General Chat

This thread is still on my mind.

I was just thinking about when we emigrated from Liverpool in 1972.
My parents came to Canada with 2 children, me 14 and my sister 7 with $200 (100 pounds) to their name.

My Dad had a job to come to, but left job after job for other ones because they paid 25cents (10p) more an hour than the other ones. We went without a lot of the time. We never had a family holiday away because quite simply it wasn't possible.

We did however spend every Sunday at Alouette lake not too far from us. I can still remember the great times that we had even though we had no money. My parents did the best they could, and I would not trade those times and memories for anything in the world. This proves that you don't need money to enjoy yourself.

I saw how hard it was for my parents and thanked my Mum not so long ago for the sacrifices they made to enable my sister and I to have a better life.

Deb

Anyone living on the street,,looking in a house window seeing a warm fire would say look they seem to have a perfect life,..so each to their own what they see as a perfect life,

If you feel that someone seems to gloat over what they have or do then it might not always have been this way for them,?but people who have had a so called charmed life would never gloat/brag anyway as it would just be part of how they have always been used to living and not known any other so no need to broadcast it,

I think happiness is waking up every morning and counting your blessings.

My sister and I both married at the same time - I was 19 and she was 24.

My husband was a cruel bully who made my life hell (including a shotgun at my head regularly) I finally gave him the house and everything in it so that I could walk away and survive (at the time, I really thought he would kill me). I realised I was pregnant and miscarried at 5 months and had complications which meant I can't have children.

In the meantime, my sister has a wonderfull husband who loves her to bits, two lovely children, her husband works hard and she wants for nothing, she doesn't have to work and he pays all the bills without even looking at what she's spent on her credit card...

and she is the unhappies person I know.

All I've been through has made me stronger and who I am, I'm now with a partner who loves the meat off my bones and I thank God every day for such a wonderful life - I am happy and if anyones asks, I always say without hesitation that I've had a good life.

I'd do it all again to be where I am now.

Sorry - I've just given you my life story complete with tragedies over my tomato sandwich :)

I really enjoy my life & talk about it to my friends, about the family and things. I don't know if it comes across as gloating but isnt it better to be happy and proud of the good things in your life & concentrate on them than moan about the bad things? We all have things we can complain about but I'm another optimist & would hate to be one of those who keep telling others my troubles so maybe I come across as someone who thinks they have a perfect life
Don't we all think our kids our the best in the world?!
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Hello Puss,

I do question why ive had so many stresses in the past ten years and have to be careful that I count my blessings. Like you I have problems in the house, my problem with my daughter is different from yours with David I know.

If there is one thing I really want that I havent got, its a garden where i could shut the world out and have my own little bit of earth, to grow and nurture. The side of our house is by an old peoples home, I have pots and baskets but there is no privacy and some of the old people bang on windows if you so much as breathe too heavily!!

My love to you, I know how it feels when so much seems against you,

Caz xxx

the smile on my grandchildren s faces

when we meet each day

makes my life the perfect life

the rest i count my blessings as they come xxx

Hi Puss

If thats the case then what a boring time they are having

I have a wonderful life but we argue sometimes but I wouldnt swop him for all the money in the world

I have lovely grandchildren each are different one is good but one is a monkey but I love them both the same.

We very rarely go out to eat as I can cook anything and we like traditional food

But it hasnt always been this easy my hubby worked every hour he could for little money
but I dont believe that folks lives are perfect all the time

Linda xx

I think I know what you mean, Puss. When people constantly go on about how perfect their lives are etc etc. I do wonder why they have to keep reminding us! lol I love my life, but don't wish to go on about it, especially if I know others are having a tough time. XXX BC

I live in a bedsit. I have a television and computer and not much else. No gold jewellery, no car. I have worked hard all my life and, for reasons I wont go into now, have ended up on the poverty line.

But all these things are immaterial. I have complete independence and don't have to answer to anyone. I come and go as I please.
Living in London I have a freedom pass which enables me to travel anywhere in the Capital free of charge. To me this is as close to perfection as I would ever need.

If I wake up in the morning and I am breathing and feel well enough to face the day I am happy.

The most valuable things I have are good friends and money can't buy them for you:)

Jean x.

Hiya Puss

There are just two things in life that I want...one is my childrens health and the other is for happiness ...as for the rest ...not interested...xxxxxx

Awe Jean,you are so right. Perhaps we put too much emphasis on material possession rather than our personal well being.
Take care of yourself
Julia in Derbyshire

I don't think I know anyone with a perfect life either. Even the rich and famous don't appear to necessarily be any happier because of it.

I think sometimes we need the difficult and sad times to make us appreciate the happy and good ones.

Just about everyone has times when they wish they could change something about their lives. I dream of a house right by the sea and hope one day live in one like that.

But I've a lot of things to be very grateful for. On three occasions my husband has been so seriously ill that I was told he wouldn't survive the night. So three times I've known the absolute misery of how it feels to think he is dying. But he is still with me.

Caring for my sick husband meant the teaching career I had planned didn't happen but I've developed new interests I can do at home and my glass engraving is coming on nicely.

I've two lovely daughters who've grown into sensible and caring young women.

Then when I see the horrors of life for some poor souls in parts of the world affected by hunger, natural disasters, war or persecution I think none of us with homes and food should complain.

I'd still like the sea view though! LOL

Sue
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On the whole we are a contented lot aren't we?

The perfect life is a myth..

Jean ,all that glitters,,and all that, dont make for a perfect &rich life,,,~

all made interesting replies thankyou all now i know the answer will delete shrtly xx

I don't think anyone has a perfect life either but I don't think there's anything wrong with emphasising the positive stuff
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Frankie ....yep agree....but I don't know about you but I can't be doing with people that look down their noses at yeh...or think they are.....

Hayley, me neither, can't stand snobs or moaners
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Well folks, I am off to my *perfect* bed.

I could bet that there are many many better than mine, but they are not in my bedroom. ;-0)

Goodnight all you lucky lovely peeps.

And Puss, David is a good lad, and he will be fine. XX

Deanna X

Puss

The question is....is your cup half full or half empty ?

if your cup is half empty, it may appear to you that those who are having a happier time at the moment in life are boasting, as you are viewing them or their actions in a negative way, (If you are having a hard time its difficult seeing those who are happy)

It doesnt mean that those people are not having tough times as well, its just they are trying not to dwell on them, and its unfair to pass judgement because they appear to be happier than you at present.

I for one am pleased to see people having happy times and speaking about it on the board.

It lifts the mood, and far better then grumbling about that half empty cup .
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