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Rambling Rose

Rambling Rose Report 15 Jul 2011 20:33

nudging this back to the top, because i think it is time GR did something about reinstating the original post!


Lindsey* Report 16 Jul 2011 02:16

In the absence of clear guidelines from GR, could we agree only to steer people to other sites , not provide actual records ?

From the onset I did ask GR that a list of usual places to look should be at the head of the LR board ,
We can't see or know the motives of posters , most are genuine, but I would feel responsible if it all went wrong.


jax Report 16 Jul 2011 02:56

I agree Lindsey

I would rather say try plus all the other usual places then see address's and phone numbers just given out willy nilly. I know I would'nt like it if my address was just handed out without a second thought



Flick Report 16 Jul 2011 12:15

There are a couple of threads (both added by the same poster) currently near the top of this board, which are a good example of the kind of request it would be better not to try to fulfil, other than to guide the poster in the direction of the online sites which could be my opinion, anyway.


Lindsey* Report 16 Jul 2011 13:31

Any responsible person should not supply names. addresses and phone numbers for living people.

There is no way we can be certain that this will be used for the good, and could quite possibly be harmful.
Of course we like to be amateur sleuths, but we also need to respect the fact that some people do not want to be found.

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby Report 16 Jul 2011 17:22

Hi All

I really wish genes would re instate the opening post on this thread

Because i have just read a couple of threads and to see information being given with out even people asking some simple questions first quite alarming infact quite worrying

Because just to give out information without even knowing the reasons why the search is taking place or in fact why the want the information could lead to heart ache for everyone concerned

In fact for example to put A in touch with B is this wise as sadly unless you have met the poster who is searching then the reasons are not known

I mean there could a be a genuine real reason / legal reason why A is not allowed contact with B

Hope this make sense


Lindsey* Report 16 Jul 2011 17:59

I get the feeling that GR think if they ignore a problem it will go away on it's own, but I remember your duplicate thread debate Ice , where we all agreed to tell people nicely they had made a mistake.
That certainly worked , so the same can be applied to not giving out living details , on the board or by PM ,on FR , if we all agree ?

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby Report 16 Jul 2011 18:08

Hi Lindsey

Thank you mate i am not surprised Chrissie put this up

Because as stated above i am not only surprised but i am also quite horrified by how easy the information is being given


Petef Report 17 Jul 2011 09:49



chrissiex Report 17 Jul 2011 17:13

because the two posts I put on the first page were both reinstated after they were reported before the first one was reported again

I am going to assume that the first post was also acceptable and repost it here

the final line is important to what I was trying to say

not all living relatives requests are 'genuine'

I recently receive a message about a request posted here

I had been a little concerned about it so a related person contacted me to inform me

the person who posted the search was acting in very bad faith

that person knew the history and the reasons for the estrangement and that there were serious reasons not to contact the person sought

but of course did not inform the members of this website of any of that

the person was provided with contact information before the family became aware of the situation and had the message here deleted

please be careful, fellow helpers, especially when someone is looking for a relative of a young age, even if an 'adult'

there is no point in saying in this post 'please do not try to deceive us when you request help here'

but maybe genesreunited should include an instruction to posters not to post here if their situation has involved any kind of legal case in the past .....

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby Report 17 Jul 2011 21:11

Hi Chrissie

Nudged again this seriously needs to be at the top of this board

Is it possible to get this thread stickied as sadly i dont know how you do it

 Sue In Yorkshire.

Sue In Yorkshire. Report 17 Jul 2011 22:40

Have mailed GR Team about having it done as a sticky to keep it at the top of the board.

 Sue In Yorkshire.

Sue In Yorkshire. Report 17 Jul 2011 23:34

nudge to bring it bacjk to the very top....


Lisa Report 18 Jul 2011 12:38

Back to to where this should be !! :-P


jax Report 18 Jul 2011 14:31

I see Lisa's post has been reported too, which I think only said "Back where it belongs" it is pretty obvious now who is doing this I would think?



Lisa Report 18 Jul 2011 14:39

What is wrong with saying "Back where it belongs"??? Who could possibly take offence at that???? I give up :-(

Rambling Rose

Rambling Rose Report 18 Jul 2011 16:22

I've just sent this to support

Re Chrissiex's thread on LR board,

her first post has been reported as abuse AGAIN, despite having been reinstated by yourselves on TWO occasions.. It is a good post and deserves to be kept on the board without this constant malicious campaign to remove it! Please sticky it , it is providing excellent advice to both seekers and helpers... some of whom really DO need to read it. Thankyou .

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby Report 18 Jul 2011 16:29

Hi All

Just to say i have also shown both support for Chrissie and this thread

I also feels it needs to be stickied and action taken regarding the number of times the opening post has been re -instated and within minutes request reviewed again

I have sent a pm to someone at genes reunited regarding this and i am currently awaiting a response

As soon as i have had a response i will gladly let you know

Unless of course in the mean time Genes take the correct action of which members want to see

And the opening post re - instated and also stickied and more importantly they keep an eye to see who keeps pressing the request review button

Because someone is clearly pressing the button in my opinion for no reason as the posts request reviewed had nothing on them to warrant that course of action

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby

Ice ~ Ice ~ Baby Report 18 Jul 2011 16:36

Hi All

Just to say thank you genes Reunited for re - instating the opening post and putting all the replies back on this thread

I am also glad to see you are clearly looking at this

Thank you


Lisa Report 18 Jul 2011 20:21