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Another blow for Dutch. Nudged for Dutch today

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dutch Report 12 Nov 2010 13:25

Thanks Caz ,undertaker phoned me back and said he was sorry it was there fault that my son was allowed to take the ashes and i told him what was going on,and he said her children are her next of kin not the others and that the g,father had no right to buy aplot so now just have to wait and see i have done my best ,and he has Danni,s number so he can ring her i told him what the daughters of my daughter wanted but my son who was always close to me is now siding with his father who he cant stand ,the reason Money so im done with the lot of them and i dont care if they dont speak to me ,i have done whats right for my g,daughters talk to you tomorrow


YorkshireCaz Report 12 Nov 2010 13:58

Joyce love, let it go, you have done all you can and are only getting yourself upset by it all. M must know he is in the wrong and I am surprised by what he has done but someone else might be behind it so don't think too badly of him until you know the facts.
Speak tomorrow.

Love Caz xx


Sallie Report 12 Nov 2010 18:34

Oh Joyce, I'm so sorry to hear about Jan's cousin's wife. Thinking of Jan and his family.

You have done all you can about your daughter's ashes, Joyce. As Caz said, your son must know that he's in the wrong, but someone else might be behind it. That's probably how it is, so wait and see until you know the facts, because sooner or later they will come out.

So, please don't make yourself ill over it all, you have done your best and can't do no more. You have to put you and Jan first now Joyce, you are the important ones.

Take care!

Love and best wishes to both of you.


Cath2010 Report 12 Nov 2010 18:56

Joyce, please take care of yourself. This is all so stressful for you and you must look after your own health.
Hopefully a solicitor might be able to help you out.
Thinking of you,

Cath xx

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 13 Nov 2010 07:31

Joyce, those ashes were going to be spread on the Mersey at first, so they would have gone to the water and the wind. They aren't your daughter, her soul has long gone to a better place and this is just not worth making yourself more unwell over.

Leave them to argue amongst themselves if they must, what goes around comes around and you have done all you can to help all the family - leave them to it now and look after yourself and Jan.

I am sorry you have more bad news about relatives, you look after Jan and his Mum and let them help you in return.



JustJean Report 13 Nov 2010 09:01

Joyce, I agree with Liz, you must let go now,you cannot carry all the troubles on your back , time for you and Jan to enjoy each other and whatever happens, your family will exsist with or without your help...shake this load off your shoulders and be happy , we all need to count our blessings however large or small. take care my friend....

love and prayers, Jean xxx


AnninGlos Report 13 Nov 2010 09:15

Nothing more I can add Joyce, there is a lot of good advice on here. Please listen to your friends.


YorkshireCaz Report 30 Apr 2011 19:26

Nudging this for Joyce, hope it is the one you meant Joyce, took ages to find.

Love Caz xx

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 1 May 2011 04:31

I spoke with Joyce yesterday afternoon and she is in lots of pain but anxiously and excitedly waiting for news of her latest great grandson's birth. I am sure she will be cheered when she hears he is safely here, especially now he has turned round and is facing the right way, with his head down and ready to appear if he hasn't already since we spoke.

The results of her daughter's inquest will have set her mind at rest a bit, so hopefully things will become a little more peaceful for Joyce, and she can enjoy her visit in three week's time and the meet with her new grandson as well as the meet with other members of GR.