Vera Duckworth, and how she used everything imaginable to seduce Jack.......even that slinky red silk nightie.....x

Is this a 'one off' ?
or does he not like to be demonstrative in public?
have you asked him why?
I am sure he must have reasons why,
cmdx

Now I wish I'd been more diplomatic:)))

You really need to talk this through with each other and see if you can resolve it.....................I really hope you can work it out together.

Ohh Brenda love,

Is he normally like this? If so you may have to think whether you can bear the lack of affection.

If it is a one off, big hugs and dont worry,


Caz xxx

It is very necessary to sort this before you get married, or you will have years of unhappiness. This is one reason why people look for other partners as it is so miserable without some gesture of affection. I have had 90 yr old patients , now without apartner, and they say the worst part is having no one to cwtch. Sorry, cuddle! Jean

Some of us need n crave affection more than others, n some people think showing your feelings through affection isn't needed to be felt, to be known....

But........


If, when asked, you still don't get then I think there is a problem. The need to feel love is just as great as the need to be told you're loved n when either or neither of these is present the balance between the two will never be right.

Maybe there's a problem, have you tried talking..??
Has he always been like this or is it recent...??
Does he know how you feel....??

I used to look forward to my ex coming in from work everyday only to have that feeling disappear as soon as I saw his face when he walked thro the door......I could tell I wouldn't get one n to be honest I rather have gone without than have a cuddle with no feelings attached.............as I said, he's now my ex.

Love is something that needs to be felt, seen, heard n spoken.......

Wish you well :o)xx

Oh Brenda - how awful - I feel for you, I really do. When my lovely Lawrence and I met, it was a "love at first sight" experience [don't laugh - it was] and quite honestly we couldn't keep our hands off each other - too much info I know. We never actually DID anything, it was the fifties and you didn't!! - though everything but!! I think you should reassess your relationship before you go any further. Do you have a heart-stopping moment when you see him from afar - when I spotted Lawrence when we were going on a date my heart used to well nigh leap out of my chest I was so thrilled to see him. You must have those feelings or it ain't love!!!!

And by the way, now he's gone, been gone nearly six years, I have those wonderful memories to hold in my heart until I die, the first date - I see him leaning on the school wall waiting for me to walk down the road to him, the night he returned from being away for a year and half doing his National Service in Singapore, the day we married and the day he died.

Pre-Wedding nerves,??
do I .
dont I .
should I ,
shouldnt I,
,,,,,,,,,,most have had them,

Have Pm'd Brenda to see she's ok as she's not been back to thread. xx

Ann, that is so lovely to read

xx Jill

Ann,
I loved that too..
xxcmd

Ann that was lovely
Been married 33yrs july and still Kiss and cwtch
Do make for happy memories
Jenxx

yep - treasure it while you've got it I say - and without sounding like a merchant of doom, you never know what's round the corner so treasure every moment you have together. Not saying we didn't have fall-outs - we did, but never anything major and of course now I very much regret them, but hey, that's life!!

Hi,

Thank you for asking Jules but i am fine, we have had a long talk he said he was sorry that he had hurt me and said that he did love me then gave me a loving hug and kiss. He finds it hard to show his feeling but he did say he will try and change. It does not matter who you are i think now and again we all need a bit of affection.
And i hope that i have loving memories that Ann has had.
Thank you to you all for your advice and veiws

I'm really pleased for you Brenda..............always talk things through so the little niggles don't become huge problems.

I'm sure you will Brenda - some people are not too good at actually demonstrating love, they need to be taught - get teaching now!!!!