General Chat

Which will you specify for when you 'move on'. Funeral this week and it is flowers only - first time in years we have not had a request for donations.

Me - well my lot know it is one spray of freesias and then the RNLI. They can go to supermarket and get the spray!!!!!!

I'D RATHER HAVE FLOWERS WHILE IM ALIVE
BUT DONT GET ANY UNLESS I BUY THEM
MYSELF

Like Dizzi I would also rather have flowers while I am alive.

talking of which..........
did you see grandads' funeral on bbc last night? Mrs Browns' boys......

I do not mind what they do when I am dead, I believe our soul goes to heaven and that the body left behind is just an empty shell, however I suppose donation's would be better, at least someone else is getting some benefit out of the money and flowers just die.

My mother only wanted Flowers picked from our gardens and wild ones , she never ever wanted our money wasted...

And she got her wish as she died in June they were mainly Roses.......just as you picked them scattered all around , it looked lovely .
Even now we all take our flowers from our garden throughout the year and place them on her grave for her anniversary's ........so simple but nice .

Marilyn.

Flowers. We didn't specify for either parent but I know that flowers for mum meant a lot to my dad and were a great comfort to him. Likewise for my siblings and I when our dad passed, the grave was covered with floral tributes and the air was heavy with their scent. It was beautiful.

I think a lot of people are unsure whether 'family flowers only' excludes extended family and some very good friends are often closer to the deceased than the relatives. I'd rather see 'flowers OR donations to ....' giving mourners the choice.

I want flowers. It's not as if charities haven't benifitted from me while living.

When my mum died I didn't suggest either , just told everyone that what she would like is for them to "go out and have a nice tea and a cream cake", her words lol.

So when I go I will be happy if people do the same :) or if they feel so inclined plant something in their garden in memory.

I'd prefer flowers..having been to a couple of funerals where none permitted, it seemed a bit bare or lonely (only my opinion of course)..I so love the smell of fresias and tuberoses....

Just sat here watching the birds help themselves to the contents of the bird-feeder I set up for them.

I wonder what their answer would be to this conundrum - flowers or no flowers?

One of my teachers left his body for science research.

I think I would prefer to have flowers at my funeral. I feel I have given plenty to charities along the years.

For my Dad's funeral we suggested the choice, flowers, or donations to a specific local rescue association which Dad had donated to over the years. There were flowers, mostly from direct family, but seeing as the best part of £250 went to that charity in donations (acknowledged by the funeral directors) and we never got a thank you from them (the rescue association), in hindsight I think I'd have preferred to see Dad's grave covered in flowers.
Bitter? I get so angry when people do not say thank you.

K

I like flowers at funerals. People seem to be quite snotty about flowers these days - there was a discussion on another website I use about this and I hadn't realised that some types of tributes are now considered tasteless or that fewer flowers is considered more tasteful. All very odd to me - I think each to their own - flowers are lovely and as someone said, it looks very bare without. Not to mention tight fisted:)

I like flowers up to a point, but DON'T like teddies, balloons, or any other non-degradable stuff. As for me, I really don't care as I won't be there to complain!

The funeral director pointed out that after the service any flowers would be thrown in the bin basically, as it was a cremation, that seemed awful to me , not because of the waste of money but because of the waste of beauty.

Is that right? Fewer flowers is considered more tasteful? Hmmm, very odd to me too Uggers.
The more flowers the better, in my estimation!

Rose,
Flowers at crems have to be taken away as there is limited space.
Of the crems I've been to (I hope that doesn't seem too Blanche Hunt lol) family have taken their flowers home to enjoy.

I have only ever taken one posy back and given to the family and that was because I had not bought my dear friend flowers for her funeral but for her birthday which happened to be that day and they appreciated that.

Many years ago I worked as a nurse in a geriatric hospital & we always knew when there had been a local funeral by the beautiful flowers that appeared, donated by the families. Maybe a bit tactless considering, but better than seeing them rot away on a grave.
Give me flowers any day.
Marion

When my friend died there were lots of Flowers So Instead of putting some on his grave I sent his wife a Bunch of Roses ( His Favourite ones) with the message ,Toms got his and these are for you, I,m sure he would want you to have them(.He bought her Flowers every week).**M**.

Thats lovely Merlin